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  • Video: Charlotte Oduro advises men not to marry if they do not have money

    Video: Charlotte Oduro advises men not to marry if they do not have money

    Renowned marriage counselor and media personality Charlotte Oduro has addressed recent social media discussions about her marriage with a strong message.

    Speaking to a congregation at the Assembly of God Church on February 23, 2025, she advised unmarried men to prioritize financial stability before considering marriage.

    According to her, a man should have his own place and a stable source of income rather than depending solely on hope for a successful future.

    “If you don’t have money, don’t get married. At the very least, have something that allows you to take care of your family. As a man, you are the head of the household, and you must be established before bringing a woman into your life,” she stated.

    While addressing the congregation, Charlotte Oduro also emphasized that people should not blindly trust their partners’ declarations of love.

    “Anyone who says, ‘I love you, and I would die for you,‘ is not being truthful because the only one who can truly die for you is Jesus. When you love someone, you don’t think twice about the sacrifices you make for them. However, when challenges arise in a relationship, that is when you truly discover whether the person loves you or not,” she added.

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    Rev Carlote’s divorce saga

    Rev. Charlotte Oduro, was married to Apostle Solomon Oduro, the General Overseer of the Royal Victory Family Church. Their marriage was highly publicized due to their prominent roles in the religious and counseling communities.


    Their marriage faced significant challenges, leading to a separation that lasted for three years. Despite multiple attempts at reconciliation, the couple ultimately decided to dissolve their marriage. The traditional dissolution of their union was finalized in 2024, and Apostle Solomon Oduro officially announced the divorce in February 2025.

    In interviews, Rev. Charlotte Oduro has opened up about the reasons behind their separation. She mentioned that she felt confined and lost herself during the marriage. She also highlighted that her husband’s highly spiritual nature and their conflicting views on various matters often led to disagreements.

  • I made a decision to keep my marital affairs private; the old life I lived was unnecessary – Tracey Boakye

    I made a decision to keep my marital affairs private; the old life I lived was unnecessary – Tracey Boakye

    Ghanaian actress Tracey Boakye has voiced her frustration with people who keep meddling in her marriage.

    In a video posted on social media on January 7, 2024, Tracey admitted that her marriage isn’t perfect. However, she emphasized her commitment to keeping the details of her relationship private and off the internet.

    “When I was celebrating my one-year anniversary, people resurfaced the internet with my old videos. My husband has seen them all but has kept quiet and pretended as if he hasn’t.

    “I don’t have the perfect marriage but after I got married, have you heard any negative issues about myself or my husband?

    Sometimes, my mother would tell me that she is surprised by the kind of man I got as a husband because everyone knows I like to fight and argue but my husband doesn’t want trouble and I have stopped my previous life,” she said.

    Tracey Boakye shared that before getting married, she prayed for a humble and God-fearing partner.

    She explained that God answered her prayers, and as a result, she has changed her ways and will no longer pay attention to negative comments from people online.

    “I don’t want to fight on social media again. Because it’s not necessary to fight any longer. I have a child and he is growing so fast that lately, if I want something to be fixed on my phone, he is the one I call… I don’t want him to grow up and see this character on social media.

    “I prayed to God that I have stopped this character and when I am getting married, he should give me a God-fearing man. That is all I asked for and he did it for me. So, whatever you have done in the past, let it go and set a goal for yourself,” she added.

  • Most celebrities’ careers crash when they get married – Nigerian rapper Phyno

    Most celebrities’ careers crash when they get married – Nigerian rapper Phyno

    Nigerian rapper Chibuzor Nelson Azubuike, known by his stage name Phyno, has shared his thoughts on the challenges celebrities face when it comes to marriage.

    The “Alobam” hitmaker described the music industry as both demanding and competitive, noting that balancing it with marriage or other professional commitments is a major struggle.

    He pointed out that many celebrities’ careers tend to suffer after they get married.

    In a recent appearance on the In My Opinion podcast, Phyno opened up about these challenges.

    “Check everybody; statistically, I feel so [most celebrities’ careers crash when they get married].

    “Music basically is a jealous career. That’s why people drop out of school to face music. The ones that had to juggle the two, you have to give them kudos because it’s not easy.

    “Sometimes, some people get to a certain fame level and rush back to school and come back to continue from where they stopped because you have to actually face one. Music is tasking; it takes all your time.

    “Another thing about music is that it is what you pass through that you put into it—life experiences—except if you use songwriters. But if you write your songs, you can’t be talking about happiness when you’ve got a girlfriend that’s stressing you.”

  • Actor Salinko marries again after his first marriage failed 2 years ago

    Actor Salinko marries again after his first marriage failed 2 years ago

    Kumawood actor Oboy Salinko, whose real name is Abraham Davis, has tied the knot just days after his pre-wedding photos surfaced online.

    The actor, whose first marriage to Beatrice Owusu ended two years ago, celebrated his nuptials in a beautiful traditional wedding held in Accra on Friday, November 8, 2024.

    Initial videos from the wedding have surfaced online, showcasing beautiful moments from the event. Salinko wore a green three-piece agbada, while his bride, Lydia, looked stunning in a yellow kente gown with green accents.

    In one of the Instagram clips, gospel artist Piesie Esther serenaded the couple, drawing cheers from the guests.

    Another video, posted by actor Don Little, captured the groomsmen delivering items to the venue. Among the well-known faces present were actor Big Akwes and Peace FM broadcaster Dan Kwaku Yeboah.

    The traditional wedding marks the first part of their marriage celebration. The couple is set to hold their white wedding on Saturday, November 9, 2024, at the Methodist Church in Haatso, Accra.

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  • Is marriage for doom or bliss?

    Is marriage for doom or bliss?

    The answer to whether marriage brings doom or bliss ultimately lies with you. Your mindset, your beliefs, and your expectations shape the experience you’ll have in marriage. Put: What you put into it is what you get out of it.

    So, the real question is, are you entering a marriage with the intention of doom or bliss? Are you thinking of giving or simply taking? Are you marrying for sexual freedom? To have children? To escape loneliness, or do you have someone to provide for you? Or maybe because you’re financially stable and feel you can easily support another person? If your mindset is centered around your needs and happiness, then you’re likely headed for doom.

    Marriage isn’t about just you; it’s about serving your partner and committing to them, no matter what. It’s not about keeping score or constantly pointing out what your spouse isn’t doing right.

    The true purpose of marriage is companionship, procreation, mutual growth, and unwavering commitment—staying by each other’s side through thick and thin. It’s not a platform to flaunt your wedding ring or expect to be pampered.

    Marriage isn’t about control, social status, or having a sharp tongue. It’s about saying, “I’m here for you, no matter what,” through sickness and health, wealth or poverty until death parts you.

    Many people today quickly abandon the “till death do us part” promise at the first sign of trouble. But marriage requires work. It’s not all about romantic dinners and walks in the park.

    You’ll step on each other’s toes, but you must forgive, let go, communicate, and grow together. Ask those who’ve been married for decades—they’ll tell you they had to work through challenges and tough times to keep their marriage strong.

    If you’re young and single, and your view of marriage doesn’t align with these realities, it’s time to rethink your decisions before you potentially disrupt someone else’s life. The government didn’t invent marriage, nor is it some scientific experiment where you can add a few chemicals and expect things to change.

    You can’t simply vote out the bad parts or hope a counselor will magically make everything work. Marriage is an institution created by God, and He alone can guide you through the journey. Yes, “the two shall become one,” but that unity involves God, the husband, and the wife.

    Without God at the center, your marriage is destined for trouble. As single individuals looking forward to marriage, it’s essential to turn to God’s word for guidance. Men, remember that Adam was created without Eve present. Women were brought into the picture after Adam was put into a deep sleep.

    This tells us that neither man nor woman fully understands the other—it’s only through God’s guidance that we truly know who is meant for us. Single men, how do you prepare for marriage? Look at Adam: he spent his days in the presence of God, working diligently in the Garden of Eden, fulfilling his purpose.

    Before God gave him Eve Adam had already established himself in his work. Are you, as a man, pursuing your purpose in life? Are you earning an honest income and staying rooted in God’s presence? When you focus on your purpose and your relationship with God, He will recognize your needs, just as He did with Adam, and provide a suitable partner for you— even before you ask.

    Adam didn’t request a wife, but God saw that it wasn’t good for him to be alone, and He created Eve as a perfect match. This is how God operates: when you remain faithful to Him, He blesses you with the best. So, seek the kingdom of God first, and all else will follow. While you work on your spiritual life, take care of your physical well-being.

    Improve your character, emotions, hygiene, and health. When Adam declared Eve as “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh,” he was making a lifelong commitment. Are you ready to love the woman you choose to marry, no matter the hardships that come your way? Men, don’t enter marriage expecting your wife to serve you by doing all the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. Marriage is a partnership, not servitude. Learn to handle these tasks yourself because your wife is coming to help you, not to be your servant.

    Now, to the single women: Eve didn’t meet Adam in a nightclub or a sketchy corner of town. She found herself in the presence of God, and that’s where she encountered her husband. Women, you attract what you are. If you’re dressing in skimpy clothes, smoking, or clubbing, you can’t expect to meet a godly man. Eve was in God’s presence and became attracted to a man who was also there.

    So, ask yourself, where do you find yourself? Where do you plan on meeting a godly man? Spend time with God so He can lead you to the right partner. Eve also came to Adam fully formed, with all her physical and spiritual qualities. As a woman, What are you made of? Are you made of gold, bronze, or something lesser? Do you possess pride, selfishness, or greed? Do you respect yourself or allow anyone who shows interest to take advantage of you? Pray to become the wife your husband will cherish—submissive, wise, and full of God’s grace.

    But remember, even Eve faltered when she decided without consulting Adam. Don’t make the same mistake in your marriage. Your husband is not your equal, no matter your social status or education. Once you choose to marry him, you come under his leadership, and that requires submission.

    That’s why it’s crucial for both men and women to seek God before entering into marriage. Marriage is not a game, and there’s no easy way out. The Bible only permits divorce in cases of adultery, not abuse or addiction. While separation can be necessary in extreme cases, the goal is always reconciliation, which is why patience and discernment are essential before making the commitment.

    The high divorce rates in today’s world are alarming, but that doesn’t mean God isn’t looking out for His people. Don’t rush into marriage because everyone else is doing it. Take your time, focus on yourself, and trust God to guide you to the right person.

    For those who are already married, remember that forgiveness, communication, and letting go of bitterness are key. Love each other, support each other, and work through your challenges.

    After all, it’s just the two of you on this journey. A fantastic resource to guide you through these topics is the book How Could I Have Known. It’s filled with practical advice for navigating singlehood, preparing for marriage, and building a successful, God-centered union. This book offers open, honest insights into the challenges and joys of marriage, Christian dating, and even the sensitive topic of divorce.

    Marriage is a beautiful thing when you approach it with the right attitude and mindset.

    Remember, it’s not just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the right person. How Could I Have Known? Hmmm, a question many have been asking themselves for centuries.

    The antidote is in this book and in this masterpiece I dove into the intricate dynamics of relationships, offering a comprehensive exploration from the pain of broken marriages to the complexities of single life and the hopeful aspirations of marital bliss.

    In Part One, “Brokenness In Marriages,” the book examines why some marriages falter, from mismatched expectations and selfish behaviors to abuse and psychological trauma. It then shifts to “Everything Single,” addressing the challenges and misconceptions of single life, including the choice of love, defining relationships, and navigating personal desires versus societal pressures.

    Part Three, “Becoming One,” guides readers through essential preparation for marriage, exploring emotions, cultural influences, and the importance of counseling. Finally, “The Bliss of Marriage” outlines strategies for cultivating a lasting, fulfilling relationship, focusing on love, effective communication, and the profound significance of marriage.

    Whether you’re grappling with marital issues, navigating singlehood, or preparing for a lifelong partnership, this book provides valuable insights and practical advice to help you understand and enhance your journey through love and commitment.

    Source: GhanaWeb

    DISCLAIMER: Independentghana.com will not be liable for any inaccuracies contained in this article. The views expressed in the article are solely those of the author’s, and do not reflect those of The Independent Ghana

  • Don’t stay in abusive relationships, it’s not love – Empress Gifty

    Don’t stay in abusive relationships, it’s not love – Empress Gifty

    Gospel artist Empress Gifty recently made a heartfelt appeal for people to steer clear of abusive relationships during her interview on Daybreak Hitz with Andy Dosty on September 19, 2024.

    She spoke openly about the emotional and psychological damage that abuse can cause, stating that staying in such situations is neither healthy nor justifiable.

    “Don’t stay in abusive relationships; it’s not love. That is something that I don’t condone,” Empress Gifty said, urging listeners to prioritize their well-being and escape toxic environments.

    Her poignant message struck a chord, underscoring the vital need for self-respect and safety.

    In addition to addressing the issue of abuse, Empress Gifty also explored the intricate dynamics of marriage.

    She discussed the societal expectations and biases that often unfairly criticize women who choose to leave their marriages, acknowledging that while marriage may seem straightforward from the outside, it presents unique challenges once you’re in it.

    “Marriage is something that anyone can explain or define, but once you enter, it’s a completely different ballgame,” she noted.

  • “If you’re not mature, don’t get into marriage” – Rex Omar to youth

    “If you’re not mature, don’t get into marriage” – Rex Omar to youth

    Veteran musician Rex Omar, also known as Rex Owusu Marfo, shared some candid advice about marriage during an interview on Property FM in Cape Coast.

    He stressed that marriage is not suitable for everyone, highlighting the level of responsibility it demands.

    According to Omar, maturity and strong leadership are essential qualities for anyone considering such a commitment.

    He cautioned those who may be thinking of marriage for superficial reasons, especially physical attraction, to rethink their decision.

    “Marriage is a serious business, and it’s not for everybody, let me repeat: not everyone is meant to marry.

    “If you’re not mature, don’t get into marriage. Many people enter marriage for sexual reasons, but after the initial excitement, there’s a lot of responsibility involved,” he emphasised

    Once the initial thrill fades, he warned, the realities of managing a partnership and navigating life’s challenges set in.

    For those lacking the courage or maturity to handle these responsibilities, Omar advised them to stay away from marriage altogether.

    “You have to navigate leadership and other challenges, so if you don’t have the courage to handle that, then don’t even consider it.”

  • My marriage is going well – Afua Asantewaa to critics

    My marriage is going well – Afua Asantewaa to critics

    Afua Asantewaa Aduonum, a prominent socialite and businesswoman, has hit back at online critics of her marriage in a recent TikTok video.

    In her response, she expressed frustration over the intense scrutiny and anticipation some people seem to have regarding the potential end of her marriage.

    Afua questioned why there is such a keen interest in her relationship status and criticized those who seem eager for any news of a divorce.

    “There are people who always want to find out every morning if Afua Asantewaa is still married. They wish there would be breaking news saying that Afua Asantewaa is a divorcee. They want me to get divorced so they can celebrate. So, you people don’t appreciate good things?” she said.

    This reaction came after the couple participated in a dance challenge, which had gained attention after being featured on the Big Brother Naija show.

    Some comments on their dance video were notably negative, prompting Afua’s response.

    She took the opportunity to clarify that her public persona might be misunderstood and that she is not as problematic as some believe.

    In other news, on December 24, 2023, Afua Asantewaa attempted to set a Guinness World Record for the longest singing marathon.

    She managed to sing for 126 hours and 52 minutes, initially aiming to finish by December 27 but extended her attempt to five days.

    Despite her impressive feat, she did not secure the record for the longest cooking marathon, as confirmed by Guinness World Records.

  • Marriage is not meant for everyone – Pastor

    Marriage is not meant for everyone – Pastor

    Marriage counselor Rev. Dr. Nanayaa Owusu-Prempeh has highlighted that marriage is not a necessity for everyone, challenging the common misconception that it is.

    She referred to Biblical teachings, specifically Apostle Paul’s preference for celibacy while acknowledging that marriage might be preferable for those lacking self-control to prevent sin.

    In an interview on TV3’s Confession show, Rev. Dr. Owusu-Prempeh urged society to stop judging those who choose not to marry, emphasizing that marriage is not compulsory.

    She also pointed out that individuals who decide against marriage should be aware of the potential challenges, such as the absence of children to support them later in life.

    “We are not all supposed to get married. Marriage is a choice. As Christians, we have role models, such as Apostle Paul, who chose not to marry. In 1 Corinthians 7, he says he wished no man would have a wife, but if you cannot control yourself, you should marry.

    “Yes, it’s better to marry than to masturbate or burn with passion. You should not condemn people who choose not to marry, but they shouldn’t expect my child to run errands for them because they chose not to marry,” she said.

  • Marriage is not a prerequisite to experience God’s hand in your life – Kirk Franklin

    Marriage is not a prerequisite to experience God’s hand in your life – Kirk Franklin

    Kirk Franklin, the acclaimed American Gospel artist, has recently expressed concerns about certain beliefs prevalent in Western Christianity, particularly the way marriage, giving, and sexuality are often “weaponized.”

    During an appearance on Cam Newton’s Funky Friday show, Franklin, now 54, criticized the portrayal of marriage within the church as a remedy for sin. He argued that this notion has been misapplied, leading to judgment and undue pressure on single individuals.

    “Marriage has been weaponised in Western Christianity,” Franklin stated. “There’s this idea that getting married is the solution to sin, but marriage itself doesn’t fix sin.” He shared his personal experiences with his wife, Tammy Collins, highlighting how rigid religious expectations have affected their lives.

    Franklin pointed out the significant pressure that single women, particularly Black women, face in their communities, where the absence of a spouse or children is often misinterpreted as a deficiency.

    “It’s almost as if not being married or childless is seen as a sign that something is wrong with you,” he noted, calling these attitudes harmful.

    The musician also addressed how some of his friends were pushed into marriage under the belief that it was necessary to serve in ministry, criticising the idea that singleness is a barrier to being used by God.

    “People are rushing into marriage thinking they’re obeying God, but in reality, they’re following man-made doctrines. Being married isn’t a requirement for God’s work in your life,” Franklin explained.

    He emphasized the importance of understanding faith and purpose beyond marital status, reflecting on the challenges he and his wife have navigated together since their marriage in 1996. Franklin’s message calls for a broader perspective on identity and value within the faith community.

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  • “I believe marriage has been weaponized in Western Christianity” – Kirk Franklin

    “I believe marriage has been weaponized in Western Christianity” – Kirk Franklin

    Renowned American gospel musician Kirk Franklin has recently expressed concerns about certain beliefs prevalent in Western Christianity, particularly the ways in which marriage, giving, and sexuality have been “weaponized” within the faith.

    Speaking on Cam Newton’s Funky Friday show, the 54-year-old artist critiqued the portrayal of marriage as a remedy for sin, arguing that it has often been misrepresented to pressure single individuals into wedlock.

    “Marriage has been weaponized in Western Christianity,” Franklin stated, challenging the idea that marriage is a solution to sin. He pointed out that this notion can lead to judgment and undue pressure on those who are single.

    Drawing from his own experiences with his wife, Tammy Collins, Franklin shared how they have encountered the negative impacts of strict religious teachings. He emphasized the challenges faced by single women, particularly Black women, who are often judged within their communities if they are not married or do not have children.

    Franklin criticized these societal pressures, calling them dysfunctional, and argued that one’s identity and value should not be tied to marital status.

    “There’s a tendency to view being unmarried or childless as a flaw,” he noted, calling for a shift in perspective.

    He also reflected on how some of his friends were coerced into marriage by the belief that it was necessary to serve in ministry. Franklin challenged this view, asserting that God’s ability to use someone is not contingent on their marital status. He condemned the practice of shaming those who go through divorce.

    “Many rush into marriage believing they’re fulfilling God’s will, but in reality, they’re following human dogma. Being single doesn’t disqualify you from being used by God,” he argued.

    In conclusion, Franklin stressed the importance of understanding faith and purpose beyond the confines of marital status, sharing the difficulties he and his wife have navigated together since their marriage in 1996.

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  • I was already focused, but marriage has made me more focused – Sammy Gyamfi

    I was already focused, but marriage has made me more focused – Sammy Gyamfi

    The National Communications Officer of the National Democratic Congress (NDC), Sammy Gyamfi, has shared how marriage has positively impacted his life and career, highlighting increased focus and discipline.

    Married since December 2022, Mr Gyamfi described marriage as a transformative experience that has provided him with stability and reinforced his commitment to his goals.

    He acknowledges that while he was already focused before marriage, the institution has significantly deepened these attributes.

    “I was already focused, but marriage has made me more focused. Marriage has given me a better half that helps me to execute our plans and objectives. It has been a good experience so far. We are taking it one step at a time and learning a lot thanks to our parents and all the elders. We are making good progress. The thing about marriage is it doesn’t matter how long you have been together; marriage is different from courtship,” he noted.

    In response to recent controversies, including a viral video suggesting a lavish trip to Miami funded by the party, Gyamfi firmly denied any misuse of party funds.

    In an interview on the KSM show, he dismissed the allegations as part of the challenges in his political role and affirmed his commitment to integrity and transparency.

    “It has nothing to do with party funds; some people put it out there for their own mischievous plans. There are aspects of criminality, and I couldn’t let it pass. There are clearly false statements about me. The judicial process is ongoing, and we wait to see what the court will say. I think that my wife has taken it in her stride. I have inculcated in her the need to have a tough skin just like me because of the terrain I find myself in. I know the detractors who put that out there sought to tarnish my image and discredit my voice. It is an old trip I made after I got married. I have never stolen money, and I will never steal money. I don’t know why my private life should remain an issue,” he asserted.

    Reflecting on his political journey, Gyamfi traced his passion back to junior high school, where he developed an interest in politics and leadership.

    Influenced by his father and inspired by figures like Ghana’s former president, Jerry John Rawlings, he pursued law and economics to improve his communication skills and effectiveness in politics.

    “At the JHS level, it was very clear to me I wanted to be a politician and I developed an appetite for reading about political leaders. My father bought me an encyclopedia and installed the Encarta encyclopedia. Rawlings was my ideal, I started following him and took interest in freedom fighters.

    In university, I initially studied Environmental Science, which wasn’t my passion. I began engaging in partisan politics at KNUST, and after completing my first degree, I pursued law and later studied economics to enhance my communication skills.

    He also reaffirmed his steadfast commitment to serving the NDC and advocating for the interests of the Ghanaian people.

  • ‘Marry a rich lady when you become successful’ – Paul Okoye tells men

    ‘Marry a rich lady when you become successful’ – Paul Okoye tells men

    Paul Okoye, popularly known as Rudeboy, recently advised men to prioritize achieving financial stability before entering into committed relationships or marriage.

    On his Instagram account, he expressed concern over the increasing pressure on men to prove their financial worthiness before pursuing romantic partnerships.

    Rudeboy urged men to “change the narrative” by focusing on personal financial independence and encouraged them to seek companions who are similarly successful in life.

    He emphasized the importance of everyone, regardless of gender, working towards financial stability.

    “Dear kings, change the narrative, chase money, make money and look for a rich girl. Make everybody go hustle.”

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  • I got married at age 23 – Asantewaa

    I got married at age 23 – Asantewaa

    TikTok sensation, Martina Dwamena popularly known as Asantewaa has opened up about her marriage life.

    During a conversation with actress Emelia Brobbey, Asantewaa disclosed that she tied the knot with her husband when she was just 23 years old.

    She emphasized that marrying at a young age was a conscious decision that matched her personal aspirations.

    Asantewaa clarified that she prefers to maintain a strict boundary between her private life and her professional career.

    Furthermore, she mentioned that her husband and his family are wholeheartedly supportive of her endeavors in content creation.

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  • Churches must ensure branches are certified to hold marriage ceremonies – Registrar of Companies

    Churches must ensure branches are certified to hold marriage ceremonies – Registrar of Companies

    Jemima Oware, the Registrar of Companies, has revealed a startling oversight affecting many marriages in Ghana: a significant number are considered null and void due to non-compliance with legal registration requirements.

    Speaking on the JoyNews AM Show, Mrs. Oware highlighted a prevalent issue—many churches and individuals fail to register marriages under the Registrar General’s Department, a legal mandate essential for the validity of marriages.

    She emphasized that churches are required to complete specific forms to obtain a marriage officer’s license. Unfortunately, many churches neglect this crucial step.

    Mrs. Oware explained, “The ordinance of marriage is very strict. The premises have to be licensed. Sometimes, let’s say the main church is licensed, and they think that the branches therefore can take the legality from the main church. No. Even the branches have to be licensed. So, if your main church is licensed for marriages and the branch is not licensed, that marriage is void.”

    The problem extends beyond church premises. Mrs. Oware noted that marriages conducted in non-licensed venues such as gardens or hotels without a licensed marriage officer are also invalid.

    She stressed that all ministers of religion must be gazetted by the Registrar General through the Minister of Justice to operate legally as marriage officers.

    This oversight has significant implications. Couples married in unlicensed venues or by non-gazetted officers are, in the eyes of the law, not legally married. This revelation calls into question the legal status of numerous marriages across the country.

    To address the issue, Mrs. Oware urged individuals in null and void marriages to visit the Registrar General’s Department to arrange for a special license. This step will ensure their marriages are legally recognized and comply with the ordinance marriage requirements.

    The Registrar’s office is also working on developing new software to document all marriages in Ghana, ensuring better compliance and awareness of the legal requirements for valid marriages. This move aims to streamline the registration process and prevent future occurrences of invalid marriages.

    In the meantime, Mrs. Oware advises couples and religious institutions to familiarize themselves with the legal requirements for marriage and take the necessary steps to ensure their unions are recognized by law.

  • I was very naive when I accepted my boyfriends marriage proposal – Ghanaian pharmacist

    I was very naive when I accepted my boyfriends marriage proposal – Ghanaian pharmacist

    Ghanaian pharmacist Naa Nhyirabea Armoo recently reflected on her inexperience at the time of her marriage.

    She admitted that her limited understanding of marriage and the potential challenges influenced her decision back then.

    Nhyirabea mentioned that if she had the opportunity to choose again, she would prioritize finding a partner with strong religious values. During a discussion on the HomeAffairs show on JoyPrime TV, she expressed a preference for a man deeply committed to faith and religious service.

    “Looking back, I realize how naive I was when I made my choice. I often tell my husband that if he were to propose to me now, knowing who I have become, he would have a tough time. I didn’t fully understand what I was getting into. I sought someone who would accept me for who I am, encourage my authenticity, and appreciate my true self. I wanted a companion who could be a friend and whose principles resonated with mine.

    “However, as I’ve gone through marriage, I’ve come to understand that what matters most to me is a partner deeply rooted in faith, someone who has found God, understands God, and consistently chooses God’s path when making decisions. Marriage is unpredictable, and you can’t foresee what might happen,” she explained.

  • I left my marriage because I was bringing in more income than my husband – Yvonne Jegede

    I left my marriage because I was bringing in more income than my husband – Yvonne Jegede

    Nollywood actress Yvonne Jegede has revealed that she ended her marriage due to earning more income than her husband.

    In 2019, less than a year after their wedding, Yvonne disclosed that her marriage to fellow actor Olakunle “Abounce” Fawole had fallen apart.

    In a video teaser for the latest episode of “The Honest Bunch” podcast, the actress expressed regret for prioritizing love over financial stability.

    She mentioned that her ex-husband, being older, often misinterpreted her jokes as disrespectful, which contributed to their divorce.

    She said, “He [my ex-husband] is eight years older than me. But once we got married, if I said, ‘You dey crease,’ he would claim I was disrespecting him.

    “But that wasn’t the main reason I left the marriage. To be honest, I was the primary breadwinner. I’m taking care of my son as if no one else exists around me. It’s not easy. I should have chosen financial security over love.”

    Besides her acting career, Yvonne Jegede is a Nigerian actress, film producer, model, and television personality, known for producing “3 is Company.”

    She gained prominence after her cameo in the music video “African Queen” by 2Face Idibia, alongside Annie Macaulay.

  • Marriage is not a do-or-die thing, if you are unhappy, walk away – Yul Edochie

    Marriage is not a do-or-die thing, if you are unhappy, walk away – Yul Edochie

    Nollywood actor Yul Edochie shared his perspective on marriage, asserting that a man can marry multiple times if he finds his current partner unsuitable.

    In a recent interview, Edochie highlighted the importance of recognizing when a marriage is not working and urged people not to view it as a “do or die” commitment.

    “Marriage shouldn’t be a do-or-die situation. If it’s not working out, part ways amicably. There’s no need to hurt each other. If you move on and find someone else you want to marry, go for it. If that doesn’t work out either, move on again. You could end up marrying fifty times if necessary. You can’t control how people respond to you.

    Happiness is unique to each individual, so don’t let others dictate what’s best for you. Find out what brings you joy. And if you decide never to marry, that’s perfectly okay. Just focus on being happy,” he said.

  • You can marry as many as you want if you are dissatisfied with your wife – Yul Edochie

    You can marry as many as you want if you are dissatisfied with your wife – Yul Edochie

    Nollywood actor Yul Edochie recently expressed his views on marriage, stating that a man can marry multiple times if he feels his spouse is not suitable for him.

    In an interview, Edochie emphasized that people should recognize when a marriage is failing and that it should not be treated as a “do or die” situation.

    “Marriage is not a do-or-die affair. If it’s not working, walk away respectfully. You don’t have to hurt each other. When you move on and find someone else you want to marry, go ahead. If it doesn’t work out again, move on and marry someone else. You could marry fifty times if necessary. You can’t control how others react to you.

    “What brings happiness varies from person to person, so don’t let anyone dictate what will make you happy.

    “Discover what works for you. If you choose to remain unmarried for the rest of your life, that’s perfectly fine. Just be happy,” he stated.

  • “Marriage isn’t a decree, walk away if it’s not working – Yul Edochie advises

    “Marriage isn’t a decree, walk away if it’s not working – Yul Edochie advises

    Actor Yul Edochie has shared his thoughts on handling unsuccessful marriages, promoting a pragmatic approach.

    He stressed that marriage is not mandatory and encouraged couples dealing with irreconcilable differences to separate amicably.

    Yul, who sparked controversy by marrying his colleague Judy Austin while still wed to his wife May Edochie, suggested that individuals should be open to multiple marriages if needed.

    In a recent interview, he highlighted that marriage should not be seen as a do-or-die affair.

    He emphasized the importance of acknowledging when a marriage is failing and exiting the relationship gracefully.

    In his own words, “Marriage isn’t a decree. If it’s not working, walk away. Respectfully. No need for unnecessary pain. If you find someone else you want to marry, go ahead. And if it doesn’t work out again, move on. You can marry multiple times. Everyone’s happiness is different, and don’t let anyone dictate what’s best for you. Find what works for you. And if you’ve chosen not to marry in this lifetime, then don’t. Prioritize your happiness.”

  • Is King Promise married?

    Is King Promise married?

    Circular Musician, King Promise, has explained that the wedding ceremony depicted in his purported music video, which included important figures in the entertainment industry dressed in Kente, was a legitimate marriage ceremony.

    He clarified that he put so much effort into the purported video production since it was a real marriage ceremony in an interview with Doreen Avio on Daybreak Hitz.

    “It was a true African ceremony. Do you think we will waste money like that?” he quizzed.

    He went on to say that just a small number of close friends and family members were invited to the private ceremony. He did, however, imply that a larger wedding might occur shortly.

    “You may never know if there is another wedding coming. Because this was just a little bit of the whole show.”

    This is in response to reports that the wedding films posted online, which included Sarkodie, Dancegod Lloyd, and Joey B among others, were either real weddings or the set of a music video.

    King Promise has promised his well-wishers that he will formally announce his plan to get married when the time is right. However, everyone should be aware that he prefers to keep personal matters private.

    “Everything will unveil itself very soon. Rest assured I’ll unveil it but my private stuff remains private,” he noted.

  • I’m just disappointed our marriage did not work – Medikal

    I’m just disappointed our marriage did not work – Medikal

    Ghanaian rapper Medikal addressed his recent breakup with Fella Makafui in a live radio interview with Bola Ray.

    Medikal clarified that he is not heartbroken but rather disappointed by the situation.

    He shared his thoughts and emotions regarding the split, highlighting that the end of their relationship has left him feeling let down rather than shattered.

    During the interview, Medikal expressed his disappointment because something he hoped would succeed, namely his marriage with Fella, did not work out.

    “I’m not brokenhearted, I’m just disappointed that something I wanted to work out didn’t work out,” Medikal told Bola Ray.

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  • “I am not married but my brains are working” – Delay’s response to fan questioning her marital status

    “I am not married but my brains are working” – Delay’s response to fan questioning her marital status

    Delay, a Ghanaian celebrity, frequently faces pressure about marriage from fans.

    Despite her accomplishments as a career woman and successful businesswoman, some people seem to disregard her due to her unmarried status.

    Nearly every post she shares prompts inquiries from curious fans urging her to marry. In Africa, unmarried women are often viewed as burdens or failures, regardless of their achievements.

    However, Delay refuses to be belittled. She consistently responds to those who criticize her single status.

    In a recent interaction, a fan commented on one of her posts, noting her lack of a husband despite her achievements.

    Delay retorted, emphasizing that while she may not have a husband, her intelligence allows her to earn a significant income.

  • “I would have been married 3 years ago if I knew it would be this sweet” – Kalybos

    “I would have been married 3 years ago if I knew it would be this sweet” – Kalybos


    Comedian Kalybos has revealed that he is thoroughly enjoying the joys of married life, jokingly expressing a wish that he had started this journey earlier.

    In a chat with Felicia Osei on Onua FM, the actor, who tied the knot in 2023, shared his surprising happiness in marital bliss, confessing that the true depth of its delight only became evident after saying “I do” to his wife.

    “I didn’t know marriage could be this sweet until I married the love of my life. If you wake up to realize someone cares and thinks about you more than yourself, it feels good…if I had known it would have married three years ago,” Kalybos remarked.

    During the interview, which featured his longtime cinematic partner, Ahuofe Patri, Kalybos shared insights into moments from his wedding.

    He disclosed that he had kept Ahuofe Patri’s role as the ‘best man’ a secret until the last minute, surprising his groomsmen.

    Kalybos recounted how Prince David Osei, Bismark The Joke, and James Gardiner had believed that one of them would be chosen for the role and had even prepared their toasts accordingly.

    However, the plan changed, and Ahuofe Patri stepped in to deliver the toast.

    Ahuofe Patri also addressed the criticism she faced for assuming the role of ‘best man,’ particularly from those who speculated about a romantic connection between her and Kalybos based on their on-screen chemistry.

  • It is nice, beautiful – Medikal talks about fatherhood

    It is nice, beautiful – Medikal talks about fatherhood


    Ghanaian rapper Medikal recently delved into his experiences with marriage and fatherhood in a candid interview.

    He discussed how his past marriage has deeply affected his life, emphasizing the importance of not underestimating the impact of such a commitment.

    During the interview on Logic Box, Medikal challenged the idea that age determines the success of a marriage, stating that readiness and preparation are key factors.

    He also spoke fondly of his daughter, Island, calling her a blessing and expressing his dedication to providing for her as his only child.

    Medikal expressed his thoughts on fatherhood as being both pleasant and lovely. “I view fatherhood as a beautiful and enjoyable journey,” he remarked.

    With his highly anticipated 02 Arena concert scheduled for May 3rd, which boasts a lineup of top Ghanaian artists, Medikal is gearing up for a major musical event.

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  • Don’t cheat as retaliation, seek counselling – Counselor Charlotte Oduro advises women

    Don’t cheat as retaliation, seek counselling – Counselor Charlotte Oduro advises women

    Renowned Ghanaian marriage counsellor Charlotte Oduro has shared valuable advice for women grappling with partners involved in extramarital affairs.

    She suggests seeking counselling instead of resorting to retaliation, highlighting the risks of responding with infidelity.

    Oduro emphasises the importance of considering walking away from such challenges rather than succumbing to the temptation of retribution.

    “I want women to understand that resorting to infidelity won’t resolve their issues. Don’t allow your anger to lead you to ruin your future. If you find it unbearable to cope with your husband’s infidelity, seek counselling or consider ending the marriage. Don’t respond to wrongdoing with more wrongdoing,” she advised in an interview with Oyerepa FM and monitored by GhanaWeb.

    She warns that choosing to cheat in response to a spouse’s infidelity can have severe consequences, urging women to prioritise their future well-being.

    In an interview with Oyerepa FM, Oduro urged women not to allow anger to dictate their actions and emphasized seeking counselling or contemplating ending the marriage if coping becomes unbearable.

    She emphasized the futility of responding to wrongdoing with further wrongdoing.

    Furthermore, Oduro lamented societal norms that often overlook men’s infidelity while condemning women who react in kind due to emotional pain.

    “Many women are reacting to men’s infidelity out of hurt, but this shouldn’t be the case. They’ve noticed that society often overlooks men’s affairs but condemns women’s, so they feel compelled to retaliate,” she added.

    She highlighted the need for a shift in perspective and encouraged healthier ways of addressing marital challenges.

  • You can cheat on my sister but don’t let her find out – Man advises brother-in-law at marriage ceremony

    You can cheat on my sister but don’t let her find out – Man advises brother-in-law at marriage ceremony

    A Ghanaian man has gone viral on X platform, formerly Twitter, for the advice he gave his future brother-in-law before his marriage to his sister.

    In the video, the middle-aged man, dressed in Kente, advised his future brother-in-law to be smart and cover his tracks if he ever cheats on his sister.

    “We are all men over here. All men are cheaters. The wise ones are those who cheat without letting their wives know.

    “I know pastors will tell you not to cheat on your wife. I know you are a Christian. If you will cheat on your wife, don’t let her know,” he said.

    He insisted that at no point should his mistress be well off than his sister.

    “Don’t take care of your mistress more than your wife,” he said.

    He advised his future brother-in-law to spend lavishly on his sister.

    He explained that since she has been pampered by her loved ones from home, less cannot be expected when she gets married.

    “Don’t be lazy. Be hardworking so you can provide her with money to spend. Because she has been pampered in the home she is coming from. Take her shopping, make her expensive,” he said.

    The man’s counsel has received divided opinions from X users. While others believe the man is in the right, others say such advice should never be considered.

  • Provide my sister money to spend; we pampered her so do same – Man tells future brother-in-law

    Provide my sister money to spend; we pampered her so do same – Man tells future brother-in-law

    A Ghanaian man is currently trending on X platform, formerly Twitter, owing to the piece of advice he gave his future brother-in-law, ahead of his marriage to his sister.

    In the said video, the middle-aged man clad in Kente advised his future brother-in-law to spend lavishly on his sister.

    He explained that since she has been pampered by her loved ones from home, less cannot be expected when she gets married.

    “Don’t be lazy. Be hardworking so you can provide her with money to spend. Because she has been pampered in the home she is coming from. Take her shopping, make her expensive,” he said.

    With regards to promiscuity, the man advised his future brother-in-law to be wise and cover his tracks should he ever cheat on his sister.

    “We are all men over here. All men are cheaters. The wise ones are those who cheat without letting their wives know.

    “I know pastors will tell you not to cheat on your wife. I know you are a Christian. If you will cheat on your wife, don’t let her know,” he said.

    He insisted that at no point should his mistress be well off than his sister.

    “Don’t take care of your mistress more than your wife,” he said.

    The man’s counsel has received divided opinions from X users. While others believe the man is in the right, others say such an advice should never be considered.

  • Rev Owusu Bempah’s heavily endowed ex-wife spotted at Makola

    Rev Owusu Bempah’s heavily endowed ex-wife spotted at Makola

    Nana Abena Anima, the former spouse of the founder of the Glorious Word and Power Ministries International, Prophet Isaac Owusu Bempah, has been spotted in Makola, Accra.

    In a video shared by Ghanaian blogger Zionfelix, Nana Abena Anima was seen attending the grand opening of Mona Hair Empire Gh on April 26.


    Nana Abena Anima, who was Prophet Bempah’s second wife, made an appearance at the event to show her support for the CEO of Mona Hair Empire Gh.

    According to reports, Prophet Owusu-Bempah and his wife divorced just five months into their marriage.

    Prophet Owusu-Bempah has attributed their breakup to interference from another man of God who holds ill feelings towards him.


  • Woman contends sending child to orphanage, stage kidnap to avoid paternity test

    Woman contends sending child to orphanage, stage kidnap to avoid paternity test

    During a recent segment of the “Odo Ahomaso” show, an unnamed woman dropped a bombshell that could potentially unravel her marriage.

    She revealed that a past extramarital affair led to the birth of her eldest child, a revelation that has left her husband questioning the paternity of their children.

    The woman disclosed that her husband stumbled upon incriminating chat details that exposed her infidelity.

    Although they have since had two more children together, doubts about their paternity linger in her husband’s mind.

    In an attempt to address his uncertainty, the husband decided to pursue a DNA test.

    However, the woman is vehemently opposed to this idea, unwilling to confront the truth of her past actions.

    Instead, she shockingly confessed her plans to fabricate a kidnapping scenario involving their eldest child.

    Her intention is to deceive her husband into believing that their child was abducted, thereby avoiding the revelation of her affair and the child’s true parentage.

    “I cannot bear for my husband to discover the truth about my affair and the paternity of our child. I am considering placing the child in an orphanage under the guise of a kidnapping to salvage our marriage,” the woman stated.

    This revelation has sparked widespread debate and concern, highlighting the complex and challenging dynamics of trust, fidelity, and family in relationships.

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  • Be wary of the kind of person you choose as a partner – Kwaku Manu

    Be wary of the kind of person you choose as a partner – Kwaku Manu

    Ghanaian actor Kwaku Manu has emphasized the critical importance of choosing the right life partner, cautioning individuals to be discerning in their selection process.

    In a recent TikTok live session, Manu stressed that marriage, being a divine institution for procreation, demands careful consideration in partner choice.

    Manu highlighted the potential risks of marrying individuals with incompatible attitudes or dishonest character traits, noting that such unions could lead to personal downfall and even affect business ventures.

    He urged people to prioritise honesty and compatibility in their partners to ensure a successful and fulfilling marriage.

    “Marriage is a significant commitment, and marrying the wrong person can have severe consequences. Dishonesty, in particular, can be more detrimental than other issues,” Manu advised, urging vigilance in partner selection to avoid future complications.

    “Marriage is one of the most expensive things in the world because it is God’s wish and command. Some people say things are thriving for them after marriage but if you marry a satanic person, it can lead to your downfall. There are instances where the woman is honest but the man might be a liar.

    “When the woman finds out later, it could jeopardize the relationship. A dishonest woman is more dangerous than one who engages in extra-marital affairs. One of the things I detest in life is lies, such people should be feared,” he advised.

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  • I don’t see how marriage benefits a man – Kojo Yankson

    I don’t see how marriage benefits a man – Kojo Yankson

    Ghanaian media personality Kojo Yankson has sparked a significant debate on social media by sharing his perspective on marriage and its perceived advantages for men versus women.

    During a podcast appearance, Yankson asserted that, from a practical standpoint, there are no inherent benefits for men in marriage.

    He further emphasized that this contrast becomes even more evident when comparing the perceived benefits enjoyed by women in marital relationships.

    “If I’m being practical and I’m assessing things on a simply cost-benefit basis, it hard to see how marriage benefits a man, especially if we’re comparing it to how it benefits a woman,” he said.

    He continued: “Take a single man, take a married man; what are the things that a married man can do and have that a single man cannot do and have?

    “Name one and I’ll get up and leave,” he challenged the host.

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  • Police set free musicians arrested for insulting Ugandan Prez at wedding anniversary

    Police set free musicians arrested for insulting Ugandan Prez at wedding anniversary

    Police have confirmed the release of eight members of the Crane Performers Group, who were previously apprehended on April 6 for allegedly disrupting President Yoweri Museveni’s speech at the wedding anniversary of former Prime Minister Amama Mbabazi.

    The event, celebrating Mr. Mbabazi’s 50th marriage anniversary to Jacqueline Mbabazi, took place at Kampala Serena Hotel on April 6.

    Mr. Luke Owoyesigire, Deputy Spokesperson of Kampala Metropolitan Police (KMP), verified the detainees’ released during a media briefing on April 8.

    He stated that they were freed on the same day they were detained by the Special Forces Command (SFC).

    Further inquiries were deferred to SFC spokesperson Maj Jimmy Omara, who indicated a lack of detailed information regarding the incident.

    The alleged disruption occurred as President Museveni addressed the guests, with the Crane Performers reportedly criticising him in Runyankole for speaking excessively.

    This action was perceived as disrespectful and caused surprise among the audience.

    Security personnel, including Lt Tonny Komakech of the SFC, identified the Crane Performers as responsible for the disruption, leading to their arrest.

    Among those apprehended were the group’s director, Gordon Kayovu, along with Edward Tugume, David Muvunyi, Walter Oleng, Simon Bebwa, Paul Ruduli, and Tonny Okello.

    The detainees were facing charges under the Penal Code Act of 2024, particularly for allegedly insulting the President, a charge that carries a possible penalty of life imprisonment as per the law.

  • Ceremony between Ga priest and minor was not marriage but traditional rite – Chieftaincy Minister

    Ceremony between Ga priest and minor was not marriage but traditional rite – Chieftaincy Minister

    The Minister of Chieftaincy and Religious Affairs, Stephen Asamoah Boateng, has clarified that the viral social media video depicting a ceremony in Nungua was a traditional rite, not a marriage event.

    The ceremony on Saturday, March 30, 2024, sparked controversy, with calls for the arrest of Gborbu Wulomo, Nuumo Borketey Laweh XXXIII, for allegedly marrying a minor against the law.

    After engaging with stakeholders involved, including the Ga priest and the Ministry of Gender, Children and Social Protection, the Minister stated that the event did not involve marrying the girl to the Wulomo.

    “During the event a lot of things were said and the information came out as if they were marrying the girl to the Wulomo.”

    “Through these discussions, it became evident that there were no intentions of carnal relations with the young girl,” he said Sunday, April 07, 2024 on Accra-based JoyNews.

    He emphasized that discussions revealed no intentions of engaging in carnal relations with the young girl.

    Furthermore, the Minister revealed that the girl at the center of the controversy has been relocated from the Nungua Community for her welfare.

    Amid ongoing investigations, Mr. Asamoah Boateng pledged to collaborate with law enforcement agencies and local communities to ensure justice and accountability, reaffirming the government‘s commitment to safeguarding the rights and well-being of minors.

    Following a preliminary investigation, it was disclosed that the girl is not 12 years old, as initially reported, but will turn 16 in June this year.

  • Do whatever you want, we will support you – Wee smokers in Nungua encourage Gborbu Wulomo

    Do whatever you want, we will support you – Wee smokers in Nungua encourage Gborbu Wulomo

    Some residents of the Nungua community have openly declared their backing for the recent marriage of 63-year-old Gborbu Wulomo, Nuumo Borketey Laweh XXXIII, to a minor, Naa Yoomo Ayemuede.

    In a widely circulated video, one of the youths expressed, “Gborbu Wulomo, all I want to tell you is that do what your soul pleases. Don’t be afraid, we smokers are behind you.”

    Gborbu Wulomo faced backlash when a video of the marriage ceremony surfaced online, which took place on Saturday, March 30, 2024, in Nungua.

    According to the Spokesperson of Gborbu Wulomo the young girl would not be required to fulfill marital responsibilities “until the fourth ritual is performed.

    He added that the “Wulomo will not have any sexual relations with her as he will have to wait until she is mature or she reaches the legal age of marriage and childbirth”.

    Meanwhile, the Paediatric Society of Ghana (PSG) strongly condemned the marriage ceremony, emphasizing that it violates the Children’s Act of 1998, which prohibits forcing a child under the age of 18 into marriage.

    However, the GaDangme Council clarified that the relationship between the traditional Ga priest and the 12-year-old girl is a betrothal, not a marriage.

    The Council expressed support for Gborbu Wulomo’s stance, citing initial reports that suggested another ceremony awaited the girl to prepare her for procreation.

    “Important to clarify that the traditional ruler has stated that the relationship with the underage girl is a betrothal and not a marriage. This distinction to us has altered the legal implications.”

    “We are inclined to side with the Gborbu Wulomo since the original reportage made the point that there was another ceremony that awaited the girl to purify and prepare her for procreation.”

  • It is abominable for Gborbu Wulomo to marry a 12-year-old girl – Francis Sosu to CID

    It is abominable for Gborbu Wulomo to marry a 12-year-old girl – Francis Sosu to CID

    The Member of Parliament for Madina, Francis-Xavier Sosu, has lodged a formal complaint with the Criminal Investigations Department (CID) seeking the apprehension, inquiry, and prosecution of Gborbu Wulomo, a 63-year-old traditional leader, for marrying a 12-year-old girl.

    The 63-year-old Gborbu Wulomo, known as Nuumo Borketey Laweh XXXIII, has come under intense scrutiny following the circulation of a video showing his marriage to Naa Okromo, a 12-year-old girl. The controversial traditional wedding took place on Saturday, March 30, 2024, in Nungua.

    In defense, Gborbu Wulomo asserted that the young girl would not be expected to assume marital responsibilities.

    However, Mr. Xavier-Sosu, in his petition to the Director General of the Criminal Investigation Department on Tuesday, April 2, 2024, contended that such a union violates both local statutes and international standards safeguarding children’s welfare.

    He labeled the marriage as “unlawful, void, and against the law,” stressing that under Ghanaian legislation, individuals under the age of 18 are prohibited from entering into marriage.

    Mr. Sosu cited Ghana’s adherence to various international treaties condemning child marriages, including the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW), and Ghana’s 1992 Constitution.

    Furthermore, he underscored that not only does the marriage contravene international law, but it also infringes upon Ghana’s Children’s Act of 1998, which stipulates the legal age for marriage as 18 years old.

    Mr. Sosu urged the CID Director General to take prompt action to safeguard the rights and well-being of children in Ghana.

    “ARTICLE 16 OF THE CONVENTION ON THE ELIMINATION OF ALL FORMS OF DISCRIMINATION AGAINST WOMEN (CEDAW) states that women should have the same right as men to “freely choose a spouse and to enter into marriage only with their free and full consent”, and that the “betrothal and marriage of a child shall have no legal effect and all necessary action, including legislation, shall be taken to specify a minimum age for marriage.“In addition to the above, I wish to respectfully state that, beyond the realm of International Law, Ghana has taken further steps to criminalise Child Marriages and Betrothals in all its ramifications. In Particular, ARTICLE 28 of Ghana’s 1992 Constitution defines a child as a person below the age of eighteen years. In the spirit of Article 28 every child and young person must “receive special protection against exposure to physical and moral hazards”

  • 63-year-old chief marries a 12-year-old girl

    63-year-old chief marries a 12-year-old girl

    A recent marriage ceremony has ignited widespread discussion on social media platforms after a 63-year-old man tied the knot with a 12-year-old girl.

    Identified as Gborbu Wulomo Of Nungua, the man’s decision to marry someone significantly younger has raised eyebrows and prompted reactions from various quarters.

    In response to the public outcry, the Nungua Mantse, known as King Odaifio Welenttsi III, has defended the controversial marriage.

    He cited religious scripture from Leviticus 21:13, which emphasises marrying a young virgin from one’s own community.

    The union has drawn sharp criticism online, with many questioning the appropriateness and legality of such a marriage, particularly given the significant age difference and the young age of the bride.

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  • Ariana Grande to settle ex-husband $1.25m in divorce – Los Angeles Superior Court passes judgement

    Ariana Grande to settle ex-husband $1.25m in divorce – Los Angeles Superior Court passes judgement

    Musician, Ariana Grande and Dalton Gomez’s nearly three-year marriage has come to an official end, as confirmed by a Los Angeles Superior Court judgement on Tuesday.

    The 30-year-old pop sensation and the 28-year-old real estate broker finalised their divorce, with Grande agreeing to a one-time payment of $1.25 million (£980,000) to Gomez as part of their settlement.

    Grande filed for divorce six months ago, citing irreconcilable differences, marking the conclusion of a relationship that began in January 2020, just before the Covid-19 pandemic.

    The couple tied the knot in a “tiny and intimate” ceremony at Grande’s Montecito, California home in May 2021.

    In addition to the monetary settlement, Gomez will receive half of the proceeds from the sale of their Los Angeles property. Grande has also agreed to cover up to $25,000 in his legal fees, with no provision for future alimony.

    The separation, which occurred over a year ago, was facilitated by a prenuptial agreement, and the absence of children or legal disputes allowed for a swift finalisation of the divorce proceedings.

    Gomez, hailing from southern California, has a decade-long career in luxury real estate, as noted on his AKG profile. The couple’s public debut was in February 2020, followed by a cameo in Grande and Justin Bieber’s Stuck With U music video in May of the same year.

    Grande, a two-time Grammy Award winner, recently released her seventh studio album titled Eternal Sunshine on 8 March. She is also set to star as Glinda, the good witch, in the film adaptation of the musical Wicked alongside Cynthia Erivo, Michelle Yeoh, and Jeff Goldblum, scheduled for release in November.

    The divorce marks a new chapter for both Ariana Grande and Dalton Gomez, following a significant period of their lives spent together.

  • It is unacceptable to cheat on your partner during marriage – Kofi Kinaata

    It is unacceptable to cheat on your partner during marriage – Kofi Kinaata

    Ghanaian musician and rapper Kofi Kinaata has made known his take on infidelity. For the “Fante” man, it is unacceptable to be unfaithful to your spouse.

    Kofi Kinaata made his stance known during a conversation on marriage with celebrated Ghanaian musician Kwame Nsiah-Apau known popularly as Okyeame Kwame.

    Prior to his view on infidelity, Okyeame Kwame noted that in the olden days, women were taught that it was okay for their husbands to be unfaithful to them and have concubines.

    According to him, this was practiced by the Akans and as such daughters were discouraged from divorcing their unfaithful husbands.

    “Some of the Muslim girls are taught that a Mallam can have two to three women. In the olden days, the Ashantis taught their daughters that you can’t leave your husband because he has cheated on you. If you are an Ashanti lady and you tell your mother that your husband has cheated on you, she will even slap you. He has cheated on you and so what? Did you die?” he said.

    After Okyeame Kwame’s submission, Kofi Kinaata said, “being unfaithful to your spouse is a no-no.”

  • Marriage is more spiritual than physical – Okyeame Kwame tells Kofi Kinaata

    Marriage is more spiritual than physical – Okyeame Kwame tells Kofi Kinaata

    Celebrated Ghanaian musician Kwame Nsiah-Apau known popularly as Okyeame Kwame, has shared his perspective on what marriage actually is.

    In a discussion with popular Ghanaian musician and rapper Kofi Kinaata on romantic relationships, Okyeame Kwame noted that although the physical attractiveness of ones spouse plays a role during the courtship stage of a relationship, it holds less significance during marriage.

    He noted that while partners can withdraw from each other owing to some hurtful words or actions said or done, the couple is still in a union since they are one in spirit.

    “Marriage is not about body. It is a spiritual matter. You can’t abandon the spirit but you can do that to the body. The body can insult you and you’d get pissed at the body and withdraw but for spirit, you can’t,” he told Kofi Kinaata.

    The two holding a discussion comes as no surprise as Kofi Kinaata featured Okyeame Kwame on his latest song ‘Sika’.

    After the release of the song on March 4, 2024, a lot of music fans have not just admired the synergy of the collaboration but have also wondered why the Rap Dacta would team up with the Fante Rap God for such a masterpiece.

    According to Okyeame Kwame, he had always wished to have a song with Kofi Kinaata, because he respects his creativity. Kwame was the only one who had won the Songwriter of the Year at the Ghana Music Awards (GMA) twice until Kofi Kinaata came to change the narrative, by winning it on three occasions.

    “I wanted to know what is in that head, and I called him for us to do a song together, and during the recording sessions, I realised why he is a great writer, ‘the boy get common sense period’. Very intelligent, very smart, he has learnt the trick and the trade,” he said.

    Okyeame Kwame further noted that it is a big opportunity for him to do a song with Kofi Kinaata, especially taking into consideration all his sterling artistic attributes.

  • My marriage lasted 5 months; I’m not interested in getting married again – Hammer

    My marriage lasted 5 months; I’m not interested in getting married again – Hammer

    Famed music producer Edward Nana Poku Osei, aka Hammer, shared the untold story behind his short-lived marriage, shedding light on the factors that led to his divorce decades ago.

    Hammer disclosed that his marriage lasted only five months, attributing the separation to a lack of compatibility between him and his ex-wife.

    The producer explained that they decided to tie the knot after welcoming a child together before marriage, aiming to avoid societal criticism.

    Despite not being deeply in love, Hammer believed the union could work, opting for a traditional and discreet wedding.

    However, the couple soon realized their lack of affection for each other, leading to an amicable agreement to end the marriage early on.

    Hammer reflected on the situation, asserting, “The match wasn’t made in heaven, but we were great friends, especially because we raised a kid together.”

    Decades after the divorce, he emphasized that his focus has been on prioritizing his children, expressing disinterest in remarriage.
    Nevertheless, Hammer remains open to the possibility of tying the knot again, revealing, “I am currently with a very great woman, and with time and God, you know, it will happen, but I am not in a hurry.”

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  • Iona Reine tells how her journey to marriage started 3 days after meeting her husband

    Iona Reine tells how her journey to marriage started 3 days after meeting her husband

    Ghanaian musician Mercy Onuawonto Sam, also known as Iona Reine, recently recounted how she met her husband, Pastor Okrah, and the conversations that culminated in their marriage.

    She disclosed that, initially, she had no intentions of getting married when she crossed paths with Pastor Okrah, who showed a keen interest in her despite her status as a secular artist.

    Iona shared that one of her songs, titled “Obra,” deeply resonated with her husband during a challenging period in his life. This connection prompted Pastor Okrah to reach out to her via Facebook, sparking conversations that quickly evolved.

    Remarkably, just three days after they began chatting, Pastor Okrah proposed marriage to Iona, signifying the swift progression from their initial interaction to their decision to marry.

    “He [Pastor Okrah] got to know me when I released my song titled ‘Obra.’ He used it to encourage himself while he was in a bad situation. He started following me on Facebook and sent me a DM to propose to me.

    “When we started chatting, he proposed on the third day, so I prayed about it the next day and got an answer. A few weeks later, we met, and I got to know him better. At that time, I did not have plans for marriage and had decided never to go into one, but it happened,” she shared in a TikTok live session.

    Iona Reine’s marriage with Pastor Okrah

    Iona Reine and Pastor Okrah celebrated their union in a modest traditional ceremony held at McCarthy Hills on Thursday, January 11, 2024. Iona donned a beautifully crafted burgundy corset outfit adorned with intricate beadwork, exuding elegance and refinement. Her groom complemented her attire by opting for a matching kaftan, completing their coordinated look.

    Referring to the occasion as a “ministry wedding,” Iona Reine expressed deep gratitude for the transformative influence of Christ in their lives. She reflected on their journey from their previous lives as individuals associated with a different lifestyle to embracing their new roles as gospel ministers. With sincerity, she sought divine grace to sustain their marriage until death parts them.

    This marks Iona Reine’s second marriage, following her previous divorce, and she shares two children with her ex-husband.

  • Greece to legalize same-sex marriage

    Greece to legalize same-sex marriage

    In a garden in the north part of Athens, a four-year-old named Niovi pretends to run a shop and sells imaginary cakes.

    Christina and Victoria may soon see their dream come true as Greece is close to making same-sex marriage legal for them.

    The Parliament will decide on the bill presented by Prime Minister Kyriakos Mitsotakis on Thursday. He will have to get support from the left-wing opposition because some people in his own party disagree.

    Christina and Victoria will be inside the chamber, hoping for it to pass. Two years ago, they came back to Greece from the UK, where they had gone for work and to be together without any restrictions.

    They got married in the UK and their daughter, Niovi, was born there. If the law is approved, they want their marriage to be legal in Greece.

    I don’t have a voice.

    After Niovi was born in London, her parents tried to officially record her as a Greek citizen at the Greek embassy, but they were turned away. Christina remembers someone saying, “You should have thought before having her. ”

    “It was really bad, I cried in the car for 45 minutes and couldn’t stop. It still brings back bad memories,” Victoria says, tears filling her eyes. “It feels like your own country doesn’t want you. ”

    In Greece, the law doesn’t recognize Christina and Victoria as married. Because of this, only Victoria is considered Niovi’s mother, even though Christina provided the egg for Niovi’s birth.

    In school, she can’t make decisions and when Niovi was in the hospital, Christina wasn’t allowed to go in her room.

    “I am really scared that if something terrible happens to Victoria and she passes away, our child will have to go to social services. They will then check if any of Victoria’s family members want to take care of her,” she said.

    “If they don’t, she will have to go to a place for help. ” I cannot make a choice. So the child wouldn’t just lose one mother, she would lose both of us.

    The Church disagrees or goes against something.

    Fifteen out of the 27 countries in the European Union have made same-sex marriage legal. It is allowed in 35 countries around the world.

    Greece has not kept up with other countries in Europe because its strong church has been against changes. If the law is accepted this week, it will be the first country where most people are Christian Orthodox, and the first in the southeastern part of Europe, to allow marriage for everyone.

    Gay couples can adopt children, but they cannot have a baby through a surrogate. Only straight couples with a medical need can do that.

    “Greece is located in the southeast, but its culture and politics are more aligned with the West,” according to Alex Patelis, who is the prime minister’s top economic advisor and also part of the committee that worked on the marriage bill.

    Mr Mitsotakis won the election easily and is now dealing with a weak opposing party. This gives him the opportunity to focus on their issues without hurting his own chances of staying in power.

    Mr Patel says that the bill is very important to the Prime Minister’s beliefs. It’s often believed that human rights and equality are only cared about by left-wing parties, but this bill shows that it’s important to everyone. This is from a center-right political party. It’s important to know that equality and individual rights are also beliefs of the right-wing.

    There are two different groups in Greek society. A recent survey for Proto Thema newspaper shows that 55% of people support same-sex marriage and a slightly smaller majority support adoption by same-sex couples.

    About 50 out of the 158 MPs in Mr. Mitsotakis’s party are expected to either vote against the bill or not be present during the vote.

    The Church of Greece doesn’t like the change. They read a letter during church to say that it would be bad for children if same-sex couples can have children. They think it puts the feelings of gay adults before the needs of kids.

    Bishop Seraphim of Piraeus has been one of the most vocal religious leaders. We watched the priest leading a busy church service at Agii Anargiri Church in the city. People were dressed nicely and kissing icons and bowing their heads.

    He said he would stop MPs who support the bill from coming to his church, and he wishes they were never born.

    He said he won’t baptize kids with same-sex parents because he wants to show them that their parents’ actions are wrong.

    People are gathered outside parliament in Syntagma Square to protest against a bill. They have banners that say “No children for perverts” and are yelling “Take your hands off our kids”.

    A video has images of religious symbols and also has Bill Gates in it. Some people think that Greece is being controlled by a powerful group, and this idea is mixed with the beliefs of traditional Greeks who feel like their customs are being ruined.

    Rallou Perperidou says the Bible states that marriage should be between a man and a woman, and anything else is considered a serious sin.

    God destroyed people who were practicing homosexuality, like he destroyed the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. God will forgive them if they admit they did something wrong and stop doing it.

    Kyriaki Chantzara, who is 38 years old, is at the protest with her sister, who is going to have her tenth baby.

    “Gay people can’t be good role models for kids because we believe it’s important for them to have both a mom and a dad as examples. ” “Every child has the right to have a dad and a mom,” she says.

    In the north of Athens, Niovi, who is four years old, is practicing her English by singing nursery rhymes. Her mom helps her as she reads “Hickory Dickory Dock, the mouse ran up the clock. ”

    As the parliamentary vote gets closer, the women are getting more and more excited. Christina says she is very happy.

    “It’s the beginning of recognizing and appreciating all kinds of people in our country, and understanding that everyone deserves the same rights. ” This will be real for us because I am Niovi’s mother, and the law should support this. The law will make the truth clear.

  • Woman cheats with ex two days after wedding; husband dies of heart break

    Woman cheats with ex two days after wedding; husband dies of heart break

    A man by name Shadrack Boadu has passed away after battling a brief illness believed to be connected to profound emotional distress stemming from a betrayal within his marriage.

    Just a few weeks prior, Boadu had bared his soul on Aunty Naa’s show, recounting a heartbreaking tale of his wife, Louisa, rekindling a relationship with her ex-boyfriend, Alex, a mere 48 hours after their wedding.

    Boadu shared the painful details of his marital woes, describing how Louisa neglected household responsibilities, asserting that he was beneath her social status, and insinuating that she had married him out of pity.

    The shocking revelation unfolded as Boadu continued to unravel the secret affair between his wife and her ex-boyfriend, with Lousia openly suggesting divorce when confronted.

    The emotional turmoil reached its peak as Boadu expressed despair over his mother-in-law’s support for Lousia’s extramarital relationship, exacerbating the unbearable circumstances.

    Tragically, the toll of this heartbreak has claimed the life of Shadrack Boadu, leaving a community in shock and prompting contemplation on the profound impact of emotional distress on individual well-being.

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  • Man dies from heartbreak after his wife dumped him for her ex-bf

    Man dies from heartbreak after his wife dumped him for her ex-bf

    A man by name Shadrack Boadu has passed away following a brief illness, suspected to be linked to emotional distress caused by a heart-wrenching betrayal in his marriage.

    Just weeks ago, Owura had shared his heartbreaking story on Aunty Naa’s show, revealing that his wife, Lousia, had returned to her ex-boyfriend, Alex, a mere two days after their wedding.

    Owura disclosed that Lousia refused basic household chores, claiming he was not of her social standing, and she had married him out of pity.

    The shocking revelation continued, as Owura detailed how his wife maintained a clandestine relationship with her ex-boyfriend, openly suggesting divorce when confronted.

    The emotional turmoil escalated as Owura lamented that his mother-in-law supported Lousia’s extramarital affair, making life unbearable for him.

    Tragically, the toll of this heartbreak has claimed the life of Shadrack Boadu, leaving behind a community in shock and prompting reflection on the impact of emotional distress on individuals’ well-being.

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  • “Enough! marriage is not an achievement, finding the right partner is” – Mary Njoku

    “Enough! marriage is not an achievement, finding the right partner is” – Mary Njoku

    Renowned Nollywood actress Mary Njoku has ignited a meaningful dialogue about the essence of marriage, challenging the prevalent belief that it should be viewed as an achievement.

    Taking to her Instagram account, the esteemed thespian delivered a candid expression, shedding light on the societal pressures women face regarding marriage.

    In her heartfelt message, Njoku criticized the misconception that marriage alone equates to success, emphasizing instead the significance of finding the right life partner.

    She underscored the importance of celebrating the journey of discovering compatibility and building a fulfilling relationship, rather than merely striving for a marital status.


    In her post, Mary Njoku passionately urged married women to reconsider the prevailing notion that marriage should be seen as an achievement. “Enough! Marriage is not an achievement. Finding the RIGHT partner is,” she emphasized, calling for a shift away from pressuring singles into matrimony.

    Highlighting the discontent prevalent in many marriages, Njoku pointed to societal expectations as a significant source of unhappiness. “Over 60% of couples claim happiness often because of societal expectations,” she revealed, shedding light on the detrimental impact of external pressures on marital bliss.

    Njoku shared the poignant story of Ifeoma, illustrating the consequences of succumbing to societal pressure to marry. “That was how Ifeoma was pushed to marry nonsense,” she lamented, recounting Ifeoma’s struggles, including frequent hospital visits and conflicts arising from her unhappy marriage.

    Despite Ifeoma’s hardships, Njoku underscored the irony of married individuals criticizing single women for their marital status, advocating for empathy and space for singles to make significant life decisions without external pressure.

    “Rest Biko. Focus on the Economy! And Let the singles BREATHE,” Njoku concluded, urging for a refocusing of attention towards personal fulfillment and granting individuals the freedom to pursue happiness on their own terms.

  • Court throws out case against Prof Dominic Fobih for marrying 30-year-old Mary

    Court throws out case against Prof Dominic Fobih for marrying 30-year-old Mary

    The High Court at Cape Coast has issued a directive to Professor Dominic Fobih, a former Education Minister during the Kufuor administration, urging him to extend forgiveness to his son and nephew over their objections to his marriage to a 30-year-old woman named Mary Nyamekye Oduro.

    In its ruling, the court emphasized that there were no justifiable grounds for the objections raised against the 80-year-old professor’s decision to marry Mary. The court expressed its support for the union, stating that it saw no reason why Professor Fobih should not be allowed to marry the love of his life.

    The case gained significant public attention in May 2023 when a video of the former minister’s traditional wedding went viral. The objectors, who were identified as the professor’s son and nephew, argued that his decision to marry Mary was irrational, citing his previous stroke and the significant age gap of about fifty years between the couple as potential obstacles to a successful marriage.

    They also raised concerns about Mary’s alleged infidelity and her purported ulterior motives for marrying a much older man.

    Additionally, the objectors questioned whether Professor Fobih was still legally bound to another woman, Beatrice Boateng, whom he claimed to have divorced in 2020 through customary means. However, the court determined that the marriage between Professor Fobih and Beatrice Boateng had indeed been dissolved, dismissing the objectors’ claims as baseless.

    Consequently, the court ruled in favor of Professor Fobih and Mary Nyamekye, declaring them eligible to marry. Furthermore, the court instructed Professor Fobih to forgive his son, Dr. Nick Fobih, and nephew, Nicholas Fobih, for their objections to the marriage. The court also imposed financial penalties of GHC 20,000 against each of the three objectors as costs incurred during the legal proceedings.

  • “Marriage has really made me mature and I am happy with myself” – Becca

    “Marriage has really made me mature and I am happy with myself” – Becca

    Despite the negative reputation associated with celebrity marriages, Becca considers tying the knot with businessman Dr. Tobi Sanni-Daniel six years ago to be one of the most significant and positive events in her life.

    She describes her marriage as a blessing, emphasizing that it has played a crucial role in bringing out a better version of herself.

    During a conversation with Graphic Showbiz on Tuesday, January 30, in Accra, the singer and mother of one expressed how her marital journey has been transformative. She highlighted the positive impact on her character, making her more responsible and thoughtful.

    Moreover, she shared that marriage has influenced her perspective on various aspects of life, including her music career.

    Gratefully acknowledging the profound and positive changes in both her personal and professional life, the Daa Ke Daa hitmaker credited her marriage for contributing significantly to her growth and development.

    “Now, I think through things before reacting, and calmer than I used to be. My perspective on life has changed and I have a better understanding of things. I am also more patient and caring now. Marriage has really made me mature and I am happy with myself”.

    Delving into the challenge of maintaining a balance between marriage and career—a struggle often faced by many in the spotlight—Becca acknowledged the inherent difficulty of sustaining a successful marriage for any couple. Despite these challenges, she revealed her ability to navigate her roles as a wife, mother, and public figure, attributing her success in this balancing act to the enduring bond and love shared with her spouse.

    Responding to whether keeping her marriage away from the public eye has played a role in its strength, Becca expressed skepticism, stating that she does not believe it to be a significant factor.

    “I haven’t kept my marriage on the quiet, it is not deliberate. Yes, my husband is a more private person but he still has my career at heart. I think our strong connection is the driving force.”

    “We are not really on the quiet, my husband and I are out there. I love him, he loves me and we do our thing. He is a businessman and his kind of business is not out there and that is probably why you don’t see or hear of him often. I just love my husband to bits and that is what keeps us going,” she added.

  • Pastor gave his wife abortion medicine through malt, which almost ended her life

    Pastor gave his wife abortion medicine through malt, which almost ended her life

    Joel Amofa and Mary Kononadu, husband and wife, have drawn attention from the public because of their unsolved marital problems.

    In the video, Mary Konadu, the lady involved, opened up about the turbulent nature of her marriage with Pastor Joel Amofa, expressing disbelief at discovering his deceitful double identity.

    “ I chanced upon a document belonging to him (Pastor Joel) , only to find out the original age he used to seek for my marriage which was 33 is not so he’s just 29-years old ,” Mary Konadu disclosed.

    Detailing the ups and downs of their married life, Mary revealed that her husband, upon learning of her pregnancy, refused to take responsibility and even resorted to drastic measures to terminate the unborn child.

    Mary disclosed that Pastor Joel Amofa went to the extent of poisoning a drink ( Malt) with an abortion pill in an attempt to induce a miscarriage.

    “ I felt something in my stomach after I drank Malt, I realised I was feeling uneasy, I went for a check up in the hospital only to find out I was poisoned, I lost my child in the process.”

    When contacted by phone, the pastor neither denied nor disputed the allegations, confirming his involvement in the attempt to terminate the pregnancy.

    The shocking revelations have ignited a firestorm of controversy on social media, with many condemning the pastor’s actions and questioning the appropriateness of such behavior from a religious leader.

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  • Emotional qualities every wife should possess

    Emotional qualities every wife should possess

    This sage marriage counsel came from my mother-in-law years ago, advice I initially brushed aside in my early relationship days. Unaware of its significance as golden guidance for a healthy love life and how to be a good wife, I found myself repeating the same patterns in my second relationship, leading to less-than-ideal outcomes.

    In the quest for love, couples thrive on mutual nurturing rather than mothering, a distinction often overlooked. Many mistakenly perceive them as interchangeable, but they are fundamentally different.

    Exploring why some individuals, irrespective of gender, tend to adopt a mothering role in their relationships, I have delved into this conundrum over time, largely spurred by introspection into my own strong inclination to mother.

    I’ve concluded that my propensity for mothering is rooted in a lack of positive parenting during my childhood. Faced with insufficient nurturing, I externalized my inner child wounds by adopting a caregiving role for various animals, ranging from cats and dogs to goats and chickens.

    While there’s nothing inherently wrong with a generous heart, it’s essential to recognize and understand the impulses that drive us into overdrive.

    My personal lesson in love revealed that I had mistakenly equated nurturing with mothering when it came to my significant other. Nurturing, as opposed to mothering, is empowering, and here are three reasons why it stands as the most crucial piece of marriage advice.

    We see where our partner needs support but do not override their autonomy

    For example, you offer to make your partner tea when they are tired or simply to do something nice for them.

    Another time, they offer to make you tea, and you accept and don’t resist their offer by saying that you’ll do it (because you feel you can do it better/quicker perhaps or simply out of that mothering habit).

    In a good marriage, there is space for kindness and space for support. Learning to step back from our desire to ‘do it all’ is a step toward healthy self-esteem.

    Nurturing gives rise to sovereignty for either partner

    I don’t think we speak enough about sovereignty in healthy relationships. Too much societal, sugar-coated love indoctrination can make us feel that we should become one.

    A more balanced viewpoint is, as the Buddhists say, two flames sharing a path, with room for each to actualize their individuality.

    We create feelings of empowerment

    As partners in a marriage, we share responsibilities while sustainably offering ourselves.

    Sustainability in love stems from truly knowing our boundaries and our abilities to give ongoingly without burnout.

    Meanwhile, there are 3 reasons why mothering your husband or wife invalidates them.

    It sends the signal that we are willing to sacrifice ourselves and our needs for their benefit. It not only invalidates their abilities to take care of themselves but screams about our lack of self-worth.

    It creates further expectations of continuing the same behavior, setting up a pattern difficult to reverse. Whether we mother out of some kind of guilt or from our unhealed wounds and shadows, the result is the same — habits that lead to exhaustion, resentment, and anger.

    Mothering our partner can lead to a loss of respect. Once resentment sets in, we begin to blame the other party for our habit which in effect trained them to expect what we now no longer wish to do. I’m not sure which comes first, the loss of respect for ourselves or our partner, but either way, it makes for a bad relationship.

    What is a more sustainable path? It considers self-love as integral to the ‘whole’ of the relationship.

    No one person should sacrifice themselves for another nor should they ignore the needs of the other, without being taken advantage of.

    To be taken advantage of is to allow it, and the responsibility of whether we are participating in mothering versus nurturing rests with us.

    “They took advantage of my good will” is a disempowering statement often cited by serial motherers which shifts their lack of boundaries to our partner.

    It’s difficult it is to break such patterns as it takes some honest self-talk to dig deep into that and come up with something that helps us move through it.

    Having a conversation with our partner about what’s not working may seem daunting, even impossible.

    Begin with an act of self-love. Take a bath, a walk, and make a nourishing meal for yourself. That is always a centering, grounding way to enter any conversation.

    Be empowered and glass-filled, open to the possibility that there is a way forward. You may be surprised by the response you receive when you approach your beloved. But it all begins with opening up to what you need, what brings peace to your own heart.

    Author Kim McMillen stated, “When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy.

    This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits — anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” 

    I encountered many of my excuses along the way to truly knowing what co-dependence comes from mothering a lover.

    And so often, co-dependence, dressed as love, unpacks all those cozy, healthy, fun, romantic ways we used to enjoy before we created a monster of self-sacrifice.

    The good news is, that stepping back to see ourselves in a clear light, allowing for self-love, gathering our courage, and opening an honest conversation can bring a much-needed liberation. It can bring balance and equanimity to any relationship.

    It all boils down to what kind of expectations we have placed on ourselves and listening to the honest feedback we receive from our bodies and emotions when something doesn’t feel right anymore. What’s left is acting upon that feedback.