Nollywood star Jim Iyke recently opened up about his challenges in forming lasting friendships.
He explained that he struggles to connect with people who hold onto grudges and prefers relationships with those who focus on the present.
Speaking on Teju Babyface’s “Deep Dive” podcast, Iyke discussed how his continuous personal growth makes it hard for some to keep up.
He mentioned that he values friends who understand his evolving nature and don’t get upset if they don’t hear from him for weeks.
Iyke emphasized that he’s not the type of friend who will be constantly available or remember every occasion.
“We don’t dwell on emotions. We simply don’t have the time for it. That’s why I can’t cultivate friendships with just anyone.
“I require someone who isn’t fixated on my past actions. I’m constantly evolving, and my rate of growth is too rapid for most to keep up with. Who I was yesterday is not who I am today. Not everyone can adapt to that. I need someone who won’t be offended if I don’t contact them for weeks on end.”
He continued, “There was a time I went without contacting a friend for four months, and neither did he reach out to me. It didn’t bother us. But when we do connect, it’s meaningful. I don’t seek a friend who expects my presence every day. It’s simply impractical because I won’t always be available for every occasion.”
“I might miss your child’s birthday or your anniversary. When you face challenges, I might not be the first person you think to reach out to. However, when I sense that you genuinely need me, I’ll move mountains to support you. In essence, you determine the type of friends you want in your life.”
However, he stressed that when he does connect with someone, it’s meaningful, and he will go to great lengths to support them when they need him.
Ultimately, he believes that the kind of friends you have in life is a reflection of your own values and priorities.