Veteran highlife musician and television host Akosua Agyaponghas taken a swipe at pastors she believes are being dishonest about premarital sex.
Speaking on JoyPrime TV on April 10, 2025, during a discussion about sex before marriage, Agyapong accused some church leaders of acting contrary to their own teachings.
She claimed that while some pastors are involved in intimate relationships with their choristers and ushers, they still preach against fornication.
“Some pastors have already slept with their choristers and ushers. But when a man comes to marry them, the same pastor will say, ‘No sex before marriage!’” she said.
Agyapong questioned why such pastors still hold influence over their congregations, despite their actions contradicting their messages.
“You can call them fake, but to their congregations, they’re not. If they practised what they preached, I wouldn’t have a problem. But they should stop lying to their members,” she added.
Her comments come shortly after she stirred controversy by encouraging unmarried people to consider premarital sex.
She believes testing sexual compatibility is important for a successful marriage and helps reduce cases of infidelity and divorce.
“Fornication involves consenting adults, but adultery breaks marriages. Sometimes, we make Christianity too hard, people should worship God in truth, not under false restrictions,” she said.
Romance isn’t about grand gestures or physical intimacy—it’s about being intentional in showing love and care. If your relationship relies solely on physical aspects, you might be missing out on building a strong emotional foundation.
When people think of romance they often associate it with physical intimacy. However, romance is more about showing love and care in meaningful ways that build emotional connections.
Romance isn’t about grand gestures or physical intimacy—it’s about being intentional in showing love and care.
If your relationship relies solely on physical aspects, you might be missing out on building a strong emotional foundation.
Here are 10 romantic gestures to deepen your bond and bring lasting joy to your relationship—without focusing on sex.
Romantic Nicknames to Strengthen Your Bond
Create a special connection with your partner by using unique names like “Honey,” “Sweetheart,” or “Darling.” These nicknames convey love and make your relationship feel one of a kind.
How Cooking Together Can Deepen Your Relationship
Cooking as a team allows you to collaborate, share laughter, and create something special together. Whether it’s trying a new recipe or baking a favorite treat, the experience strengthens your bond.
Plan Heartfelt Dates in Intimate Settings
Choose cozy, quiet places where you can talk openly and enjoy each other’s company. Dates that involve meaningful conversations help build emotional intimacy.
Write Heartfelt Notes or Letters
Handwritten notes or love letters are a timeless way to express your feelings. In a digital age, reading a personal note adds a touch of romance and shows effort.
Take Walks While Holding Hands
Something as simple as a walk while holding hands can beincredibly romantic. It’s an easy way to stay connected while enjoying each other’s presence.
Publicly Celebrate Your Partner
Praising your partner in front of friends, family, or on social media shows appreciation and respect. Ensure your actions in private align with your public praise to maintain authenticity.
Pray or Meditate Together
Strengthen your emotional and spiritual bond by sharing prayers or moments of meditation. Supporting each other spiritually is one of the most profound ways to connect.
Surprise Your Partner with Thoughtful Gifts
Send a small parcel, handwritten card, or meaningful gift to surprise your partner. Unwrapping a gift from someone you love creates lasting memories and joy.
Relive Your Love Story
Take time to revisit how you met and your journey as a couple. Share these stories with each other—or even with your children—to relive the moments that brought you together.
Have Meaningful Pillow Talks
Cuddle up and talk about your dreams, challenges, and emotions. Vulnerable and honest conversations like these foster trust and strengthen your connection.
For couples with children, or those in long-term relationships, maintaining romance beyond physical intimacy is crucial. By making small, thoughtful gestures, you can keep the spark alive and deepen your love for each other.
Romance is the glue thatstrengthens relationships. By incorporating these thoughtful and non-sexual gestures, you’ll create a love that is deep, meaningful, and lasting.
A 16-year-old female student at Mpraeso Senior High School (SHS) in the Eastern area is allegedly the victim of gang rape, leading to the arrest of five pupils.
Currently on the run are three additional students who participated in the act.
The victim described her encounter, saying that a male student called her as she was leaving the canteen with her buddy to get lunch.
While approaching him, she saw seven other male students also walk towards them.
According to her, she is not aware of the conversation the suspects had with her friend but she abandoned her as the suspects forcibly had sex with her.
The incident she said occurred on Sunday and there was nobody around to offer help.
“I have been to the hospital for the necessary check up and I want the suspects to face the full rigorous of the law,” she stated.
The headmaster, James Affadu, verified the incident during an interview with Adom News.
Mr. Affadu stated that the disciplinary committee has expelled all eight boys and referred the case to the police for further investigation and appropriate measures.
In the meantime, the Nkwatia Divisional Police Command has not yet processed the suspects for court prosecution.
Efia Odo has responded to various rumors surrounding her departure from the restaurant.
The socialite noted that some individuals alleged the restaurant owner discovered her in a compromising situation with Medikal’s manager, which supposedly escalated the problems that led to her leaving.
While she acknowledged that Kofi Jam, Medikal’s manager, was indeed present at the restaurant, she refuted any claims of inappropriate behavior between them.
“One instance Medikal’s manager came there. They said my co-owner saw me chopping the guy at the restaurant. Like how?” she quizzed.
Efia further explained that her friendly demeanour is often misinterpreted as sex appeal.
“I am someone who welcomes everyone. I am very hospitable and sociable. I will flirt with my customers because the more I flirt, the more money comes. I do it to both males and females just to let them know that I am not a welcoming person,” she stated.
Efia Odo also remembered facing accusations of having an affair with the restaurant owner due to her frequent stays in his nearby apartment.
While she confirmed that she did stay there, she stressed that their relationship was purely platonic, with no romantic involvement.
She described the restaurant owner as an uncle, even referring to him in that manner.
Regarding the impact of these rumours on her, she added, “A lot of this gossip affected me; I am human.”
Relationship Coach Reverend Daniel Annan has stated that it is natural for men to feel uneasy when they abstain from sexual activities.
During a conversation about infidelity on Joy Prime’s Prime Morning, covered by MyNewsGh.com, he mentioned that it is crucial for a woman to understand what will keep a man committed and prevent him from cheating.
“When you want doves to come to your house, all you have to do is to make your water sweet. They will always come there. ” He likened it to a relationship
He explained that to keep a man in a relationship, a woman must first offer him the highest level of respect.
He also added that men are attracted to women who are supportive and who maintain a satisfying sexual relationship.
“We cannot survive without sex as men. We will die”, he said amid laughter.
A 39-year-old man has been arrested by UK authorities on suspicion of engaging in sexual activities with minors.
A viral video shows officials confronting and interrogating the individual identified as Ishmael Mohammed who becomes emotional when presented with evidence of his alleged actions.
“I don’t know what to do again; please arrest me,” he stated.
The video of his arrest was reportedly first posted online in February 2024.
While admitting to engaging with the girls and travelling for five hours to meet one of them, Ishmael denied having any malicious intent towards the children.
“Why did you arrange to meet her then? Why did you ask for pictures just in her pants? And you were going to buy her a new phone just to have better pictures?” a male interrogator is heard saying.
“So you’ve asked for indecent images of a child as well,” the female official also adds.
A 39-year-old Ghanaian, Ishmael Mohammed, has been arrested by UK authorities for eng@ging in s£×ual chats with two 14-year-old g!rls and one 13-year-old g!rl, asking for their private pictures.
Note that the individual is presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law.
Similar to Ghana, the legal age for sexual consent in the UK is 16 years. Therefore, it is considered an offense to engage in sex or sexual activity with a child under the age of 16.
The punishment for underage sex in the UK varies depending on factors such as the age gap, and it can range up to life imprisonment, as the act is considered statutory rape.
It varies significantly among individuals and is crucial to understand for acknowledging and respecting the various manifestations of human sexuality. Here’s a primer on asexual individuals.
Definition
Asexual (Ace): Someone who does not experience sexual attraction to others, although they might still participate in romantic relationships. Asexuality is not a choice or a condition, but rather a natural orientation, much like other sexual orientations.
Spectrum of asexuality
Asexuality is not a monolithic experience; it exists on a spectrum that includes different identities, such as:
Graysexual: Individuals who might only experience sexual attraction under specific circumstances.
Demisexual: Those who only experience sexual attraction after forming a deep emotional bond with someone.
Both of these identities fall under the broader umbrella of the asexual spectrum, emphasizing the variety in people’s experiences with sexual attraction.
Common misconceptions
Asexuality is often misunderstood. Here are some common misconceptions:
Lack of sexual activity: Being asexual does not necessarily mean abstaining from sex. Asexual people may have sex for various reasons, including to please a partner or to have children.
A temporary phase: Asexuality is not something that necessarily changes over time. It’s a valid orientation, not a phase or something that a person will “overcome.”
Result of trauma or health issues: While these factors can influence sexual desire, asexuality itself is not caused by them. It is a legitimate orientation, not a disorder or a consequence of trauma.
Romantic relationships
Asexual people might still engage in romantic relationships, and these relationships are as varied as those of sexually active people. Asexual people might identify as:
Heteroromantic: Romantic attraction to people of a different gender.
Homoromantic: Romantic attraction to people of the same gender.
Biromantic or Panromantic: Romantic attraction to multiple or all genders.
Challenges faced
Asexual people often face certain social and psychological challenges, such as:
Invisibility: Asexuality is less well-known and often isn’t included in discussions about sexual orientation.
Invalidation: Common societal expectations about relationships and sex can lead to the invalidation of asexual identities.
Pressure: There can be pressure to conform to societal norms, which may lead to stress or anxiety for asexual individuals.
Advocacy and community
The asexual community has grown, especially with the rise of social media and online platforms, which provide spaces for asexual people to connect, share experiences, and advocate for recognition and rights.
Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) is one prominent organization that plays a crucial role in educating people about asexuality and providing resources and support for asexual individuals.
Asexuality is a complex and legitimate orientation, encompassing a wide range of experiences. Recognizing and respecting asexual identities is crucial in fostering an inclusive society where all forms of sexual orientation are acknowledged and valued.
As awareness grows, so does understanding, leading to greater acceptance and support for asexual people in both personal and public spheres.
‘Period sex’—just hearing the term might make you grimace. But hear us out.
Many people avoid period sex because they perceive it as unhygienic.
And, to be fair, it can be. The discomfort of menstrual cramps radiating through your lower back and thighs can be off-putting.
Yet, surprisingly, period sex can actually be enjoyable, sometimes even more so than usual.
On the recent episode of ‘Moans and Cuddles’ on GhanaWeb TV, host Patricia Rockson Hammond welcomed family and sex therapist Princessa Aggrey to explore how period sex can be a pleasurable experience, complete with some unexpected benefits.
How to get enjoyable sex during your period
1. “I will recommend you have sex in the shower. If you’re scared of seeing blood, the water helps wash away the blood,” Princessa says.
In addition to the soothing feeling of water on your skin, bathing also plays a crucial role in maintaining hygiene. It can help alleviate menstrual cramps.
2. “If you really want to enjoy period sex, don’t have it on the first and second days. It should be on the third and fourth days. That’s when you’ll enjoy it. Because when you bathe, the period won’t come down immediately.”
Benefits
Reduces cramps
The most annoying part of the period is the cramps associated with it. What if you learned that period sex can reduce cramps?
“It would reduce the cramps that you have and would also give you free lubrication,” Princessa adds.
Helps with conception
Yes, sex during a lady’s period can help her conceive. However, this depends on whether the woman is the type that ovulates during her period.
“I’ve had cases where the couple didn’t have a child for some years, but when they tried period sex, the woman conceived, and when they tracked it, they found out that they had sex during the third and fourth days of seeing her period, and that was when the woman conceived,” Princessa explains.
In all, period sex may be icky, but you and your partner can work together to turn it into a wondrous experience.
Do you turn off the lights or at least dim them as soon as you get into bed with your partner? Lots of people do this.
Sex with the lights on is not as often practiced as frolicking in the dark. At least statistics show that men prefer the first option, while women choose less light and more climate.
Whatever the reason, it’s worth breaking the routine, and making love more often when it’s bright in the bedroom has many advantages that we often underestimate.
Sex, during which everything is visible, has many advantages. It is worth practicing for many reasons.
Better communication
When the light remains on during sex, it is easier to read and understand your partner’s reactions. The full view will tell the truth and show you what you like and what you don’t necessarily like. Facial expressions and body reactions reveal more than words. This, in turn, allows for better communication and greater satisfaction from sex.
Increasing closeness
Here’s another advantage of making love in a bright room. Seeing your partner engage in a sexual act gives you a greater sense of physical closeness and emotional connection. You can look deeply into each other’s eyes, which gives you a sense of security and strengthens the relationship.
Feeling satisfied
In the dark, it is difficult to observe the achievement of pleasure. Sex with the lights on is arousing because it allows you to notice nuances such as a grimace on your face, goosebumps, or pulsating arteries in your neck. Nothing beats the satisfaction of seeing your partner orgasm.
Less risk of injury
Various statistics and surveys show that most sexually active people have suffered one or more injuries during intercourse. Falling out of bed, and hitting your hand or head on the headboard is not uncommon. With the light on, there is less chance that someone will hurt themselves during bed acrobatics. It’s simpler here – seeing everything around you makes it easier to avoid possible injury.
Greater self-confidence
Even though turning on the light exposes your body, it doesn’t have to be embarrassing. For many people, sex with the lights on allows them to feel comfortable and attractive, without maintaining unnecessary appearances and pretenses. This, in turn, can increase your self-confidence in the bedroom.
Better body knowledge
A detailed view of the body allows it to be observed and examined. You can find out which techniques give the greatest pleasure or how the body reacts to a given caress.
Feeling comfortable
Turning on the light while zooming in can be comfortable because you can see what’s going on around you. This increases control over the situation and gives a sense of security.
A woman bravely shared her distressing ordeal of experiencing an unusual occurrence every time she engages in sexual intercourse with her husband.
Speaking on TV3’s Confession Show, she revealed that whenever her husband ejaculates during intercourse, he also defecates on himself.
The woman explained that her husband admitted to being unable to control this bodily function when he reaches climax due to overwhelming excitement. Despite her husband’s attempts to use the restroom before intercourse, the problem persists, albeit in smaller amounts.
Feeling helpless and exhausted by unsuccessful attempts to resolve the issue, the woman admitted to considering leaving her husband. However, her hesitation stems from her commitment to their two children.
A woman describes the unpleasant experience of her spouse pooping on the bed whenever he ejaculates during their sexual encounters.#Confessionspic.twitter.com/SgFdBTb7rC
Renowned Afrobeats artist Oluwatobiloba Daniel Anidugbe, also known as Kizz Daniel, surprised his fans with frank revelations during a recent Q&A session on X.
Fielding questions from his followers, Kizz Daniel candidly discussed various aspects of his personal life. When asked about the number of women he had been with, the “Buga” singer boldly replied, “67.”
In response to another query about his favorite childhood song, Kizz Daniel fondly recalled “Kerewa – Zulezu” as his top choice.
During another intriguing exchange, a fan inquired about his earnings for the day, prompting Kizz Daniel to reveal, “285m.”
These revelations emerged during an engaging interaction between Kizz Daniel and his fans on the social media platform X, formerly known as Twitter, on February 24, 2024.
In a culture where discussions about sexual activity are commonplace, opting for abstinence may appear as a less conventional path.
Nevertheless, for diverse reasons, some men opt to abstain from sexual activity for periods in their lives.
This decision, deeply personal and occasionally intricate, can impact a man’s body in various ways. Let’s delve into what occurs when a man chooses to take a break from sexual activities.
Emotional and psychological well-being
Initially, abstinence can deeply influence a man’s emotional and psychological welfare. Contrary to popular belief, consciously choosing abstinence can foster heightened self-esteem and a sense of command over one’s life decisions.
Moreover, it can alleviate the stress linked with sexual relationships, including concerns regarding sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancies.
However, it’s crucial to acknowledge that this experience varies significantly among individuals. Some may find abstaining challenging and experience sensations of solitude or frustration, underscoring the significance of a supportive social network and healthy outlets for emotional expression.
Physical health alterations
On the physical front, abstinence does not induce any severe health complications. In fact, it eliminates the risk of STIs, which constitutes a notable advantage.
Nevertheless, some men may encounter physiological alterations, such as fluctuations in libido or changes in erectile function due to the absence of sexual activity.
It’s imperative to recognize that these changes are generally transient and resolve over time or upon resuming sexual activity.
Impact on prostate health
The influence of abstinence on prostate health has been a subject of discourse among healthcare practitioners.
Certain studies propose that regular ejaculation might diminish the risk of prostate cancer, although the evidence remains inconclusive.
Nonetheless, it’s essential to note that abstinence does not directly precipitate poor prostate health. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, which includes regular exercise and a balanced diet, remains crucial for prostate and overall well-being.
Choosing abstinence is a deeply personal decision that can elicit diverse effects on a man’s body and psyche.
While it may lead to specific physical and emotional changes, it also offers advantages such as a reduced risk of STIs and opportunities for personal development.
Similar to any lifestyle choice, it’s imperative to contemplate the motivations behind this decision and ensure that it aligns with one’s values and life circumstances.
Reports have it that some young girls in the coastal community of Half Assini in the Jomoro district are offering their bodies to unscrupulous men in exchange for fish.
In a report by JoyNews sighted by The Independent Ghana, girls from poor backgrounds who try to support their families financially reach out to fishermen who make significant catch for some fish. There, some men are said to propose sex for fish and due to the current status of their families, the girls accept the terms and conditions.
According to indigenes, this practice is termed as “fish for sex”.
As such, teenage pregnancy and single-parenting are prevalent in the Jomoro District
Deputy Manager of the Jomoro Fisheries Commission, Irene Obeng, confirmed the practice in the district.
“The girls are young so the fishermen take advantage 9f the situation and have sex with them. Fish for sex happens here a lot,” she said.
Semenyo Maxwell, a fisherman with over a decade experience told JoyNews “everybody will be struggling for the fish so if you can assist the one who is there and you add something, he will also give. The batter system. Give me fish, I give you sex.”
‘Fish For Sex’: Some girls in the coastal community of Half Assini in the Jomoro district beg for fish and return the favour with sex. #JoyNewspic.twitter.com/zIwAR62WSd
A recent survey by the Ghana Statistical Service has revealed a concerning trend: 7 out of 10 men aged 15-49 in Ghana do not use condoms during sexual activities.
This revelation not only highlights attitudes towards condom usage but also raises alarms about potential implications for public health, particularly regarding HIV/AIDS transmission.
Understanding the Landscape of Condom Use
The survey paints a clear picture of current sexual health practices among Ghanaian men. The reluctance or refusal to use condoms indicates gaps in sexual health education and accessibility challenges.
In a country still grappling with HIV/AIDS, addressing the reasons behind low condom usage is crucial.
Impact on HIV/AIDS Spread
The connection between low condom usage and rising HIV/AIDS cases cannot be ignored. Condoms are a proven method for preventing HIV transmission and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Without widespread and consistent use, the fight against HIV/AIDS in Ghana faces significant challenges.
Urgent Need for Comprehensive Strategies
The survey underscores the need for comprehensive strategies to combat HIV/AIDS spread, focusing on education, accessibility, and stigma reduction.
Education as a Powerful Tool
Enhanced sexual health education is essential in changing behaviors and perceptions. Initiatives should dispel myths and promote the importance of condom use in preventing HIV/AIDS.
Improving Condom Accessibility
Ensuring affordable and readily available condoms nationwide, including in remote areas, is crucial. Government, NGOs, and the private sector must collaborate to achieve this goal.
Addressing Cultural and Social Stigmas
Cultural and social stigmas often deter individuals from using condoms and seeking HIV/AIDS prevention measures. Normalizing conversations about sexual health and engaging community leaders can help change societal attitudes.
A Call to Action
The survey findings call for collective action from stakeholders involved in public health and HIV/AIDS prevention. By prioritizing education, accessibility, and stigma reduction, Ghana can work towards a healthier future free from the burden of HIV/AIDS.
It’s a shared responsibility that requires the involvement of the entire society to safeguard the well-being of all Ghanaians.
A woman living with HIV/AIDS has confessed to having unprotected sex with multiple partners despite being aware of her status. She attributes this risky behavior to coping with the grief of losing her husband and five children to the disease. While expressing guilt, she reveals that engaging in prostitution is her only means of livelihood.
The woman fears disclosing her status to her sexual partners due to potential consequences such as rejection, stigma, or loss of income. She is apprehensive that her neighbors might spread the news, jeopardizing her livelihood.
Dr. Steve Kyeremeh Atuahene, the Director General of the Ghana AIDS Commission, deems her actions dangerous and illegal. He emphasizes that knowingly spreading HIV is a prosecutable offense under Ghanaian law. Dr Atuahene urges those living with HIV to prioritize prevention, treatment, and responsible behavior.
The incident sheds light on broader challenges in HIV/AIDS prevention and awareness in Ghana. The latest demographic survey by the Ghana Statistical Service indicates a significant increase in new HIV infections, categorizing the country as one facing a fast-track infection rate. Out of 16,574 new infections in 2022, females accounted for 10,927 cases, while males accounted for 5,647.
Dr Atuahene points out that same-sex relationships, deemed illegal in Ghana, contribute to the spread of the virus. He underscores the importance of treatment, urging those living with HIV to adhere to preventive measures and avoid risky behavior.
This revelation highlights the need for intensified efforts in HIV/AIDS education, destigmatization, and support for those affected. The intersection of health, social, and economic factors underscores the complexity of addressing such challenges and the importance of a comprehensive approach in mitigating the impact of HIV/AIDS in Ghana.
Pope Francis said that God gave us the gift of sexual pleasure, and we should use it carefully and with patience.
He also said that watching pornography can lead to addiction because it gives pleasure without a real relationship.
The Pope was talking to a lot of people in the Vatican on Wednesday.
The sermon was about the Pope talking about the bad things caused by wanting too much pleasure.
The pope said that desire for sex ruins relationships between people and he also said that the news every day shows this.
“He asked how many good relationships have turned bad over time. ”
The Pope said this a few days after his new chief of teaching, Cardinal Victor Manuel Fernández, was criticized for a book he wrote and published in the late 1990s called Mystical Passion: Spirituality and Sensuality.
The book is no longer available to buy. It talked about sex and gave a lot of details about how men and women feel during orgasms. Cardinal Fernández talked to a Catholic website called Crux and said he wrote the book when he was younger, and he definitely wouldn’t write it now.
Some people who have traditional views have criticized the book and said it was unsuitable for Cardinal Fernández to be in charge of the Dicastery for the Doctrine of the Faith.
Pope Francis and Cardinal Fernández have upset conservative Catholic people before.
In December, Cardinal Fernández made a new rule that allows priests to bless same-sex couples. Pope Francis also agreed with this rule.
Even though Cardinal Fernández said the position doesn’t make same-sex couples okay in the Catholic Church, many conservatives still think it’s a problem.
Cardinal Gerhard Müller, who was in charge of the Church’s teachings under Pope Benedict XVI, strongly criticized the Vatican’s document. Cardinal Müller said online that a priest blessing a gay union would be a very disrespectful and offensive thing to do.
“Cardinal Müller said that according to the rules for this kind of blessings, people could even give blessings to places like abortion clinics or groups like the mafia. ”
Leaders from all over the world spoke out against the decision. This includes conservative Americans who have always been against the Pope’s plans to change the Catholic Church.
Tensions got really bad when the Pope kicked a US Cardinal, Raymond Burke, out of his apartment at the Vatican and stopped paying him.
The notion that frequent sex alone can entirely prevent prostate cancer oversimplifies a complex health issue.
While there is some evidence suggesting a potential connection between sexual activity and prostate health, it is crucial to understand that prostate cancer is influenced by a combination of factors, and a singular focus on sex does not guarantee immunity from the disease.
Here are three reasons why relying solely on frequent sexual activity may not be a foolproof method for preventing prostate cancer:
Complex Nature of Prostate Cancer: Prostate cancer is a multifaceted disease influenced by genetic, environmental, and lifestyle factors.
While some studies hint at a link between sexual activity and prostate health, this association is intricate and likely involves various factors. Age, family history, and ethnicity also contribute to prostate cancer risk.
Limited and Inconsistent Research Findings: Scientific evidence regarding the relationship between sexual activity and prostate cancer prevention is not entirely consistent. While some studies propose a potential protective effect, others find no significant association.
Ongoing research is needed to establish a clear and reliable connection, and caution is advised when interpreting findings based on limited or inconsistent evidence.
Healthier Lifestyle Factors Matter: Prostate health is intertwined with overall well-being. Adopting a healthy lifestyle that includes regular exercise, a balanced diet, and avoiding tobacco and excessive alcohol consumption is essential for maintaining good prostate health. Sexual activity should be viewed as one aspect of a broader healthy lifestyle rather than a standalone preventive measure.
In conclusion, while there may be suggestive evidence of potential benefits from sexual activity for prostate health, it should not be considered a guaranteed or sole preventive measure for prostate cancer.
A holistic approach to health, incorporating regular medical check-ups and embracing a healthy lifestyle, remains crucial for reducing the risk of prostate cancer and promoting overall well-being.
In Ilorin, Kwara State, Nigeria, a barbershop operator is being held by the police for investigation following the death of his girlfriend during sexual intercourse.
The tragic incident occurred at a guest house in the Temidire community, Offa Garage area of Ilorin. The couple had checked into the guest house for a night of fun, but the situation took a tragic turn.
During their sexual encounter, the young woman became exhausted and eventually passed out, failing to respond. Sadly, she passed away.
Upon realising the seriousness of the situation, the man raised the alarm and called the guest house staff to investigate. The unconscious woman was rushed to a nearby hospital, where she was pronounced dead.
The guest house owner reported the incident to the police, and the middle-aged barber was subsequently arrested.
The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Okasanmi Ajayi, confirmed the incident and stated that a thorough investigation is underway to determine the exact circumstances surrounding the young woman’s death.
In a similar recent incident, a 23-year-old woman, Beth Wanjiku, was arrested in Kenya’s Kajiado County after her 59-year-old boyfriend died in her room during afternoon sex.
The man, Joshua Stephen Muirui, had visited Wanjiku at her rental house, and they had a meal together before mutually agreeing to have sex.
“She prepared meat stew and ugali, which they took for lunch. After eating, he requested that they proceed to the bedroom. At around 4 p.m., as they were making love, he fell unconscious,” a police report said, as quoted by TUKO.co.ke.
Sensing danger, the suspect called her lover’s friend for help to take him to the hospital.
Suicide is a major public health problem with far-reaching social, emotional and economic consequences. It is estimated that there are currently more than 700000 suicides per year worldwide. We know that each suicide profoundly affects many more people.
This year’s World Suicide Prevention Day theme “Creating Hope Through Action” serves as a powerful call to action and reminder that there is an alternative to suicide and that through our actions we can encourage hope and strengthen prevention.
By creating hope through action, we can signal to people experiencing suicidal thoughts that there is hope and that we care and want to support them. It also suggests that our actions, no matter how big or small, may provide hope to those who are struggling.
These are warning signs that someone may be thinking about suicide ⬇️
Severe mood changes
Social withdrawal
Expressing thoughts or plans about ending their life
Saying goodbye to close family and friends
Giving away valued possessions
Let’s talk about S-E-X
WHO recognizes every person’s right to sexual well-being.
The theme of World Sexual Health Day this year was ‘Consent!’, recognizing the importance of consent and mutual respect when it comes to sexual encounters. People should have complete and accurate information so they can make informed choices when it comes to their sexual and reproductive health.
Scanning through Kofi Kumado’s book “Introduction to The Law of Torts in Ghana” (2nd Edition) Page 95 on Private Nuisance, we chanced on an interesting question he asked on excessive noise during sexual intercourse and the legal implications.
This question stems from the definition of private nuisance. Indeed, a private nuisance is defined in Bamford v Turnley 1860 as “any continuous activity or state of affairs causing a substantial and unreasonable interference with a [claimant’s] land or his use or enjoyment of that land.”
Kofi Kumado held the view that the crux of a nuisance then is the unreasonableness of conduct. Consequently, he said, the problems in nuisance turn on reasonableness. For instance, in determining the reasonableness, the Courts look at both the defendant’s conduct and its effect on the plaintiff.
He further explained that when interference as alleged has to do with a plaintiff’s enjoyment, the surrounding circumstances are relevant, but not so relevant when the alleged interference is with material injury to property. Some common forms of private nuisance are:
noise-excessive tolling of church bells;
Vibrations;
Pestilential smells and
Escaping fumes from factories.
Private nuisance represents a balancing of conflicting interests (eg. Radio music, taxi horns), and the courts are principally concerned with the mutual adjustment of rights. The challenge we face today is that we are living in close communities where one has to put up with a reasonable degree of nuisance.
The Courts and Loud Sex Noise
The courts have rarely been asked to rule in a case where the sound of female sexual rapture is a legal issue, but it has happened in some jurisdictions. In the Ghanaian and the Gambian Courts, we are yet to witness any such case. We, however, explore some cases in other jurisdictions which could have persuasive effects.
In October 2007, at the magistrates’ court in Ipswich, Queensland, Australia, the humdrum proceedings were interrupted at one point by the sound of a gasping female voice in an advanced state of excitement.
The voice was the hi-fi ringtone on the phone of a man in the public gallery. As the sounds of ecstasy became progressively louder the court proceedings froze. The man with the extraordinary ringtone fumbled desperately to turn off his phone. He was identified and told he could be held in contempt of court and imprisoned, although the magistrate ultimately exercised mercy. One missed call, one missed cell.
Cases
In Uganda, there is a report by the LuciPost(2019) of a couple in Meru, arrested and charged for noisy sex. According to a court hearing, three people, 24-year-old Chacha Mwiti and 31-year-old Joan Makokha were having loud sex claiming they were stuck while Magoola Twaha, a 27-year-old Ugandan man who posed as a witch doctor, pretended to be helping them out.
In Australia, another first case is reported by The Advertiser (2012) of Colin and Jessie who will have to give quiet sex a go or perhaps issue headphones to their neighbors. They were charged after repeated complaints about their passionate but noisy love-making, which prompted police to force them to step in to give their neighbors some peace. The couple became the first to be charged with offenses under the Environmental Protection Act – as a direct result of their noisy sex.
In the Cartwright bedroom case(2009), Caroline Cartwright, 48, was remanded in custody and later charged with three breaches of her Asbo( anti-social behavior order)in just 10 days. The four-year order was imposed by magistrates in Sunderland on April 17 and prevented Cartwright from “making excessive noise” anywhere in England.
However, Houghton le Spring Magistrates Court heard police arrested her on April 18, on April 22, and again on April 26 after reports from neighbors she was flouting the ban with her husband Steve. She was subsequently charged with three counts of breaching her Asbo by making excessive noise that could be heard by neighbors.
The court heard that her neighbor Rachel O’Connor called the police after hearing Cartwright shouting and screaming for 10 minutes during lovemaking on the morning of March 14.
The next day O’Connor’s partner Vince Wilson also called the police after the defendant could be heard singing at the top of her voice to dance music blasting out from her terraced house.
The court was told police officers, who attended the neighbours’ flat, heard 20 minutes of loud music and singing before arresting Cartwright. Prosecutor Claire Ward said neighbours had complained to police on three occasions about early morning noises of shouting, moaning, groaning, and a bed banging against the wall coming from the Cartwrights’ home.
Cartwright was convicted for five breaches of an abatement notice and fined a total of £515, and magistrates also imposed the Asbo.
Another case was reported by Gena Kaufman(2014) of Romeo Artemio Lori, a 42-year-old man in Italy who was also jailed after his neighbours filed a civil lawsuit over the loud noises of his lover’s screaming, which disturbed the peace and “the building’s decorum.” The charge against him was actually for stalking, but he argues that he was punished for being too good at sex. He was found guilty and jailed for six months.
They were further ordered to have sex only in the daytime after the man’s wails of ecstasy provoked complaints from neighbours. Retirees next door, who claimed the grunts equalled decibel levels of a jackhammer, will now be able to sleep soundly after a Rome judge imposed a sex ban from 11 p.m. to 7 a.m. on a married couple. This is the third case of roof-raising sex to hit Italian courts in a year; all three judges have imposed a blackout on sonorous lovemaking at night.
In Birmingham City Council v Gemma Wale(12 May 2015), the respondent, Wale was given a two-week prison sentence after a civil court judge concluded that she had breached the order by screaming and shouting while having sex at a level of noise that annoyed a neighbour.
Judge Kelly concluded that Wale had breached an antisocial behaviour order. She said Birmingham city council took legal action after a neighbour complained. Kelly said the antisocial behaviour order had barred Wale from making loud sex noises and from causing a nuisance by playing loud music, shouting, swearing, making banging noises, stamping, and slamming doors.
The judge concluded that she had also breached the order by arguing with her boyfriend, swearing at a neighbour, “banging around the house” and “running around in the property”. She imposed separate two-week jail terms on Wale for each breach but said all terms would run concurrently.
The judge indicated that Wale lived on a property owned by the Birmingham council and said she had heard evidence from a council housing officer and one of Wale’s neighbours. Kelly said a neighbour had complained that at about 5 am on 29 January paragraph 3 of the order had been breached. “Gemma started screaming and shouting while having sex, which woke us up,” said the neighbour. “This lasted 10 minutes.”
The judge concluded: “I am satisfied that during the early hours of 29 January 2015, at around 5 am, the defendant was guilty of screaming and shouting whilst having sex at a level of noise which caused nuisance or annoyance to (a neighbour).”
Unreasonableness
The question is how much is unreasonable in nuisance in bedroom sound? In Cartwrights’ case, the local council recorded the noise at 47 decibels which is more than the 45 decibels.
The EPA states:
Noise levels for various areas are identified according to the use of the area. Levels of 45 decibels are associated with indoor residential areas, hospitals, and schools, whereas 55 decibels are identified for certain outdoor areas where human activity takes place. A level of 70 decibels is identified for all areas to prevent hearing loss.
We state that it’s not illegal to have consensual sex, but it can also be heard of as a nuisance by a neutral bystander(s). In Cartwrights’ case, she appealed claiming that she is unable to stop the loud shouting and screaming she makes during lovemaking with her husband Steve. However, she lost the appeal against an order banning her from making loud noises during sexual activity.
The British Court said she can’t have loud sex. Hence, we urged everyone to keep it safe and keep it down, as there are possible legal implications of loud noise during sex. It will be interesting to explore the law on this in Ghana, the Gambia, and others.
The authors: Prof. Raphael Nyarkotey Obu is a full professor of Naturopathy and a recognized prolific writer and Martina Akusika Mensah is a Ghanaian Lawyer and a Gender Activist.
This article aims to create awareness of bedroom nuisance only.
Abstaining from sex can lead to various physical and psychological changes in the body. These effects can vary depending on the individual, their health, and the duration of abstinence. Here are some general things that might happen when you abstain from sex:
1.Hormonal Changes: Sexual activity can influence the release of certain hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, which contribute to feelings of pleasure and bonding. Abstaining from sex might result in fluctuations in these hormone levels.
2.Physical Tension and Frustration: Sexual arousal and activity can help release built-up physical tension and stress. Abstaining from sex might lead to feelings of frustration or restlessness.
3.Changes in Libido: Over time, abstaining from sexual activity might affect your libido, causing it to increase or decrease depending on various factors.
4. Emotional and Psychological Effects: Sexual intimacy can contribute to feelings of connection and emotional well-being. Abstaining from sex could potentially impact mood and emotional states.
5.Physical Changes: Some people might experience physical changes such as a decrease in vaginal lubrication (for females) or possible temporary changes in erectile function (for males). These changes are often reversible once sexual activity resumes.
6.Improved Focus: Some individuals report improved focus and productivity when they’re not preoccupied with sexual thoughts or activities.
7.Reduced Risk of STIs: Abstaining from sex can significantly reduce the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
8.Increased Self-awareness: Abstaining from sex can provide an opportunity for self-reflection and understanding of one’s own desires and motivations.
Social and Cultural Factors: Abstaining from sex might lead to feelings of isolation or differing social experiences, particularly in cultures or communities where sexual activity is a common topic.
It’s important to note that the effects of abstaining from sex can be different for each person. Some individuals might not experience significant changes, while others might notice distinct shifts in their physical and emotional well-being. If you’re considering abstaining from sex, it’s a good idea to consider your own motivations and communicate openly with your partner if you have one. If you have concerns about your sexual health or well-being, consulting a healthcare professional or a qualified therapist is recommended.
Sex is a natural and normal part of pregnancy, especially if you are experiencing a normal pregnancy.
Many expectant parents may worry about the potential risks of having sex during this time, but rest assured, it is generally considered safe for both you and your baby.
The baby is well-protected within your abdomen and the muscular walls of the uterus. Penetration and the movement during intercourse won’t harm the baby.
The amniotic sac and the amniotic fluid surrounding the baby act as a cushion, providing an additional layer of protection.
If you have been concerned about the potential dangers of having sex during pregnancy, here are some reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid at all:
Aids blood circulation
During pregnancy, blood supply increases significantly to fulfill the needs of both the mother and the developing child. Engaging in sexual activity during the pregnancy period contributes to this increased circulation, which holds importance for several reasons.
Sexual activity triggers the release of hormones in the body. These hormones play a crucial role in restoring an adequate supply of oxygen and essential nutrients to the fetus, supporting its proper growth and development. This process is vital for ensuring the well-being and health of the growing baby throughout the pregnancy journey.
Speeds up post-partum recovery
Engaging in sexual activity during pregnancy, specifically experiencing orgasms, can have beneficial effects on the pelvic muscles, ultimately contributing to a faster postpartum recovery.
During orgasm, the pelvic muscles contract and release rhythmically. These contractions help to strengthen and tone the pelvic floor muscles, which are essential for supporting the pelvic organs and maintaining bladder and bowel control.
When the pelvic muscles are well-conditioned and toned, they can be better prepared for the stresses of childbirth. Strong pelvic muscles may facilitate the labor and delivery process, potentially making it more efficient and less strenuous.
Moreover, after childbirth, having well-conditioned pelvic muscles can aid in the recovery process. Strengthened pelvic floor muscles may lead to better postpartum healing and a quicker return to normal pelvic function.
It’s important to note that each pregnancy and individual’s experience may vary. Before engaging in sexual activity or any form of exercise during pregnancy, it’s advisable to consult with a healthcare provider to ensure that it is safe for both the mother and the baby.
Induces labour and easy delivery
Having an orgasm during sex can be considered one of the most significant reasons as every woman desires a smooth and easy delivery. When a woman experiences orgasm, the uterus is stimulated to contract. Regular sexual activity during pregnancy can help to contract and strengthen the pelvic muscles and also assist in opening the cervix. This preparation can contribute to a more straightforward and uncomplicated labor process, reducing the need for external interventions to facilitate childbirth.
In fact, some healthcare providers even suggest engaging in sexual activity closer to the due date as it may help induce labor naturally, especially if the body is already showing signs of readiness for childbirth.
Apart from its benefits during labor and delivery, sexual activity during pregnancy can also have positive effects on blood pressure. Maintaining healthy blood pressure is crucial during pregnancy, as high blood pressure can lead to the pregnancy complication of preeclampsia. By promoting circulation and relaxation, sexual activity may contribute to keeping blood pressure within healthy ranges during this critical time.
As with any activity during pregnancy, it’s essential to communicate with a healthcare provider to ensure that sexual activity is safe and suitable for each individual’s unique pregnancy circumstances. By discussing any concerns and following medical guidance, expectant mothers can enjoy the potential benefits of sexual activity while prioritizing their health and the well-being of their baby.
Reduces stress and pain
During pregnancy, while it is a generally joyous time, it’s entirely normal for expectant mothers to experience worries about various aspects of life, such as work and the adjustments that will come with the arrival of their baby. These concerns are natural and can sometimes lead to stress and difficulty sleeping.
However, there is a physiological aspect that can help alleviate some of this stress and promote better sleep. When you experience an orgasm, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone.” Oxytocin is known for its role in promoting feelings of bonding, affection, and connection.
When oxytocin is released during sexual activity, it can have a calming effect on the body and mind, helping to counteract stress and anxiety. This can be particularly beneficial during pregnancy when emotions can run high, and anxieties about the future may arise.
Moreover, the relaxation induced by oxytocin can contribute to better sleep quality. Improved sleep during pregnancy is essential for the well-being of both the mother and the developing baby.
Engaging in sexual activity and experiencing the release of oxytocin can be a natural way for expectant mothers to find some relief from stress and enjoy more restful sleep during this transformative time in their lives. As always, it’s crucial for each individual to communicate openly with their healthcare provider and engage in sexual activity or any form of exercise during pregnancy in a way that is safe and comfortable for them.
It’s incredibly challenging to avoid all the dangers associated with sharing a bed with a close friend.
Friendships between ex-opposites are typically great until sex enters the picture due to growing sexual interest.
“Oh, we are mature” and “it’s just sex, we can always handle ourselves,” are the well-used responses you get from people who have been going down with their friends.
The truth is that no matter how cool or mature you may feel, you can never completely avoid the risks associated with sleeping with a buddy.
Here are several uncomfortable situations and issues to think about before you do it with that close buddy.
1. When they get someone else.
So you sleep with them and a new partner comes into the picture shortly after. That awkward moment when she introduces you to the new guy as her close friend but you both know you are not just a good friend.
And then there’s the problem of that partner finding out later that he/she isn’t just your friend.
So you’re faced with confessing and losing one of your friend or partner, or facing that awkward moment when your partner confronts you with the truth that he/she found out from someone else.
Oh dear.
2. Recurrence.
The understated struggle that comes out of this kind of situation is how to minimise the ‘damage’ that has been done.
Quite a number of first-time friends sex happen in moments of rashness or uncontrolled excitement and friends would ideally love to keep it at that single time, but to continue being friends and keep the sex from recurring is one helluva difficult task you’d better avoid.
3. Opinions and judgments become questioned.
It becomes strange to go to this person, who you slept with, to talk about your heartbreaks and dating life.
It used to be normal and OK to seek their opinions before the sex happened, but not anymore. Their opinion somehow appears coloured by personal interests in you.
4. Pure intentions?
You also call their actions to question. Whatever he or she does might get interpreted as a calculated move to get back in bed with you – especially if the first time was really bomb.
5. Things won’t be the same again.
Seven out of 10 times, you won’t be able to get your friendship back to what it was before.
Once you go down that thin road, that relationship dynamic changes. Usually from good to bad.
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The greater the number of benefits associated with engaging in sexual activity, the more compelling reasons experts provide for encouraging you to have more of it!
Besides the pleasure that accompanies fulfilling sexual experiences, numerous additional advantages make a compelling case for indulging in intimate encounters. Let’s explore some of these reasons:
It can make you look younger: Could this be one of the most intriguing findings ever? Regular sexual activity might just hold the secret to looking seven years younger! Fascinatingly, researchers have discovered that after an orgasm, the human anti-aging hormone DHEA skyrockets to five times its normal level. So, forget about those night creams and consider getting intimate for a natural beauty boost.
It can improve fertility: While it may seem like common sense, the link between frequent sexual activity and increased chances of conceiving a baby is indeed backed by science. Engaging in regular sex can significantly boost the odds of getting pregnant, as it positively impacts the quality of a man’s sperm. For those aiming for “grade-A swimmers,” adopting a routine that includes morning, noon, and night intimacy might just be the ticket to improve your chances of welcoming a new addition to the family!
It boosts your immune system: The next time you find yourself dealing with a cold or flu, consider this interesting fact: your lack of regular sexual activity might be a contributing factor. Engaging in a healthy amount of sex can actually provide a significant boost to your immune system. In essence, the more you engage in sexual activity, the less susceptible you may be to falling prey to illnesses. So, the next time you’re feeling under the weather, perhaps a little more intimacy could be just what the doctor ordered to keep those illnesses at bay!
4. It helps your heart:Indeed, the benefits of a satisfying bedroom session go beyond just the immediate rush. Engaging in regular sexual activity has been shown to have a positive impact on heart health in the long run. Surprisingly, research indicates that having sex three times a week can actually reduce the risk of a heart attack by half! With such a compelling reason to stay sexually active, taking care of your heart becomes all the more enjoyable and enticing!
5. It keeps you in shape: It’s not uncommon for people to be skeptical about the idea of sex benefiting physical health, but the truth is that it’s not a myth at all. Sex is indeed a physical activity, comparable to going to the gym, and it can certainly help burn calories. So while you’re having a pleasurable time, you’re also expending energy. The best part is that after a satisfying session, you can indulge in that bar of chocolate without feeling guilty since you’ve already burned some calories! So, embracing a healthy and enjoyable sex life can be a win-win situation for both pleasure and fitness.
6. It’s good for period pains: You’re absolutely right! While reaching for paracetamol may be a common approach to dealing with menstrual cramps, sex can offer a natural alternative as a painkiller.
Engaging in a satisfying sexual encounter can help relax your muscles and, even more impressively, trigger the release of endorphins – the body’s natural pain-relieving chemicals. So, in addition to being a pleasurable experience, a good romp can also provide some relief from menstrual discomfort in a natural and enjoyable way.
7. It works on wrinkles: Amidst the array of marvelous chemicals produced during sex, oestrogen stands out as an incredible wonder. Its most significant advantage lies in its ability to tighten and smoothen facial lines.
In simpler terms, engaging in more sex could potentially lead to fewer wrinkles, as oestrogen plays a part in enhancing skin appearance.
8. It makes you more attractive: While waking up as a supermodel might be a stretch, research suggests that increased sexual activity can indeed have a positive impact on your attractiveness to the opposite sex.
This phenomenon can be attributed to science. When you engage in sexual activity, your body releases more pheromones, often referred to as the “love chemical,” which has the power to attract the attention of the opposite sex. So, while becoming a supermodel might be a lofty expectation, enhancing your allure through the natural effects of pheromones is certainly a fascinating aspect of human biology.
9. It can make you live longer: While it may sound almost too good to believe, some evidence supports the idea that there could be real benefits to be gained. According to certain studies, individuals who engage in regular sexual activity, exceeding twice a week, might potentially extend their life expectancy by up to eight years. However, it’s essential to approach this information with a critical perspective and consider that various factors contribute to overall health and longevity. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle and seeking balance in all aspects of life are key to promoting well-being and potentially enjoying a longer life.
10. It can unblock your nose!: It may indeed sound surprising, but it’s true! In addition to the numerous other benefits, sex can act as a natural anti-histamine. So, the next time you find yourself dealing with itching eyes due to a high pollen count, consider easing those symptoms with a good romp!
Now that you’re armed with this interesting information, why not put it to good use? Instead of reading further, why not indulge in some enjoyable time and experience the potential benefits of this natural anti-histamine firsthand!
Human relationships naturally and unavoidably include sexual intimacy, which offers fulfillment, emotional reassurance, and pleasure.
While the act itself is frequently the focal point, it is also important to recognize the importance of aftercare, especially for women.
The term “aftercare” describes the medical and psychological attention provided to people after engaging in sexual activity.
In this essay, we examine the importance of aftercare for women after sex and how it contributes to their general wellbeing.
Physical recovery
Just like any physical activity, sex can leave the body tired and in need of recovery. Women, in particular, may experience vaginal dryness, soreness, or even minor injuries during intercourse.
Aftercare involves providing gentle care, such as using a water-based lubricant, taking a warm bath, or applying soothing creams to help alleviate discomfort and promote healing.
Emotional connection
Intimacy creates emotional connections between partners, and after sex, these feelings can be intensified. Aftercare provides a safe space for partners to express their emotions, share their experiences, and foster a deeper emotional bond. Simple gestures like cuddling, holding hands, or having a heart-to-heart conversation can create a sense of security and emotional fulfillment.
Reducing anxiety and stress
Sexual encounters, especially for women, can sometimes lead to feelings of vulnerability and anxiety. Aftercare offers reassurance and a sense of comfort, reducing any post-sex anxieties that may arise. This emotional support can help build trust and strengthen the relationship between partners.
Enhancing intimacy
Aftercare isn’t solely about physical recovery; it also plays a crucial role in enhancing intimacy. Taking the time to engage in affectionate acts like kissing, hugging, or giving compliments can reaffirm the emotional connection between partners, making them feel valued and cherished.
Promoting open communication
Post-sex aftercare encourages open communication between partners. It creates an opportunity for both individuals to discuss their desires, boundaries, and preferences, leading to a more satisfying and mutually enjoyable sexual experience in the future.
Acknowledging consent
Respecting boundaries and consent is fundamental in any sexual relationship. Aftercare allows partners to check-in with each other, ensuring that both parties are comfortable and content with the encounter. This acknowledgment reaffirms the importance of consent and fosters a healthy and respectful relationship.
Emotional release
Sexual encounters can evoke various emotions, from excitement to vulnerability. Aftercare provides a space for women to process these emotions and allows partners to be present and supportive during this time.
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A male student blackmailer has recently leaked a sex tape involving two first-year students from Kwadaso SDA Nursing and Midwifery Training College in Kumasi, the capital of the Ashanti region. The video, which was recorded off-campus, came into the possession of the blackmailer after the female student handed her phone over to a colleague for repairs.
The blackmailer, having copied the video from the phone, proceeded to demand Fifty Thousand Ghana Cedis (GHC50,000) from the female colleague and threatened to release the video if she failed to meet his demand.
Due to the lady’s financial constraints, she was unable to fulfill the blackmailer’s request, which led to the strategic release of the tape during the evening church service on Wednesday, June 23, 2023, precisely at 6:30 PM.
According to reports from some students, the unfortunate incident caused a disruption during the church service, as the entire auditorium burst into laughter due to the perceived lack of respect exhibited by the female student.
Confirming the incident, a female student shared the details with the media…
“What I can say is that yes, the two persons in the video are our colleague students. They are all first-year students. The video was recorded off campus that’s all. The case at the moment is before management of the school’’ She said.
She added “The two students even though they are adult I think they need psychological support; the issue is very embarrassing’’.
However, she declined to confirm whether the two students featured in the sex tape are currently present on the campus or not.
Numerous attempts to contact the school management for their response regarding the matter have been unsuccessful.
If you’ve been engaging in ongoing text conversations with a girl you’re interested in, you may be seeking ways to increase the romanticconnection between you.
Texting her about saucy subjects is a great way to build suspense and get her excited for when you two meet again. In this article, we’ve listed some messages you can use to build sexual tension and leave a girl wanting more, even when you’re not together in person.
“You have such a beautiful smile.”
Start out slowly by telling her something you like about her. If you’re still feeling things out, stick to things about her personality or her facial features. If there’s already been a bit of sexual tension between you two, you might try complimenting her body or her physical features. Flattery goes a long way, and hearing something nice might just get her thinking about you in a different way. Try something like:
“I like how smart (spontaneous, adventurous, intelligent…) you are!”
“I loved your outfit yesterday.”
“That pic you posted of you in a bikini looks amazing.”
2. “I had a dream about you last night.”
Build up a little mystery with this text. Tell her that you had a dream about her, but don’t reveal what, exactly, she was doing. Even if you didn’t have a dream about her, you can still send this message to pretend like you did. Try teasing her with messages like:[2]
“I had a crazy dream about you last night! You will not believe what you were doing.”
“You tired from running through my mind all night? I had a super long dream about you!”
3. “Wanna cuddle?”
This is a bit more innocent, but it can lead to steamier messages. If you two haven’t quite crossed the intimacy threshold (maybe you aren’t quite sure she’s that into you yet), tell her how chilly you are and that you wish she was there to cuddle. If she’s into it, she might ask something like, “Oh, just cuddling?”[3]
You might also say something like, “Wish you were here to warm me up.”
Or, “I’m gonna go to sleep. I wish we were cuddling right now.”
4. “I can’t wait for our date tomorrow.”
Tell her how excited you are for your next date or hang. This will get her thinking about when she sees you next, and she might even start thinking about what she wants to do with you. You can get specific if you’d like, or you can be a little vague by saying:[4]
“Can’t wait to see your pretty face on Friday.”
“I’m so excited to spend the weekend with you. We’re gonna be worn out by the end of it.”
5. “I can’t stop thinking about you.”
Maybe even mention that thoughts of her have been distracting you. If you’ve already been intimate together, you could even mention a specific scenario that keeps running through your mind. These kinds of messages will probably get her excited, and she might even tell you what she can’t stop thinking about, too. Try something like:[5]
“Couldn’t sleep because I kept thinking about you last night.”
“Can’t stop thinking about our last date. I had so much fun with you.”
“I’m about to get in the shower.”
6. Get her thinking about you in the nude with this simple message. If you have to pause your conversation for a few minutes, let her know that you’re off to take a hot, steamy shower, but you won’t be long. If she likes you, she might reply with an even saucier message, which is your cue to take it to the next level. You might also try something like:[6]
“I’ll be right back, I’m about to get naked (and take a shower).”
“I won’t be gone long! Just gonna go think about you in the shower real quick.”
7. “Hey, you up?”
Send her this one late at night to see what she’s doing. People tend to get a little more intimate with others after the sun goes down, so it can be a good time to send her a message. Asking her if she’s awake lets her know that you want to talk, even though you should probably both be sleeping right now. You could also say something like:[7]
“Hey cutie, you awake?”
“You dreamin’ about me yet?”
8. “What are you wearing?”
Her answer might just start a spicy conversation. If it’s late at night or you know she’s in bed, send her a message asking what she has on right now. If she sends you a message back describing it, it probably means she’s into you (especially if it’s something sexy, like lingerie). You might also try:[8]
“Wearing anything sexy right now?”
“What are you wearing under your dress?”
9. “I wish you were here right now.”
You might even talk about what you’d do to her if she was here right now. This is a good message to use after you’ve already teased her a little bit or talked about your next date. You can describe (in detail, if you’d like) how badly you wish she was here right now, and what you’d be willing to do to get her here. Say something like:[9]
“Oh, what I’d do if you were here with me…”
“Really wish you were with me right now. I can’tstop thinking about you.”
10. Now it’s her turn to send you a sexy message. If she likes how the conversation is going, send her a question asking what she wishes she could do to you right now. When she answers, you can respond with positive reinforcement, telling her how much you wish you were doing that right now. You could also try:[10]
“Anything you wish you could do to me right now?”
“How would you feel if I kissed you?”
11. Sprinkle in a few flirtatious emojis.
The right emojis can get her brain spinning and hear heart racing. You don’t need to add an emoji to every message (that can be a little much), but 1 or 2 sprinkled throughout your conversation can really amp up your message. If you send something risque, don’t be afraid to throw in a winky face or a devil face to make your intentions clear.[11]
For instance, you might say, “What would you do if I was there right now?”
A sex coach,Dzifa Sweetness, revealed that beautiful music is one of the finest ways for individuals to have sex and achieve orgasm.
According to her a lot of ladies including herself, lost their virginity while having sex with music.
She added that “music calms the nerves and it makes you feel relaxed. it also works on the brain and women are mostly moved by what they hear. so, music being a form of communication is a great way to make sex more enjoyable.”
According to her, most men are bad with communication duringsexso sometimes what helps them communicate with women is music.
“the words in some of the songs is what plays a trick on us, and helps us reach orgasm. so, you can’t just play any song and expect good results,” she said.
She emphasized that the music being played should not be loud but should be on a low tune.
“finally, the kind of music that will be used matters because some of songs will never make you reach orgasm when you listen to them whiles making love. so, it is very important to select very good music for love making,” she stated.
Sex is about pleasure and fun, and doesn’t always involve genitals, penetration, or even orgasm. Play is the key to good sex, according to experts. In bed, women rarely enjoy sex significantly.
Many face performance issues with their partner or are unable to climax, leaving all the fun out of the game. Hence, to attract sexual vibes into your sex life, you must first understand what sex is to you
Knowing what brings you pleasure doesn’t just make sex more satisfying for you; it boosts your confidence during an encounter, making things more fun for everyone involved.
Once you completely understand what you want out of sex, you will be able to enjoy it better. Here listed are some tips for women to enjoy sex in a much more exciting and sensual way.
Talk about sex more often
It’s important for women to start initiating conversations about sex. This helps them to understand their sexuality and their sexual dreams and fantasies. The more you talk about it, the more you will be able to understand better what you really want, during sex. And once you can communicate what you want your partner to do, sex instantly becomes better.
Don’t be under pressure to climax faster
If you’re one of those who take time to reach an orgasm, don’t be pressurised to climax faster, only because your partner is insisting on it. Sure enough, being in rhythm with your partner is necessary but losing out on your pleasure to satisfy them isn’t always right. It’s alright to be a little selfish in bed.
Practice seduction techniques
Most women enjoy seducing and being seduced before getting to the main part, during sex. Practising seduction techniques like saying or texting erotic things before, can instantly get one in the mood. Indulging in long and slow foreplay can also be very arousing.
Don’t focus on orgasm
When you’re too focused on reaching orgasm, you are losing out on the fun during sex. This keeps your partner under the pressure of performance and keeps you from actually enjoying the process of sex. Sex isn’t just about orgasm, it’s also about erotic talks, touching, grabbing, and communication.
Staying away from sex and its related pleasures during the Lent period is very vital, the All Souls Anglican Church pastor, Rev Father Amos Asiedu has said.
In a Mynewsgh report, Rev Asiedu said although it isn’t a sin for married couples to have sex during this period, Christians must rather drive their focus on the significance of Easter among other things.
“Having sex by married couples is not a sin but for the Christian during the period of lent the focus should be the blood of Jesus and things that get you closer to God and not bodily pleasure like sex,” he said.
According to him, married couples must reach a consensus and seek permission from each other before strictly observing the period.
“We advise that couples that are married need to communicate to each other and explain the need as a couple to desist from sex during this time. I mean you need to seek permission from your partner before you embark on fasting so that you are not disrupted by sex by your partner.”
He also established the implications of indulging in any form of sexual activity during this period.
“Even sex during this time weakens your spirit with God, that is why Jesus went away into the wilderness to fast, no destruction, just prayers and we need to do the same. The reason for the season is the blood of Jesus and its salvation nothing more nothing less and Christians must know this always”.
The Health Director at the Ahafo Ano South West District of the Ashanti Region, Dr. Rubben Bedzra, has attributed rise in teenage pregnancy in Ahafo Ano to high cost of sanitary pads.
According to him, some teenagers in the district got pregnant for chasing over a Gh¢20.00 money for sanitary pad.
According to him, most of the teenagers who reported to health facilities in the district after interrogations disclosed that, they succumbed to proposals from men in order to get money for sanitary pads during their Menstrual period.
Dr. Bedzra disclosed this on the Kumasi-based OTEC 102.9 FM’s morning show Nyansapo, on Tuesday, April 4, 2023 hosted by Captain Koda.
“While the causes of teenage pregnancies in the area are many, one of the problems which runs through almost all victims was poverty, most of the teenagers who confided in us said they were forced into bed after the men provided them with sanitary pads for a period of time,” he stated.
Teenage pregnancies
The Ghana Health Service disclosed that pregnancy among teenagers between 10 to 14 years was on the rise in the Ahafo Ano South West District of the Ashanti Region.
According to GHS, 18 percent of the total 460 teenage pregnancies recorded in the district for the year 2022 were between the 10 to 14-year age brackets.
The situation according to GES is destroying the future of many young girls in the area
Dr. Bedzra expressed concern over the alarming rate of teenage pregnancies in the district, calling on all stakeholders to join the fight against the menace.
He said, “I am encouraging all stakeholders in the district to see this development as a huge burden that needs urgent attention
“The lives of most of our young girls are being destroyed because of this very issue that is why I believe such workshops are very important “.
Authorities in Uganda have shut down the boarding portion of a primary school in the central Mubende district after seven students claimed that the school’s caretaker had sexually assaulted them.
According to local media, the caregiver entered a guilty plea to the allegations last week in court and is awaiting sentencing.
Joyce Moriku Kaducu, the state’s minister of primary education, claimed on Sunday that the overcrowding in the classroom had created “fertile ground” for student abuse.
According to the Daily Monitor website, the school’s 350 boarders slept in five cramped rooms on triple-deck beds.
“I want you [school management] to tell the parents that you have been operating an illegal boarding section and no guidelines were being followed,” the minister said when she visited the school.
She also faulted local education officials for not inspecting schools.
Schools in Uganda require a government licence to operate boarding sections.
In recent years, there has been an increase in conversation about choking during sex.
While it is not a practice that everyone finds enjoyable, others find it to be a very sensual and erotic experience. Choking should only be done with the full and informed consent of both partners, it is crucial to remember that safety and consent are key in any sexual experience.
One reason that some people find choking to be an enjoyable addition to their sexual activities is the sense of vulnerability and surrender that it can create. The physical sensation of restriction that choking can provide can increase blood flow to the brain, intensifying the sensations of pleasure during sex.
This can be especially enjoyable for those seeking a more powerful and intense sexual experience. Another reason that some people may enjoy choking is the power dynamic it can create between partners.
Choking can be a way for one partner to give up control and become submissive, or alternatively, it can be a way for one partner to exert dominance and control over the other.
The power dynamic created by choking can be an exciting and arousing experience for those who enjoy it. It is important to note that choking during sex can carry risks if not done properly.
These include the risk of choking, suffocation, or injury to the throat or neck. Therefore, it is crucial to educate oneself on proper techniques and safety measures, such as using safe words and establishing clear boundaries before engaging in any sexual activity involving choking.
It is also worth noting that choking during sex doesn’t necessarily involve cutting off the air supply completely. In fact, many people who enjoy choking prefer a gentler form of choking, such as applying pressure to the sides of the neck or chest.
How to choke safely during sex
1. Communicate with your partner before engaging in choking. Discuss boundaries and establish a safe word to indicate when it’s time to stop.
2. Use proper technique. Avoid putting pressure on the front of the neck and instead place pressure on the sides of the neck or chest.
3. Be mindful of your partner’s breathing. Check-in frequently during the experience and stop immediately if your partner is gasping or struggling to breathe.
DISCLAIMER: Independentghana.com will not be liable for any inaccuracies contained in this article. The views expressed in the article are solely those of the author’s, and do not reflect those of The Independent Ghana
Multiple award-winning Ghanaian actor, Adjetey Anang, has revealed that his wife of 16 years sees him as a god when it comes to bedroom skills.
According to him, his bedmatics with his wife has never been boring as his wife constantly commends him for getting much better in bed as their years of marriage keep increasing.
Speaking in an interview With Sika Osei on the ‘Stripped by Sika Osei’ show on lynx Tv, Adjetey said that sex should not only start when couples get to the bedroom but should be a gradual process that could even begin with a conversation.
According to him, he had no idea about this when he first got married to his wife Elorm, as he thought sex was just a duty he needed to perform, as well as just having babies.
The renowned actor during the interview articulated that his wife, whom he has spent close to 16 years with sees him as a sex god.
He also emphasized that his wife keeps surprising him with occasional hugs and sweet words to show her appreciation for the good work he does in bed.
The ‘Things We Do For Love’ Star further advised couples who have been married for long to be patient and more relaxed when it comes to their sexual relationship.
Adjetey Anang and Elom tied the knot on March 10, 2007.
The sale of used condoms for some Ghanaians is no news, but those in demand of these items has left social media users dumbstruck.
One of the sperm merchants who interacted with TV3, Kiki, noted that pastors are on top of the list of buyers.
“I will not mention names, but a lot of the condoms are requested by pastors,” she said.
Kiki recounted that one of her recent transactions was with an evangelist in the Volta Region.
According to Kiki, she also has clients at Kumasi in the Ashanti Region.
Whatever these used condoms are used for remain unknown to this sperm merchant. Kiki says she is not perturbed about having no knowledge of what the condoms are used for.
For Kiki, all she is concerned about is receiving cash for the product she provides.
A woman has lament over the way her husband treats which is tantamount to him not respecting their marriage.
According to the woman, her husband pays her everytime they have sex and he even invites her to different hotel where he offers her money after every intimacy.
A Businesswoman shared the distraught woman’s story Online and said that the wife feels disrespected because her man treats her like a runs girl.
The woman further revealed that the man’s habit of paying for her body started when they were dating and she saw it as a fun-filled activity.
However, the problem now is that they have been married for three years and he still pays her every time they gets intimate.
She said they do not have any children yet and she expected that his kink would have stopped now they are Husband and wife.
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My husband pays me every time we meet in the other room — Woman cries out
Sexual intercourse or sex is an important act that human beings engage in.
Sexual Partners engage in sex for various reasons. Some people engage in sex for the purpose of achieving sexual satisfaction. Others engage in sex for the purpose of pro-creation. Regardless of whatever reason that influence people to engage in sex, the fact remains that sexual intercourse is an important aspect of human life.
Several benefits have been associated with sex. It is believed that sex helps to reduce stress and improve the mood of individuals. Sex is also believed to improve the physical well-being of those who engage in it. Moreover, sexual intercourse helps to deepen the bond that exists between two sexual partners. There is no doubt that sexual intercourse helps in improving the social, physical and emotional well-being of people.
While sex has several benefits, the age at which individuals begin to have sex determines the life trajectory of those individuals. In Ghana, the criminal code stipulate that the legal age of sexual consent is 16 years. At the same time, the law stipulates that the age of adulthood which is also the age at which one can get married is 18. The gap in the age of adulthood and age of sexual consent is a cause for worry.
Having different ages for adulthood and sexual consent portends grave danger for young people. Firstly, having different ages for sexual consent and adulthood is likely to have repercussions in terms of unsafe and illegal abortion. This is so because young people may experiment sex before they get married. This could lead to unwanted pregnancy in the event that they do not use protection. Taking into consideration the fact that Ghana is a highly conservative society, those who get pregnant might not be comfortable in divulging that they are pregnant or keeping the pregnancy. As a result, they are likely to engage in illegal and unsafe abortion. Illegal and unsafe abortion inherently can result in medical complications as well as death.
Also, having different ages for sexual consent and adulthood may play critical role in the occurrence of child marriage. This is so because some parents and guardians in the Ghanaian society may hold the view that their underaged children are sexually matured. In effort to use their children as alleviating household poverty, this parent may consequently marry off their children. This is especially the case for young girls. The future and education of the victims of child marriage get truncated. If the law is changed and the age of adulthood and sexual consent is aligned, it will go a long way to contribute to reducing child marriage in Ghana.
Another possible harm that may arise as a result of the age of sexual consent and adulthood not being aligned is the issues of transmission of sexually transmitted infection. In the Ghanaian socio-cultural context, parents and guardians shy away from discussion issues concerning sex with their children. Most parents hold the view that children will learn these things when they grow.
However, most of the young people engage extensively in sexual activities and most times do not use sexual protection. As long as the young people assume the age of 16 and they give consent, the sexual intercourse cannot be criminalize legally. However, most of these young people do not have extensive knowledge on sexually transmitted infections and how to prevent it. Shifting the age of sexual consent to 18 years to align with the age of adulthood will ensure that most young people are able to acquire some appreciable knowledge regarding sexual transmitted infection and the use of sexual protection.
An interest dimension to the problem at hand is the issue of adults who sleep with young men and women. There are instances where men sleep with girls who at 16 years of age. However, in the case that there is sexual consent from the young girls before commencement of the sexual intercourse, most of the men end up being jailed for defilement. This is so because sometimes parents end up influencing their children to falsely accuse the men of defiling them without consent. Aligning the age of sexual consent with the age of adulthood will help to deal with this problem.
This is so because once young girls and boys turn 18 and engage in sex, they are considered adults. It will be difficult for them to falsely accuse their sexual partners of rape or defilement. This will ensure that innocent people are not thrown into jail.
There’s also a social, biological and economic dimension to the need to align the age of sexual consent with the age of adulthood. In terms of the social dimension, most of the young women who engage in sexual intercourse before 18 years may be subjected to some social stigma. This is the case because these young women may end being pregnant. Teenagers who get pregnant especially below the age of 18 years face a lot of social stigma within the Ghanaian contest.
Most of the stigmatisation comes from their peers, health workers as well as their families. This could lead to depression, suicidal ideation as well as marginalisation from the society. This equally goes for boys below 18 who impregnate their mates.
When it comes to the economic dimension, most of the young women who get pregnant are not able to take care of themselves or the baby. This is so because they are not empowered educationally to be able to get jobs that can pay them enough money needed to cater for themselves or their babies. This therefore result in situations where they have to depend on their family members and friends for survival. Most of the girls end up engaging in prostitution just to survive. For the underage boys who impregnate their females peers, they often tend to abandon their sexual partners due to their inability to cater for them and their babies. This creates serious financial burden in the society.
The biological aspect of the problem narrows down to the fact that some of the underage girls who engage in sexual intercourse get pregnant. However, some of them might not be physically matured enough to be able to carry the baby during the gestation period till delivery and to have safe delivery. Often times the life of the mother or the baby gets compromise. It therefore brings to question whether there was a scientific and empirical foundation for us as a country to have a lower age for sexual consent and a higher age for adulthood.
There is the need for us as a country to think critically on whether it is acceptable to have age of sexual consent and age of adulthood being different. The minister in charge of gender, attorney general and the president must take step to shift the age of sexual consent to 18. Parliament must also play a role to ensure that this is done. This is to ensure that the well-being of the young people is protected.
Kenyan police have arrested six teachers from a primary school in the western part of the country over a widely shared video showing pupils simulating sex acts as the teachers watch.
Local media report that the teachers in Nyamache, in Kisii county, were arrested after education ministry officials watched the clip and raised a complaint.
In the video, adults can be heard talking and laughing out loud as someone records the four boys who are in school uniforms.
A police report noted that the clip “exposing the pupils in an indecent act” appeared to have originated from the school.
It said the six arrested were assisting in investigations and appropriate charges would follow.
The video has sparked an uproar on social media, with many calling for action.
“What they did can only be termed as barbarous, bestial, and insane. It has no justification whatsoever! Let them face the full force of the law,” a one person on Twitter said.
“I support the arrest of the six teachers… There is no justification [for] what they did,” another said.
Don Little has recounted the number of times a fan, friend or colleague has bruised his ego by questioning how he manages to sexually satisfy a woman with his stature.
The popular Kumawood actor has educated the public on the need to be measured and do away with the silly comments they pass about midgets.
According to Don Little, real named Samuel Atanga, it takes a lot of patience to restrict clapping back at persons who look down on them.
“Respect us, we are humans just like you. Respect is reciprocal…I am a man, not a boy and so don’t pet me like a child,” he warned in an interview with Emelia Brobbey.
Sharing some of the offensive comments they receive on regular basis he said: “I have people asking ‘Don how do you have sex with a woman with your small size’. I just don’t understand.”
Don Little also hammered on some disadvantage that comes with dwarfism.
He said: “Due to our size, we are very careful. Even regular men suffer at the hands of women, how much more us? We cut our coats according to our cloth. Our size down there comes in a form of a toothpick (laughs). We will not even bother and when our sexual desire gets high, we keep it to ourselves.”
When it comes to sex, women aren’t always transparent with their thoughts and feelings.
When you are being dishonest with someone, then you are essentially denying that person the privilege of the truth. Whether it’s an effort to spare another person’s feelings or protect yourself, lies are lies and must not be encouraged.
Successful relationships are always built on the bedrock of honesty. It is a symbol of trust.
While both men and women are capable of being untruthful to their significant other, they may not always do it for the same reasons.
It is not always wise to keep secrets but sometimes womencan’t help but keep some things to themselves.
Let’s take a look at some of the secrets women lie about or perhaps never tell their partners:
Sex with their exes
Women avoid telling their husbands about how sex was, with their previous partners. Women feel that their husbands may get very insecure regarding how the sex was with their wife’s previous partners. Insecurity regarding sex can be a real issue.
Performance in bed
Sometimes, women do not like how their husbands or partners perform in bed. They keep their desires a secret to avoid creating a ruckus or an issue. Men also get pretty insecure when they can’t perform sexually in bed such as premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.
Orgasm
Women often fake their orgasms just to get it over with. Women take a lot of time to climax, compared to men. They require foreplay, lots of kissing and grabbing that most men are unaware of. And most wives do not tell their husbands about this so that the latter doesn’t feel bad.
High sex drive
Some women have a very high sex drive that their husbands do not realise. Women fear being judged about the amount of sex they like. They like to keep their sexual desires and sexual drive a secret.
Masturbation
Not every woman is comfortable with telling their husband about masturbating. Most wives like to keep this a secret. Masturbation in women is largely considered to be a taboo, even though the world is becoming more aware of it, day by day.
The definitions of “man” and “woman” in the Cambridge Dictionary have been updated to incorporate a new definition for those who do not identify with the sex they were given at birth.
Along with the definition, the dictionary also gave two examples to explain the meanings. For ‘man’, the examples read: “Mark is a trans man (= a man who was said to be female when they were born)” and “Their doctor encouraged them to live as a man for a while before undergoing surgical transition” or ‘woman’, the examples are: “She was the first trans woman elected to a national office” and “Mary is a woman who was assigned male at birth”.
Meanwhile, the first definition at the entry for woman remains unchanged and continues to be “an adult female human being” and man “an adult male human being.”
The previous definitions assumed that sex and gender identity always adhered to one another. The new definitions, however, are inclusive of trans people.
Speaking about these updates, a Cambridge Dictionary spokesperson told international media outlet; The Telegraph, that editors of the dictionary made the addition to the entry for woman in October 2022.
On the other hand, social media users have conflicting opinions about the most recent definitional adjustments.
Read some of the post below;
The Cambridge Dictionary just changed the definition of “woman.” Remember, if you can control the language, you can control the population.
Imagine inverting **the dictionary definition** of a term that defines half of the world’s population while simultaneously claiming cultural handicap. https://t.co/BJ45E0PsgM
I refuse to play along with this delusion. Airbrushed makeup, heels, fake breasts and an exaggerated valley girl voice impersonation does not make you a woman. The fact some people think it does is insulting. Stop erasing women. https://t.co/z1uSsoXtfT
Changing the meaning of words create a different kind of language. If a cat is now a dog, you just create a different reality where words stopped describing reality the way it is in order for you to control the narrative.
Changing the meaning of words create a different kind of language. If a cat is now a dog, you just create a different reality where words stopped describing reality the way it is in order for you to control the narrative.
I just read 1984 by George Orwell, the idea of controlling a population by limiting language is one of the big lessons in it. Scary to see it happening in real life. “The party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command.”1984
Research suggests an entirely different age when you will experience the best sex.
You’re young, healthy and full of raging hormones, so it’s only fair to think your 20s are the time when you’ll experience mind-blowing sex, full of fantasies, role play and sex positions. But that’s not it.
Research suggests an entirely different age when you will experience the best sex. It’s not your 30s, but your 50s or 60s! Stunned? We are too.
But let’s know why this age can get us to experience the best climax.
A recent study has observed that people falling within the age bracket of 60 to 66, experience the best sex. Single women feel immense pleasure when they are 66 and for men, it’s 64. If the couple is well, healthy and active, they can easily feel pleasure during sex, especially for women, after their menopause.
Sex in your 20’s and 30’s
During the 20s, people feel very insecure about their bodies and the same can be felt during sexual intercourse, when people have to go bare all in front of their partner. They feel very conscious about their looks, performance in bed etc. and this affects their ability to concentrate on sex at the moment.
The change in sex
When your body changes day by day, sex also changes. Navigating through menopause, sickness and lethargy, people start experiencing different kinds of changes that either affects sex in a positive or negative way. But quite interestingly, sex becomes quite enjoyable after a certain period of time.
The best sex
Sex may not be the same kind of wild when you were 20, but having sex in your 50s or 60s means you take your time adjusting to the sex. This further means better foreplay and getting to feel each sensation slowly. And slow sex is always a charmer.
Sex expectations
Sex isn’t only about sexual penetration. It’s so much more. But that’s a mistake most people make. Focusing only on penetration lets them forget about the other ways of sex that takes time but are very sensual and pleasurable. You will be surprised to know how satisfying sex can be when penetration is not the goal. The old people certainly enjoy it thoroughly.
CEO of Eco-me Africa Amdiya Abdul-Latiff has revealed that some young girls in rural areas are being forced to have sex with men in order to get money for sanitary pads.
According to her, many of the girls are from deprived homes and are unable to afford decent sanitary towels for the monthly menstrual cycle.
Speaking with Prime Morning host, Asieduwaa Akumia, on Monday, Mrs. Amadiya Abdul-Latiff indicated the ordeals the teenagers go through to obtain common sanitary pads.
“They were resulting in unhygienic means like using socks – which are very popular by the way, newspapers, dirty rags, and then dried leaves. They are easily available in the rural communities, so anything at all that can absorb and hold blood, that’s what they use,” Mrs. Abdul-Latiff said.
The Eco-me Africa CEO further said that she was posted to a school in a rural community as a pupil’s teacher.
It was there that she witnessed the difficulties that girls in primary schools are forced to face.
This situation, she said, accounts for girls dropping out of school.
Those who remained in school resorted to unorthodox materials in place of sanitary towels. The majority of these are exposed to infections.
According to her, some girls are even pushed to the extent of sleeping with men in exchange for pads.
She said, “Some of them too had no option but were pushed to exchange sex for pads. It is a common trade in the poorest areas of Ghana, where young girls are pushed to sleep with men, mostly older men, just so they can have money to purchase a sanitary pad.”
Madam Abdul-Latiff also mentioned that this plight can result in teenage pregnancies, thus leading girls to drop out of school.
She also added that there has been new research that states that in Ghana, many girls sometimes miss school when menstruating.
Eco-me Africa CEO fears the phenomenon if not checked will affect the health and education of these young girls.
Professor Richard Adanu, Rector, Ghana College of Physicians and Surgeons (GCPS), says “elderly people need sex” and asked health facilities to provides services that promote their reproductive health.
“…Another aspect of the health of the elderly that is often overlooked is reproductive health. The aged also have sex. They have sexual feelings; they need sex and must not be overlooked.”
Professor Adanu said this at the launch of the book: “Contemporary Issues in Ageing in Ghana”, from scholars at the Center for Ageing Studies, College of Humanities, University of Ghana and the Geriatric Fellowship Programme, GCPS.
The book, first of its kind from the Center, was authored by over 30 scholars and edited by Professor Charles Mate-Kole of the Center and Rev Professor Akye Essuman of the Ghana College of Physicians and Surgeons.
It advocates the study of ageing in many facets – health, science and socioeconomic perspectives.
Speaking as the Guest of Honour, Prof Adanu, also a Gynecologist, noted that many elderly people had been living in silence over their sexual health situations and said it was about time healthcare givers paid attention to their reproductive health.
He commended the Family Health Division of the Ghana Health Service for its efforts at helping the aged, with sexual health problems and said such services should be at all health facilities as the aged population increased.
“The stigma that prevents adolescents from accessing reproductive health care is the same stigma preventing the elderly. This is because we don’t think about the sexuality of the aged, we don’t even talk about it,” he said, adding that, that must stop to prevent the elderly from taking concoctions that affected their health.
It has been estimated that the world’s population of people at 60 years will be 2.1 billion by 2050, with sub-Saharan Africa being one of the fastest growing ageing populations.
Ghana’s ageing population currently is around two million.
Experts say men, 40 years and above need regular sex to lower risk of prostate cancer and to decrease blood pressure by opening the blood vessels.
They say regular sex also helps the aged –men and women- to ease the body and lull the mind and spirit.
It also helps minimises the risk of incontinence-lack of voluntary control over urination and defection.
Professor Angela Ofori-Atta of the Department of Psychiatry, University of Ghana Medical School, who reviewed the book, said, chapter one of the book revealed that genetic factors only accounted for 25 per cent difference in human lifespan.
“The book also revealed that nutritional and environmental factors determine the rest,” she said.
Professor Ofori-Atta called for the urgent passage of the Aged Persons Bill by Parliament.
The first copy of the 347-page book was bought at GH¢ 5,000.
Spain manager Luis Enrique has admitted that he doesn’t have a problem with players having sex the night before matches.
The former Barcelona coach made the statement while speaking on Twitch, fulfilling his promise to fans to keep streaming for as long as Spain is in the World Cup.
When he was also asked if players should be told not to have sex before games he said: ‘It’s ridiculous (to ban it). It’s something I consider totally normal.
‘If you’re at an orgy the night before a match then obviously that’s not ideal, but when I’m a club coach the players are at home the night before a game and it’s not something that worries me at all.
‘If it’s something they do then it’s because they need to and want to. But I repeat with common sense! Each one with their partner. It’s normal. When I was a player if I was at home before a game, with my wife, well we did what we had to do.’
Enrique’s star man in his Spain squad, Ferran Torres is currently dating his daughter and recently joked that she would ‘chop his head off if he failed to start him in a game.
When asked who, in the Spain squad might be the most similar player to Enrique, the manager said: ‘That’s very easy – It’s Mr Ferran Torres – otherwise my daughter will come after me and chop off my head.’
Later on in the stream, Enrique was asked what country he wishes he had played in, and he said: ‘England definitely. The Italian league was very strong in my era but playing in England would have helped me with my level of English and I would have been able to experience the more physical, more intense football that they have there, and experience a different culture.’
A squabble has broken out in Spain after it was revealedthat a landmark law toughening penalties for sex crimes is being used by lawyers to reduce clients’ existing sentences.
The notorious 2016 Manada or “wolf pack” case, in which five men raped an 18-year-old woman in Pamplona, prompted the “only yes means yes” law.
Last month, the new law went into effect.
According to Spanish media, the change allows at least four sex offenders to leave jail early.
Lawyers have also won sentence reductions for convicted abusers in at least eight other cases.
A lawyer for the Manada gang, Agustín Martínez, also revealed he was working to get a reduced sentence for one of the five convicted of the attack.
This is because the Spanish criminal code states that when a new law is introduced, new sentences contained within it can be retroactively applied to convicted criminals if they stand to benefit.
So in some cases, lawyers argued that the new law established lower minimum sentences, and that the original sentences should therefore be reduced.
Spain’s Equality Minister Irene Montero, who steered the new law into effect, defended it by saying “machismo may make some judges apply the law incorrectly”.
Her comment “provoked uproar among the legal profession”, Prof Carlos Flores, a law lecturer at the University of Valencia, told the BBC, saying Ms Montero had “decided to put all the blame on the judges, and not admit a mistake”. The main judges’ associations also jointly rejected her claim of male chauvinist bias.
“Now 55% of Spanish judges are women, so blaming them for ‘machismo’ is an insult. And the legal education of judges in gender issues has been going on for a long time,” Prof Flores pointed out.
This row is particularly uncomfortable for the government of Prime Minister Pedro Sánchez as gender equality has been a major policy focus since it took power in early 2020.
The new law was one of the government’s landmark reforms, prompted by widespread outrage after the five were found guilty of sexual abuse, but not rape, and got nine-year jail sentences during their initial trial. After mass protests, the Supreme Court in 2019 increased the jail terms to 15 years.
At the original trial, the men had been cleared of rape on the grounds that neither violence nor intimidation had been used.
Spotlight on consent
The new Guarantee of Sexual Freedom law stipulates that victims no longer have to prove that they suffered violence or intimidation, or that they physically resisted, in order to show that they have suffered a sexual assault. Any sexual act without consent will be liable to be deemed assault.
Amid controversy over the recent sentence reductions, Finance Minister María Jesús Montero said she thought the issue needed to be reviewed “because evidently the goal… wasn’t to lower the sentences for abuse of minors – quite the opposite”.
In one recent case, a man jailed for eight years for having sexually abused his 13-year-old stepdaughter had his sentence cut by two years, by a Madrid court.
A man who raped a 67-year-old woman in her own home was jailed for three years and 10 months, but a Barcelona court ruled that, under the new law, his sentence should be between two and four years.
In Majorca, two sex abusers jailed for three years can now go free, a court has ruled, because they have already served two years.
Prof Flores noted that Justice Minister Pilar Llop – a Socialist – had not commented on this “major legal embarrassment” for the government. He saw that silence as a sign that the new law was “adding to the division in the coalition” between the Socialists and Podemos, the junior party in the leftist coalition.
“Even if you go back to a more punitive law you cannot apply it retrospectively,” he said, adding that “we are bound to have a growing number of cases reviewed”.
The CEO of Obaapa Development Foundation, Nana Adwoa Awindor has appealed to lawmakers to amend laws over the age that qualifies a girl for consensus sex from 16 to 18 years.
According to her, she was worried over that particular instance where the Ghanaian law classifies 18 years and above as matured minds for election and rather classifies 16 years as matured minds for sex.
To her, something must be done to equalize the qualifications since she still sees 16, 17 years old girls as under-ages for sex.
“If 18 years is qualified as mature minds for election, why don’t we do same for girls when it comes to sex? Or what makes their maturity different when it comes to sex? Their minds at those ages still look immature as that of the qualification ages for election,” she said.
Nana Adwoa Awindor who was speaking in an interview with the media during an International Day For the Girl Child Celebration at Ayeduase expressed worry over the rate at which most underage girls, especially within the Ashanti region get pregnant.
The program which had been themed; Our time is now, our rights, our future, the role of traditional leaders in youth development for nation building”, saw many stakeholders such as queen mothers, kings, parents, young girls, etc gracing the occasion.
The program which was powered by the Obaapa Development Foundation in collaboration with the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) sought to end frequent teenage pregnancy and early child marriages.
Expressing joy over the attendance, Nana Adwoa Awindor revealed some keys areas they highlighted during the program.
According to her the program centered on how to make young girls assertive, encourage them to make friends with their parents, educate them on menstrual hygiene etc.
Adding her voice, the host queen mother, Nana Yaa Saah of the Ayeduase traditional area commended the organisers for bringing the program to her community at this right time.
According to her, she needed the program the most due to the fact that most of the young girls within her area had fallen victim to the hands of the University Students from KNUST where she sadly revealed that the male students mostly impregnate the underage girls without taking responsibility.
She, therefore, called for more such programs to sensitise innocent girls from the hands of their prey setters.
Some Primary, JHS, and SHS female students who attended the program commended organisers for such a wonderful sensitisation.
Revealing the experience, the students disclosed that the lessons they had acquired from the program were going to make them bold to oppose negative advances from men. They also revealed that the program had taught them the need to make friends with their parents to avoid any danger.
What I’m about to say may shock you. Some men only want you for sex.
WHAT?!
I know. Crazy, right?
They look at you like a juicy steak that needs to be flipped, tenderized, and flambéed. They don’t care how sweet or smart you are, or how much value you bring to the table. They want to brand you like a cow with their initials square on your ass.
OWNED
Here are some signs he only wants to bone.
He flat out said so
Fortunately, most of the time these guys will tell you flat out they’re only looking for a good time.
Or they dress it up in other variations like, “We can keep it on the down low” or “We’re just hanging out.”
Either way, take this at face value and run the other way. Don’t fool yourself into hoping for something better.
It isn’t going to happen.
He has a wife or girlfriend
This is a no-brainer, yet many women rationalize taking sloppy seconds will somehow lay the first brick on the path to true-love-forever.
They think they’re powerful and compelling enough to persuade a man to leave his situation. They couldn’t be more wrong.
Do yourself a favor and don’t be a side chick. Have more respect for yourself than that.
He doesn’t want to be seen with you in public
He doesn’t introduce you to his friends, his co-workers or his dog, and he insists it stay that way.
In fact, the only time he wants to see you is at night, with the shades drawn, underneath the black light in his bedroom.
And please, absolutely no pictures, social media adds or tags. He doesn’t want to associate anything with you but a secret 2-hour midnight fantasy.
So please be nocturnal and remain unseen.
He tries to get you drunk
You’ve mentioned your favorite restaurant and maybe even what your favorite flowers are, and he’s either laughed his ass off or ignored you altogether.
But if you’re willing to drink, he’s picking up the tab!
He’ll gleefully scoop you into his car, playing the designated driver hero dude on his way to your place.
He doesn’t care that you have a husband or boyfriend
A lot of guys don’t care if you’re married or involved. In fact, it makes them want you even more.
Why? Because he doesn’t have to invest in anything other than sex because the assumption is you have no emotional investment in him.
That’s fertile ground for no strings attached sex. At least that’s what he thinks. Don’t give him the satisfaction. In fact, don’t give him anything.
He doesn’t talk to you about anything other than sex
If every conversation you’ve had with him revolves around, hints at, or leads to landing in the sack, that’s all he wants.
Shocker. (Including the Shocker.)
He doesn’t want to get to know you or what makes you tick. He wants to know what your hooha looks like and he’s desperately trying to convince you to show it to him.
He offers to pay for it
Yikes!
He knows he doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell so he pulls out his fat wad and flashes it in your face.
Then he asks what you’d be willing to do for every bill he methodically draws from the stack and lays on the table.
If you’re into getting paid for sex, Go Team. Keep on keepin’ on. But if you’re not, tell him to get the hell out and let the door hit him in the ass.
He doesn’t respect you when you say no
He keeps pressing you, even after you’ve told him to throw himself off the nearest cliff. To him, hearing you tell him no is like hearing you say maybe, or sometime soon.
No doesn’t mean “Convince me.”
He just doesn’t get it, so enlist the help of your brother or other beefy, intimidating bro-dude friends to kick his ass. If he’s smart, he’ll take the hint.
Call the authorities if you’re genuinely in trouble.
Don’t get caught up in the douchebag’s game of sexual conquest. It’s a no-win situation. And don’t look at him like a soul who needs saving because that’s exactly how he’s drawing you in.
If you’re looking for a relationship and not just a good time, let these dudes roll on by and keep your sanity in tact. After all, you’re worth it, aren’t you?
While the heat is on, you may think there is no boundary as to what to say or touch, but be careful, you may kill the fun while touching these places.
Sex is always a moment of pleasurethat intimate partners often take informally. Lovers usually have no boundaries to their pleasurable activity while the moment is on.
However, the lovemaking process is very sensitive and couples should curtail the habit of placing their hands on some sensitive parts of the genitals which are listed below.
Her cervix
If you reach her cervix during sex, recognize that something is wrong. Remember, this is the narrow canal that connects the vagina to the womb. That isn’t a place you want to go to, so don’t try to touch her there.
For starters, it’s painful for her to have something rammed against her cervix, and it could be a sign that you need to shift for a position with shallower penetration.
Head of the clitoris
We know the clitoris is a super-sensitive zone and has a lot of nerve endings, but stimulating the head of the clitoris vigorously can turn out to be an intense and painful experience for her. Imagine gulping a cup of piping hot coffee immediately followed by an ice-cold beverage. The feeling is not pleasant, right? Instead, try rubbing around in circles or simply at the shaft of the clitoris.
Feet
Don’t touch her feet if she’s wearing socks! Wondering why? According to a study from Johns Hopkins University, wearing socks in the sack can increase the chances of having an orgasm. This logic applies to men as well. Another reason is that women need to be completely relaxed to climax, and cold feet can be an uncomfortable distraction.
Her hair
You may think that it is strange yet this one is genuine – no lady prefers her hair to be pulled or entangled during sex when she has gone through hours (and wasted thousands!) in the salon on them.
Her nipple
Assuming that she’s breastfeeding or going to menstruate, try not to squeeze the nipples. It harms beyond your imagination.
How long you have to wait before you’re ready to get the action going again depends on an individual or the couple.
For both men and women, there is a physical resolution after orgasm. This is when the body returns to its normal, pre-excitement state — muscles relax, and blood pressure and heart rate drop.
How long does a man have to wait?
In men, the penis loses its tumescence, and sexual desire, having been satisfied, disappears, according to the International Society for Sexual Medicine. During this refractory period, a man is incapable of becoming hard again and doesn’t respond to sexual stimulation.
The refractory period is thought to be triggered in men by a surge of prolactin, a hormone secreted by the pituitary gland, along with a drop in testosterone (per Men’s Health). Together, along with the involvement of the nervous system, these hormones cause a physiological state of being unable to have an erection.
How long the refractory period lasts depends on a variety of factors, with a salient one being age. Young men in their 20s may only require a few minutes before they can have another erection, while men in their 30s and 40s may need 30 to 60 minutes or longer. It also varies from man to man, as well as the kind of sexual activity that led to orgasm.
How long does a woman have to wait?
One study found that the surge of prolactin released after orgasm was 400 percent higher when the orgasm resulted from intercourse than when it resulted from masturbation. This could mean that climaxing after intercourse may lead to a longer refractory period than one after self-pleasure.
It’s known that women also experience a surge of prolactin after orgasm, suggesting there might be a physiological refractory period. One study of 174 university students found that 96 percent had clitoral hypersensitivity after orgasm, which made them averse to further clitoral stimulation (per The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality). This is similar to the penile sensitivity men experience after climaxing. Despite these findings, women can be multi-orgasmic.
