A 27-year-old woman is embroiled in a legal dispute after refusing to become the second wife of a 55-year-old married man who has been financially supporting her.
During an appearance on TV3’s “Confessions,” a tell-all program, the woman disclosed that her wealthy benefactor, who gives her a weekly allowance of GH¢ 1,500, has threatened legal action if she does not agree to his marriage proposal.
Although the man, who is already married with children, professes to love her more than his wife and wishes to formalize their relationship, the woman disagrees.
“I am with this guy, and we have been together for a year and a half now; he is the type of man who will not even wait for me to ask him for money. He gives me an allowance of GH¢ 1500 a week. He has rented an apartment for me and helped me open a business. He has even got me a car. I am living a comfortable life without stress when it comes to money.
“But the issue is he is 55 years old and I am 27. He is married and his wife and kids live abroad. Now looking at how comfortable I have been my parents have been pressuring me to introduce them to my boyfriend but little did they know that this said boyfriend is their age mate.
“I genuinely do not love him that much. I am just with him because he makes life easy. I get the money, and I live comfortably,” she said.
Despite the financial perks, such as a rented apartment, a business, and a car, the woman hesitates to marry him because of their age difference and the potential ridicule from her friends and community.
“He called me one day and said he wanted us to get married, but this is not what I signed up for. I thought we were just going to chill and have fun and spend some money; then, he would go back to his wife and kids. So, where is this marriage thing coming from?
“He is telling me that he loves me more than his wife and wants to make me a second wife. look at his age, my friends will laugh at me.
“He is saying that if I do not marry him, he is going to take me to court and demand everything he has been giving me since day one.”
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A car, GHC1500 weekly, and a looming ultimatum: marry him or lose it all. This is the reality of a 27-year-old with a 55-year-old boyfriend 😥#Confessionspic.twitter.com/AvoZYggHN9
Rebecca Nyomi, aged 16, is currently in police custody after setting fire to her ex-boyfriend’s room in Mankessim’s New Nkusukum suburb following their breakup.
The incident unfolded after a heated confrontation at Samuel Agbobli’s cornmeal shop, where Nyomi demanded money (“chop money”) but was informed by Agbobli that their relationship was over due to accusations of infidelity. Despite pleading for forgiveness, Nyomi was forcibly ejected from the shop.
Distraught, Nyomi gained access to Agbobli’s room using a spare key and set it ablaze before locking all entrances. She then returned to her workplace. Agbobli was alerted to the fire by a phone call and arrived to find his possessions destroyed.
An eyewitness, who had been confided in by Nyomi about the breakup and her boyfriend’s behavior, witnessed the incident. Local residents managed to extinguish the flames, though significant damage had already occurred.
Nyomi later admitted to starting the fire, claiming she had contributed to purchasing items in the room. While Agbobli confirmed the breakup, he expressed shock at Nyomi’s extreme reaction.
The Assembly Member for New Nkusukum, Hon. Alhaji Alli Amoah Abubakuri,condemned the incident and called on young people to avoid such destructive behavior in relationships.
Nyomi is currently cooperating with police investigations at Mankessim Police Station, following her apprehension by community members.
In Kasoa Adam Nana, within the Awutu Senya East Municipality of the Central Region, a distressing incident unfolded involving a 27-year-old man named Justice and his girlfriend.
Reports indicate that the couple engaged in a violent altercation resulting in critical injuries to Justice and the confirmed death of his girlfriend.
Allegedly, the deceased, a level 200 student, instigated the violence by stabbing her boyfriend.
In response, Justice also inflicted wounds upon her.
According to police sources, the altercation erupted when the deceased received a call from a friend informing her that Justice had brought another woman to his residence.
Reacting impulsively, she rushed to Justice’s house on a motorbike armed with a knife and immediately attacked him upon his opening the door.
Tragically, the deceased stabbed Justice in the back, prompting him to also grab the knife and retaliate. In the heat of the moment, he stabbed her multiple times in the chest, resulting in her untimely demise.
A distraught individual, Stephen Luke, who gained attention in a viral video where he was openly emotional while conversing with his girlfriend in a Trotro, has provided context for his actions.
He recounted meeting his girlfriend when she faced adversity as a school dropout due to financial constraints. Despite this, he supported her education through Senior High School.
However, financing her tertiary education proved challenging. Instead, he opted to assist her in acquiring vocational skills by purchasing a machine for her training.
Tragically, his mother fell ill soon after acquiring the machine, leaving him unable to afford her medical care, ultimately leading to her passing.
Despite his relentless efforts to secure a brighter future for his girlfriend, she ultimately chose to leave him for a wealthy individual, resulting in his emotional state as seen in the video.
Here is the video below:
A heartbroken man identified as Stephen Luke, who went viral in a video where he was seen expressing emotions while on a phone call with his girlfriend in a Trotro, has explained the events that led to his actions.
A 38-year-old unemployed man, Ebenezer Addoh, has been arraigned before an Accra Circuit Court for allegedly stealing GH₵46,700 from his girlfriend’s safe.
Upon arrest, only GH₵2,000 was recovered from him. Addoh reportedly informed the police that he had spent the remainder of the money.
Charged with theft, Addoh pleaded not guilty.
The court, presided over by Basilia Adjei-Tawiah, granted him bail in the sum of GH₵40,000 with two sureties, who must be civil servants earning at least GH₵2,000 each.
The court also recommended that the parties explore court-connected Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR). The case has been adjourned to July 2.
Assistant Superintendent of Police (ASP) Seth Frimpong, leading the prosecution, stated that the complainant, a trader in Accra, lives with her sister Paulina Asiedu, a witness in the case, at Darkuman Junction. Addoh resides in Gbawe.
On September 18, 2023, Addoh visited the complainant’s house and encountered Paulina at home. He then went to rest in the complainant’s bedroom before leaving the premises.
Upon returning from the market, the complainant discovered that her money safe had been broken into and GH₵46,700 was missing.
According to the prosecutor, the complainant petitioned the Director General of the Criminal Investigations Department.
Subsequently, on September 16, 2023, Addoh was arrested at his hideout in Gbawe Tope-Base for investigation.
During interrogation, Addoh admitted to stealing the money and revealed that he had spent part of it.
The prosecutor informed the court thatduring the investigation, GH₵2,000 was recovered from Addoh and kept as evidence.
A man has allegedly killed her 40-year-old girlfriend, Alberta Armah Hagan and her two daughters after he stole twenty thousand Ghana cedis from her at the Net Link Estate community in Kasoa.
Per Angel FM’s account, the man performed the act after his girlfriend filed a complaint against him at the police station for withdrawing the said amount without her consent.
This heinous act by the suspect also left two of the deceased mother’s children critically injured; aged 9 months and 6 years old.
Presently, the 6-year-old boy and 9 months baby is in critical condition, receiving medical care under police supervision at the hospital.
According to reports from Angel FM, the perpetrator also happens to be the father of Alberta Armah Hagan’s youngest child.
The report further revealed that the father of her other three children has been living abroad for six years.
Consequently, the deceased woman had been involved in a relationship with the alleged assailant, resulting in a nine-month-old son.
A young Ghanaian army recruit experienced heartbreak when his girlfriend failed a loyalty test he arranged.
Dressed in his army uniform on his way home from work, the soldier was approached by Streetz Traffic, a content creator, to test his girlfriend’s fidelity.
Confident in his relationship, the soldier agreed to the test, asking his girlfriend, Tracy, over the phone to name her partner. Tracy mentioned another man, Sammy, instead of him.
This revelation devastated Ernest, leaving him angry and betrayed. He was unable to comprehend Tracy’s response, having left her at home in Breman, Ashanti Region, that morning.
Ernest’s distress was evident as he sat in anguish, expressing his emotions in an open gutter, despite attempts by Streetz Traffic to console him.
Opinions among Ghanaians varied upon viewing the video, with some dismissing it as staged.
In a separate incident, a young man demanded his ex-girlfriend return a television set he had bought her after she left him for another man. He expressed his frustration during a phone conversation with his ex-lover.
A young man recently took to social media to reveal the elaborate list provided by his girlfriend‘s family after expressing his intention to marry their daughter.
The requirements were categorised into three sections, each demanding a distinct set of items.
In the initial section, the family requested six crates of soft drinks, two crates of malt, two bottles of Schnapp, and two bottles of Kasapreko bitters.
Moving on to the second group, the man was instructed to present pieces of Kente cloth along with a specific amount of cash to the bride’s parents and siblings.
The third and final group comprised a comprehensive list, including an ecolac, wedding rings, jewelry, handkerchiefs, cooking utensils, and a GH¢1,500 dowry.
The disclosure on social media has sparked conversations about the tradition of marriage requirements, with many expressing their opinions on the perceived extravagance of the demands.
A viral video circulating on social media, a man sparks controversy by publicly rejecting a lavish Valentine’s Day surprise orchestrated by his girlfriend.
The incident, set in an upscale restaurant, unfolds as the girlfriend enlists the help of restaurant staff to present hampers filled with gifts adorned with Valentine’s Day messages.
The boyfriend‘s public refusal of the thoughtful gesture has ignited a widespread uproar on social media, with netizens expressing a range of reactions from criticism to indifference.
A video of a lecturer proposing to his girlfriend unexpectedly in front of her colleagues is making the rounds on social media, showing off a touching act of love and appreciation.
The viral video, now trending on Twitter as X, depicts the lecturer kneeling with a ring in hand, passionately asking the girl to be his wife.
The shy but delighted lady accepted the proposal amid cheers and chants from onlookers.
This touching incident unfolded at Abia State University Uturu (ABSU), a Nigerian public university, garnering widespread attention and mixed reactions from netizens.
While some express surprise at the unconventional setting, others admire the romantic gesture, sparking a debate on the ethicality of such public proposals.
American R&B sensation Usher has sealed the deal with his longtime girlfriend, Jennifer Goicoechea, in a joyous celebration surrounded by close friends and family.
The intimate wedding, witnessed by Usher’s mother Jonetta Patton, marked a significant milestone in the couple’s love story.
Usher’s spokesperson confirmed the news, expressing the couple’s eagerness to embark on this new chapter together.
“Usher and Jennifer Goicoechea took the next step in their relationship and got married on Sunday night in Las Vegas surrounded by close friends and family
“The couple looks forward to nurturing their family in a loving environment, enveloped by affection and well-wishes from everyone,” the representative announced.
Speaking to People magazine, Usher opened up about the importance of marriage and commitment. “When you find someone who is a great partner, it’s an honour and a pleasure to share life with someone who loves you for who you are,” he shared.
Emphasising their commitment, especially as parents, Usher hinted at the natural progression of their relationship to marriage. “We’ve made a commitment to life together because of our children,” he added.
The wedding not only celebrates their love but also stands as a testament to the couple’s journey, showcasing their dedication to each other and their family.
Usher and Goicoechea’s union not only unites two hearts but also their families, setting a beautiful example of love and commitment.
As Usher and Jennifer Goicoechea embark on their married life, their story resonates globally, including in Nigeria, where Usher has a strong fan base.
Their marriage serves as a reminder of the beauty of commitment and the joy that comes with sharing life with a loved one.
A Ghanaian bus conductor, Gideon, got himself tangled up with the law for inflicting cutlass wounds on a man who accused him of having a relationship with his girlfriend.
He denied the claim about searching for the girlfriend in question. According to Gideon, he is only acquainted with the young lady and has never had any romantic interest in her.
The man got physical with Gideon because he had been informed that Gideon was interested in his girlfriend.
In a video shared by Crime Check Foundation, Gideon earlier engaged in combat on Saturday at Donyina station in Ejisu district and after intervention from elders, calm was temporarily restored, but on Sunday, he was attacked while on the pitch. He reciprocated.
“He brought a knife to attack me at Donyina station but those around intervened, and we all left for home. The following morning, I was on the park when he came accompanied by four others to beat me. That day, the park had been dug and I chanced upon someone’s knife and so I got hold of it to protect myself. It was four of them against me.
“They came with canes and knives. They managed to strike the knife against my head and I reciprocated,” he said.
He continued: “So I eloped for safety at my girlfriend’s house. She went to report to the police that some people wanted to kill me, so they should rescue me. Instead of rescuing me, they arrested me. They said the wound I inflicted on my attacker was larger than mine, so they would arrest me.”
A prison officer, on his part, noted that Gideon may have been arrested and fined due to other factors such as the individual who initiated the attack, drew the first weapon or struck first.
According to Gideon, his attacker was not charged or jailed. He was fined GHS3,000, but due to the kind gesture of Dr. Kofi Danso, Gideon is now a free man after settling the fine.
A viral video captures an intense moment at a local church, where a man confronted his girlfriend, accusing her of abandoning him for another man.
The emotional scene unfolded during a Sunday service, leaving congregants in shock as the man passionately recounted their journey together.
The footage reveals the man’s efforts to uplift his girlfriend’s life, bringing her from their village and improving her overall quality of life.
The church, typically a place of spiritual solace, unexpectedly became a stage for personal turmoil as the man poured out his heartache in front of the congregation.
Expressing his emotional turmoil, the man emphasized the sacrifices he made to enhance the lady’s quality of life.
He claimed to have taken her from their village, offering her a new life in the city, and investing significant time and resources in ensuring her well-being.
According to him, ‘Oga pastor, this girl I took her from the village, I trained her… It will not happen.’
Congregants were taken aback by the unfolding drama, with some attempting to mediate and others simply observing in disbelief.
The church leadership eventually intervened, escorting the distressed man away from the pulpit to address the matter privately.
In church, a distraught man emotionally confronts his girlfriend, accusing her of abandoning him for another man, despite him bringing her from their village and improving her quality of life.
A shocking incident captured on social media reveals a cheating boyfriend who faced a brutal confrontation when his incensed girlfriend and her brothers invaded their church to settle the score.
The video reveals the girlfriend, accompanied by her brothers, entering the church determined to locate the unfaithful boyfriend.
Upon spotting him, they wasted no time in confronting him without giving him a chance to explain himself.
Sources report that the girlfriend had discovered her boyfriend’s infidelity with another woman and opted to deliver a lesson by publicly humiliating him within the confines of their shared place of worship.
In a bid to defend himself, the cheating boyfriend attempted to fight back, but quick-thinking church members intervened, preventing the situation from escalating further.
As the pastor continued preaching to the congregation, a surreal sense of disbelief permeated the church as the dramatic confrontation unfolded before their eyes.
A man identified as Kwadwo Ben, who works as an Okada rider, has been accused of murdering his 17-year-old girlfriend, Adwoa Adadzoa, and reportedly kept her lifeless body in a bedroom for three days in Mpatuam, located in the Amansie West District of the Ashanti Region.
The suspect, believed to be in his mid-20s, allegedly committed the crime on Tuesday, November 6, 2023.
However, it wasn’t until Thursday, November 8, 2023, that some residents in the area discovered the deceased girl’s body in Kwadwo Ben’s room.
The mother of the victim, Akosua Nkrumah, shared this information in an interview with OTEC News reporter Jacob Agyenim Boateng.
“They have been dating for some time now, although I did not approve of it, the two kept going out, just three days ago my daughter visited him and did not return”.
“We live in the same community and so my daughter sometimes spends time with him, I never suspected any foul play until some boys in the area informed me about the incident. I rushed to the scene with some people only to confirm that indeed my daughter was dead”
“We invited the police and upon their arrival, they said their preliminary investigation suggests my daughter might have died three days ago”, she said.
She went on to say that the dead had deep, dark scars around her neck and that blood was dripping from her nose and anus.
The body has been transported to the morgue at Frimpong Boateng Hospital in order to be preserved.
Arrest:
The bereaved mother stated that the suspect had been arrested.
She said the suspect was arrested by some residents while he was making arrangements to get the body out of the room and secretly dispose of it.
He was subsequently handed over to the police at Anhwerewa where he is being investigated.
A final year student of Physics at the University of Port Harcourt (UNIPORT), identified as Collins, allegedly killed his girlfriend, Justina Otuene Nkang, a 300-level Biochemistry student of the same university, for ritual purposes.
The incident happened on October 22, 2023, at the suspect’s residence on Road 15, NTA Road, Port Harcourt. The suspect was caught by the estate security when he was trying to dispose of the victim’s body in a wheelbarrow. The security alerted the police, who arrested the suspect and recovered the body.
The victim’s body was mutilated and wrapped in bloody sacks. It was alleged that the suspect plucked out her eyes and cut off her breast. The suspect claimed that the victim slept and did not wake up, but he did not explain why he butchered her.
The victim was reported missing on October 20, 2023, after she boarded a bolt ride from her workplace at Prestige Specialist Hospital. She was last seen by her colleagues and friends on that day. Her family and friends launched a search for her on social media, but their efforts were in vain.
The suspect is currently in police custody assisting in investigations. The state’s Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO), Grace Iringe-Koko, said the Commissioner of Police (CP) would address the press on the development by 12 p.m. on October 26, 2023.
The murder case has sparked outrage and condemnation on social media, with many users calling for justice for the victim and an end to ritual killings in the country. Some users also expressed sympathy and condolences to the victim’s family and friends.
This is a tragic and shocking case that has shaken the UNIPORT community and the nation at large. I hope that justice will be served and that the victim’s soul will rest in peace.
Damian Collins, the Yahoo guy that used her girlfriend for money ritual in UNIPORT, he was using Content Creation to cover Up.
Many individuals, particularly women, desire assurance and certainty that they hold an exclusive position in a relationship, except for those who willingly choose to be involved as “side chicks.”
Indeed, regardless of the circumstances, individuals still seek reassurance that the conditions under which they entered into a relationship or situationship have remained unchanged. It is a common desire for people to feel valued and cherished not only at the beginning of a relationship but throughout its entirety, with the hope that the connection will endure indefinitely.
So how exactly does one give assurance to his girlfriend or the woman in his life?
PRO TIP: You don’t have to have ₦30 billion in the account to do any of these.
1. Assure her that she’s the only one
Look her in the eye, tell her she’s the only one. Hold her face in your hands as you say so. Be close enough for the timbre of your voice to create gentle echoes in her heart and spread into every tiny bit of her consciousness.
She needs to be reassured that despite how rough life can get sometimes, she’s still the one you with whom you want to find calmness, the one with whom, and in whose arms you want to enjoy *-the peace and tranquility that always comes after the storm.
And mean it every time you say it.
2. Reassure her that she’s beautiful
Yes, her beauty drew you in. The alignment of her eyes and nose and lips and the way her smile lit something inside you and made your heart skip like a lamb… it all made you die for her. And it wasn’t until you got her that you felt alive again.
Never let her forget this. You need to always reassure her that she’s still beautiful, that time has not put a film too thick in your eyes to stop you from seeing how pretty she is.
The problem is that guys often forget this. They often become numb to the beauty their babes are. Don’t be that guy who forgets to melt at the terrific beauty he’s been blessed with. Always remind yourself of how lucky you are and let her know about it. Other guys may say it, but she needs it for you.
3. Assure her with gifts
Ok. You may think I do not have ₦30Billion in your account but you actually do not need a Porsche before to impress your girl.
Little gifts, grand gifts, and everyone you give within your means to please your girl are assurances that you have her in your mind and that she’s special.
Don’t ever forget to keep assuring her.
4. Reassure her of the future
She wants to be sure that this is not just about the here and now.
Sure, everyone wants to live in the moment and it’s good to not overthink things, but she also needs reassurances that the future is secure and she’s not just wasting her today with you.
5. Show it
Every action that confirms your love to her, never hesitate to do them. The goal is to never let her forget, to never let things get into doubt.
On Saturday, June 17 a man who killed his 23-year-old lady girlfriend at Trom, a suburb of Koforidua in the Eastern Region has voluntarily surrendered to the police.
The deceased body was found in her rented apartment on Saturday night after the suspect, her boyfriend, led police to the place.
According to co-tenants with the deceased, theboyfriend was the last person to visit her during a naming ceremony.
They are shocked at the incident because they did not hear any scream for help from the deceased room.
“I saw him when he entered, he didn’t even greet us. He looked calm in demeanour. I am so shocked this has happened. When he entered we were already having the naming ceremony. This is soo sad,” one of the male tenants said.
A return to the scene with the suspect on Sunday to find the sharp object used in the murder was not unsuccessful, police said.
A careful observation of the scene indicates the deceased struggled with the suspect.
The suspect is currently in police custody as investigations continue.
This is the second case of a murder by a suspected boyfriend in a space of weeks in the Eastern Region.
The couple had known each other for years and their bond grew stronger as Rashford’s football career progressed from his teenage years.
Last summer, Rashford proposed to Loi in a lavish manner in Los Angeles, indicating a significant milestone in their relationship.
Unfortunately, as reported by The Sun, the couple has now chosen to go their separate ways and are no longer together.
The power couple appeared to have taken their relationship to the next level last summer after Rashford popped the big question in a lavish proposal in Los Angeles.
However, the two are said to have split up, with The Sun reporting the two are no longer an item.
How Rashford and Lucia split
According to the publication, all was seemingly going well this year, with the couple going all out with candles and flowers at their Manchester home during Valentine’s Day.
In April, Rashford is also said to have chartered a plane to whisk Lucia to New York for a holiday.
However, it now seems that was the last good time the couple shared together.
“It’s nothing complicated. The relationship ran its course and they remain very close friends,” a source privy to the development was quoted saying.
Rashford spotted partying
The fresh details come just days after Rashford was spotted hanging out with a gang of giggling girls while on holiday in Miami.
Goal reports theManchester United forward flew to Florida to coach young children after an incredible season with the Red Devils that saw him bag 30 goals in 56 appearances.
It was during this period that he took some time off his busy schedule to party in Miami at a nightclub.
It has been reported that the Englishman splashed on champagne and food at an exclusive cabana.
A 28-year-old man has allegedly killed his girlfriend, a 27-year-old pregnant woman and his 7-year-old son in Anwiankwanta- Paona in the Ashanti Region.
This report was contained in a video posted by Accra-based UTV.
The suspect whose name is given as, Isaac Kwadwo Nyarko, 28 and a welder, allegedly murdered his pregnant wife; Agnes Duah, 27 and Emmanuel Twumasi, 7 in cold blood on May 27, 2023.
According to the report, the suspect after allegedly killing the two, escaped to Kwamankese near Mankessim in the Central Region.
The suspect is reported to have admitted to the crime committed when he was apprehended and arrested by the police in Anwiankwata.
“He explains that he was in a relationship with the lady, but he didn’t reside in the Anwiankwata community, he moved from another place to visit the lady. They had an argument in a time past that resulted in him taking everything he got for the lady. He later resented his decision and returned them because she was his girlfriend and pregnant,” the report said.
The report continued to narrate that the suspect claimed nagging from Agnes his girlfriend during his visits led him to believe that she no longer had feelings for him, even though she was carrying his child.
“Ever since he returned the things, the lady nags every time he visits. That made him conclude that the lady doesn’t love him any longer even after carrying his baby. On that fateful day [May 27] when he was visiting, he bought and poisoned yoghurt and fan milk for the lady to eat. After which she became weak. While at that, he used a sharpened cutlass and a hoe-like tool which he had on him to jab the neck of the lady to the extent that her head went off her body,” the report added.
Upon committing the crime, he was slipped by the oozing blood and accidentally woke his son who was asleep and killed him as well.
“After killing her, the blood that oozed from the body caused him to slip and accidentally stepped on the hand of the kid who was asleep. When he woke up, the son asked, ‘Daddy so you have killed mummy’. When he heard that from his son, he concluded that a child who could be conscious enough to make such remarks could testify against him. So, he used the tool he used in the killing his mother to chop off the head of the boy just as he did to his mother. After the act, he used a padlock to lock up the room as though there was no one available and run away,” the narration continued.
The report added that three days later, the community, on suspicion of the absence of Agnes and her son, reported to the police.
“Upon not seeing Agnes and his son, the community members went to the police station to report that the said lady and her son have not been seen for three days now. The police went to their house to break the door to the room only to meet the rotting bodies of the lady and her son in the room. The police went on a manhunt for him only to append him and he confessed to committing the crime,” the report stated.
Kumasi-based musician, Ypee, has stated that he is unconcern that he broke his ex-girlfriend’s heart after all the financial support he received from her.
The musician in his interview with Delay mentioned that although his parents were taking care of him during his days as a student at the University of Ghana, he quit a month after enrolling because he needed a huge amount of money.
“I wanted ‘block money’ which is why I left the school. Also, being at Legon, I couldn’t endure the pressure. As a level 100 student, there was a hostel called Pent. When I pass by the hostel, the kind of cars I see over there, are my dream cars, and I want those cars too,” he said in the interview monitored by GhanaWeb.
“I saw a girl, I tried calling her, and the next thing I saw was her pressing the key to her car, so I then thought, ‘Oh, is this the case’,” he added, disclosing that these informed his decision to quit school.
While he tried to survive, he met another woman who assisted him financially. According to him, he invested in “family businesses with the funds she provided.
“She liked me so I told her to support my dream which is the music I do. She was my girlfriend; we dated for two years,” Ypee revealed.
A curious Delay asked: “So after you made it, you left her?”, to which Ypee answered “I didn’t leave her. She noticed we couldn’t be together. My focus was different and she noticed we couldn’t get along.”
Ypee disclosed that the said woman was four years older than him.
“So, when you stopped dating, were you brokenhearted?” Delay asked.
Without hesitation, the 27-year-old responded: “For me, I wasn’t brokenhearted. I can’t say same for her.”
Delay followed up with another question in an attempt to see how he feels about the breakup as she asked, “So you don’t care about whether she was brokenhearted or not?”
Ypee replied: “No, she’s the one whose heart is broken; she is the victim”.
American rapper Kanye West is making headlines after he stepped out with a BBL lady with blondehair.
Recall that it was reported that the rapper Kanye West had gone missing. After two weeks of ghosting everyone, he was later seen in a black car with a mysterious lady in the front seat.
After he stepped out with the woman yesterday, some paparazzi have alleged that the two might be dating. There have been reports from Media Takeouts that the alleged girlfriend of Kanye West may be a pretty prominent fashion designer.
According to multiple online reports, the woman seen out with Kanye is believed to be Australian swimwear designer Bianca Elouise Anstiss; although not confirmed.
The young lady who appeared in Forbes’s top 30 list is reported to be the owner of her own label Myra Swim.
It has been alleged that Bianca has “Jewish heritage.” Many people have expressed shock because Kanye West has been in trouble recently for making very inflammatory comments about the Holocaust, which many are calling antisemitic.
Bianca Has however been silent on her religion as rumors keep peddling and never mentioned her religious background in any public interviews.
Has your relationship been dragging along in an uncommitted state for some time now? Did he totally freak out, stonewall or run away the minute you brought up taking the relationship to the next level? Or perhaps he seemed so into you, you were both sailing into a blissful commitment, then suddenly he just wants to be friends, he won’t commit, or says he’s not ready. You’re left wondering what makes a man want to commit?
Now here you are likely feeling stressed, worried, even rejected because he won’t commit to you. Am I right? You’ve fallen for this man and thought he was falling too. His ambivalence and confusion hurts so badly! It’s hard not to take it personally. You may even feel compelled to run after him, to let things drag on in this uncommitted state, and accept whatever crumbs he may be willing to give.
Here’s what I know for sure. You deserve a man who makes you a priority, who loves you, who commits to you. A man who is marriage material. Yes, men can sometimes take a bit longer to get to commitment, but there is a point when enough is enough. The longer things drag on, the worse you’ll feel about yourself and the more time you waste. And at the end of this post watch the video on why men commit to some women and pull away from others.
So is there hope? Yes. In fact, through my dating and relationship coaching program, we’ve helped tons of women just like you get through this difficult stage and come out of it with a commitment from their guy. Even after the guy initially said he won’t commit or isn’t ready. Here are some of the key steps that work.
If He Won’t Commit Put Him on Probation
Generally, if you’ve been dating for over three months and your partner isn’t responding positively to your talks about becoming exclusive, it may be time to step back. And if you have been dating for more than a year and he’s not responding to your talks about marriage, it may be time to put the relationship on probation.
When I say step back or probation, I mean you need to let him know that you may be leaving him so that he has a chance to work on things. The key is to deliver the message in a kind and mature way that shows you mean business. This will optimize the chance that he will rise to the occasion so that your relationship can grow deeper.
The Probationary Talk:
Start in a mature, kind, and loving way.
Be specific about what is not working.
Be clear about your thoughts about the possible end of the relationship.
Touch on the losses you both will have if things end.
Suggest some actions or ask him for his thoughts on what actions he might suggest to turn things around.
For example you might say: It would be very sad and painful to lose all that we have built up, for one of us to have to move out, to lose our connection. I thought you might be the one but now I’m not so sure. I’m creating an amazing and fun lasting partnership in my life. I want to get married and believe you are that person. If that’s not for you, it’s not for you. What do you think?
Don’t throw this speech in his face as an idle threat during fights or something you endlessly harass him about to gain power in the relationship. If you turn it into an emotional ultimatum, you will lose personal power in the relationship.
Show him what life is like without you.
If he continues to drag his feet and if he won’t commit, you must take a stand. The single most powerful thing you can do is show him the cost of losing you. I know your heart is breaking. But you cannot settle. You must remember that you deserve commitment! This is a matter of self-love, integrity, and self-protection. Don’t allow yourself to endure further disappointment or to waste more of your invaluable time. So work on overcoming your abandonment fears and get moving.
The Cost of Loss Talk If He Won’t Commit
I recommend you first have a “Cost of Loss” Talk with your partner. Again in a strong, powerful way with no drama, tell him something like: My commitment to myself is that I will be married and have children. And it’s time for me to take action. I would love to have that with you because we would make unbelievable teammates and parents together. You are a generous and kind person and would make the best father. But you said you don’t want marriage. So if it can’t be with you, I am going to do it with another man who can be a great teammate and father to my children. Even though I love you, if you simply cannot or will not do it, I am breaking up with you completely. I am taking all my things out of your apartment and you will not be seeing me again.
And then, follow through. This is key. Move out. Stop calling. Cut off contact. And plan some fun activities for YOU. Set new goals, take up a new challenge. If he won’t commit, let him experience missing you.
What Makes a Man Want to Commit?
So you’re wondering, what makes a man want to commit? In these cases, if your guy realizes what he has lost he may take a bold step towards you. For example, when I say bold, I mean he will show obvious signs of transformation. He will buy the ring and /or go into couples therapy or Relationship Coaching with you, or make plans to move in with you. Then you will feel a real shift in commitment! Men who don’t respond to losing you are not going to commit. Ultimately, the relationship isn’t that important to them. So please move o
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When Devi in Never Have I Ever laments “Why can’t I get a boyfriend?”, you know what she is talking about. The sight of couples kissing on New Year’s Day can be sickening if you’re lonely. You are pretty and smart, but no boyfriend seems to be coming your way. So before we talk about the correct way of finding a boyfriend, let’s talk about two things.
First of all, relax. Love is no flight that one must catch. Does everyone find love eventually? Yes, if they have faith in themselves. Second of all, stop beating yourself with self-harming thoughts like “Is there something wrong with me because I don’t have a boyfriend?” It’s possible that you haven’t met the right man or don’t know how to give him the right cue. Because dating is just a game, and you’ve not been playing it right.
“I can’t get a boyfriend, what am I doing wrong?” This was the most common lament in my late twenties. Most guys were easily available if you wanted a casual date, but I was looking for something serious. I was looking everywhere, but there was always something that didn’t click. Till I met Dan. After five years of marriage, when I think back on those days, I realize where I went wrong. So what could be the reasons you struggle to find a boyfriend? Here they are:
1. You are looking for a boyfriend for the sake of fitting in
Think of Devi in Never Have I Ever and her list of “attainable yet status-enhancing people” she picks for herself and her friends to ‘rebrand’ as cool people. It’s not uncommon for teenagers to think “Should I get a boyfriend?” out of pressure. Research indicates that platonic peers influence our relationships and sexual behavior where a ‘taken’ relationship status is established as currency for popularity and social status.
You keep thinking “What is it like to have a boyfriend?” when you look at your friends and only want a relationship out of peer pressure
Before asking a guy out, think, “Do I like ‘him’ or the attention everyone will give us?”
Do you only want a boyfriend so you’ll stop being the third wheel?
There’s a simple test for this. Think of a scenario where you are not around anyone you know. Would you still want to be with this person? If friends are the only reason you want a boyfriend, then it’s not a good idea to look for one. For more expert-backed insights, please subscribe to our YouTube Channel.
2. You don’t know what you want in a man
Another reason you can’t find a boyfriend is that you don’t know what you want in a man. This is also possible when you don’t know what you want in general. This keeps most of your dating history extremely short. Or, worse, you only realize that you and your boyfriend are not right for each other when it’s too late.
When you get together with someone, you get uncomfortable if they behave contrary to your ever-changing expectations of ‘boyfriend material’
You’re constantly dissatisfied with the men you meet
You don’t know why your relationships are not working, and you don’t know how to make it work
If you’re confused, then you need to take some time off. Think about what you want. And take your time assessing if the guy you meet fits into that picture. If he doesn’t, better move on.
3. You’re looking for love in the wrong place
A major mistake that people make is to think they can change someone who wants something strictly short-term into someone who wants commitment. Pop culture pushes the idea that a person can be changed with the ‘power of love’, but this rarely happens in reality.
You keep thinking “Why can’t I get a boyfriend to stay?”, but still get into short-term affairs hoping they’ll fall in love eventually
You ignore signs of commitment issues in men
You feel pressured to present a hyper-sexualized image to be accepted by them
The biggest sign that you’re looking for love with the wrong guy is that he’s not reciprocating your feelings even though you’ve been giving it your 100%.
4. You have this idea of ‘The One’
We all have an idea of the kind of person we want to be with. But if your definition of boyfriend material includes super-high and unrealistic expectations, it may get disappointing. You will discover that no one can fit into that ideal. Pop culture has led to the cultivation of an ideal man which keeps changing with trends. So, ‘The One’ morphs from Edward Cullen to Christian Grey, but he stays consistently unrealistic, unhealthy, and unachievable. Research calls it ‘The Prince Charming Effect’.
Do you visualize men from books, movies, or fairy tales when you think of a partner?
You immediately dismiss a person as a prospective boyfriend if he doesn’t demonstrate all the qualities that you want in your partner
You will not consider a man who doesn’t fit into the physical image of your ‘Prince Charming’, even if it’s someone you genuinely like
It was observed in the above research that unrealistic standards were found to have negative consequences on the holder of such expectations. It’s not bad to have standards, especially if you’re dealing with low self-esteem yourself. But unrealistic standards, especially focusing on physicality, will not do you any good.
5. You don’t have a boyfriend as you don’t know where to look
You keep looking for love in clubs that are full of men looking for the next lay. The same goes for weddings. This might sound ironic, but weddings are notorious for casual extramarital encounters. Similarly, at the workplace, dating a coworker sounds thrilling but only for a few weeks. When you suggest anything long-term, these men begin citing HR policies.
You meet guys in the wrong places without considering the possibility that the kind of man you want is unlikely to be there
You meet a lot of men but they seem to disappear as soon as the night is over
You have nothing in common with these men, except that they’re single too
If you’re looking for someone who enjoys opera and Renaissance art, you’d have a better chance of finding him at an art gallery than a baseball stadium.
6. You are not good with words
Communication plays a major role in the mating scene. You miss social cues which could make your dates comfortable. You say things you shouldn’t, making the whole encounter more awkward. This could be unintentional. For example, if you revel in dark humor, then your date could end up feeling disrespected, turned off, or even humiliated.
You get nervous during first dates. You don’t know what to say. You don’t get jokes or take them literally
Most of your first dates are spent in awkward silence and looking around
You feel relieved when the date ends
Humor is subjective and you can’t do much in a situation where a joke lands wrong. But try to avoid any sensitive subjects. If you believe you’ve given offense, apologize immediately. You need to get over your anxiety when it comes to dating. Relax and stop thinking about impressing him. You’ll find yourself more comfortable talking to him.
7. You don’t know how to present yourself
Humans, like most of the species in nature, look for certain qualities in a mate. These qualities determine the survival of the offspring. Though human beings have evolved, evolutionary psychology still dictates a major part of how a mate is chosen. This makes sure that every species looks for the best in the available stock. In short, you’re going to get very little attention if you can’t bring out the real you in your best form.
Your clothes are either very loose or very tight
Your idea of ‘how should a woman dress up for her first date‘ includes tracksuits and crocs
You’ve always had the same style and rarely try anything new, despite suggestions from friends and family
Dressing up to attract a man may feel sexist to you. But presenting your best version, in a way that aligns with your values, isn’t exactly sexist. Think what it is like to have a boyfriend who dresses shabbily. Do you want someone else to feel that way about you?
8. You think you can ‘manifest’ love without working toward it
I’m not being critical of any woman who believes in serendipity and the power of calling out to the universe. But you have to look at the statistics too. If you take no further action and don’t get out or meet people, the chances of love landing in your lap are minuscule. According to Rachel Riley from the show Countdown, there’s a 1 in 562 chance of you finding love if you leave it to fate. There’s more chance of you becoming a millionaire or having a pair of twins.
You ignore opportunities to meet people because it is the wrong day for that according to your horoscope
You don’t meet guys that do not belong to your compatible zodiac signs
You don’t get actively involved in trying to cultivate a serious relationship with the man you’re dating, and instead, focus on doing rituals to get him to love you
This doesn’t mean that you can’t find love on a chance encounter. But if you choose to not work on getting a guy, and then cry “Why can’t I get a boyfriend?”, you can’t blame anyone else. Outliers exist, but even God helps those who help themselves.
9. You don’t want to try online dating
You often say, “I can’t get a boyfriend, what am I doing wrong?” But maybe you’ve not tried online dating yet. You either have been scared off from the notoriety of such apps. Or you have been on such platforms and were disappointed by the kind of men you met.
You’re scared of getting catfished
You’re scared of landing up with another testosterone-high man who just wants to play games where he doesn’t call you back after sex
You don’t want to initiate an online relationship because you think you’ll get two-timed
And those are valid fears. But you can date online successfully, especially post-Covid. So don’t hesitate to say, “Hey Google, find me a boyfriend”.
10. You’re not in a relationship because of your emotional baggage
This could be anything that you have experienced in the past which is affecting your life in the present. This could be due to a traumatic childhood or repressed emotional needs. Review the relationships you’ve had in past and think:
You keep worrying that the relationship will fail and begin to mentally prepare yourself for that eventuality
You struggle with trust issues and are scared of showing your emotions
Or you get extremely dependent on your partner
You’ll notice that you never have a problem finding men, but none of those men seem to stick around, even if the relationship is amazing. Emotional baggage can create issues in a relationship when you begin to doubt the integrity of the relationship before you can commit to it.
11. You are still wounded from a previous relationship
Do rebounds make you miss your ex more? Getting involved with someone before you’ve recovered from the emotional aftermath of the earlier relationship can make you miss your ex more. This can prove disastrous to your new relationship.
You often compare the men you meet with your ex
You post on social media about the new man to irritate your ex
You keep wanting a boyfriend to avoid feeling lonely instead of having genuine affection for the new man
There have been cases where a rebound relationship has worked for some people, but research indicates that 90% of rebound relationships fail within the first three months. It’s better to wait and make sense of your feelings before you go looking for love again.
12. You’re intimidating
You probably don’t realize it, but you may have internalized the strong female character trope. It is not uncommon to see female characters in pop culture with traditionally ‘male’ traits in an effort to portray them as strong. There’s nothing wrong in expressing your masculine side since gender is fluid. However, your no-nonsense and ambitious attitude may scare some men away. Research shows that men tend to rate assertive women as less attractive than compassionate women. Obviously, filter out such men, but try to assess if your assertiveness has turned into a deliberately intimidating persona.
Do you practice sitting or talking in a certain way that you think will earn you respect or, worse, fear?
Do people avoid speaking in your presence?
Do you have the same body language at the workplace and on a date?
It is ironic that women often have to show themselves as non-feminine to be taken seriously at work and have to shed that persona to appear approachable. But matters of the heart can’t be expected to work the same way a team meeting does.
13. Why can’t I get a boyfriend? Because “I’m the problem, it’s me”
Taylor Swift summed up the problem of low self-esteem in women in the entire world with her song. When you have low self-esteem, you give any guy that comes your way your full attention, but ignore yourself completely. It’s easy to blame yourself for everything that goes wrong. Either you’re too hard on yourself and decide not to give the relationship another go. Or you get into a dysfunctional relationship as that is what feels normal to you.
You keep thinking you’ve embarrassed yourself on the first date and are unlikely to go on the second one, even if the man appears interested
You feel uncomfortable if the man suggests boundaries
You keep getting into relationships with toxic men
It’s normal to have doubts about your desirability, but self-doubt can handicap your mental image of yourself. Even if you were to find someone amazing, you’ll find yourself getting excruciatingly dependent on him. This can make the whole relationship imbalanced.
14. You are self-obsessed
A relationship is a two-way street and can’t function if an effort is not made from both sides. If you don’t put the effort into maintaining your relationship, then it’s likely to be a short one. You may not realize it, but you could be the high-maintenance partner men run from. In such a case, the man is likely to look for someone else who can fulfill his emotional needs.
Any conversation with you is mostly about you
Your guy is likely to know more about you than you know about him
You exhibit the signs of a controlling woman and monopolize any decisions made in the relationship
Self-obsession could be a form of narcissism which is a strategy to protect oneself when one does not feel adequately loved. To be in a healthy relationship, you need to start thinking about your relationship as an entity rather than a competition about who is better.
15. You get creepy/needy
Another way you can go wrong is that you get too needy. You start to stalk him, demand his constant attention, and get upset if he insists on boundaries. You start imagining that he’s playing games with you, and give hostile looks to every attractive person you see him with. You turn into a creepy/needy partner. Because you define love as control.
You always want to know what he’s doing, where he’s going, and who’s he with
You think it’s normal for you to check his phone
You hate it if he wants to spend some alone time or plans any trips with his friends
Such a controlling relationship can be stifling for anyone. Additionally, you’re setting a bad precedent in the relationship as he could demand the same thing from you.
16. Does everyone find love eventually? Not when it comes to unrequited love
Another reason you keep wanting a boyfriend but can’t find one is that you’re in love with someone who doesn’t love you back. You hope to get a boyfriend so you would fall out of love with this person, but this is not how it works. You need to sort your feelings for someone else before you start afresh with another person.
You always have thoughts about the guy you love even when you’re with someone else
You will prioritize this man over your relationship, even though you know it isn’t healthy
Any new man you’re dating works as a replacement for the guy you love
This can be extremely confusing and unfair to anyone who genuinely likes you. It can be difficult to lose feelings for someone you love and let go. Try staying away from him and focusing on other things in your life so you can healthily move on to another relationship.
17. You don’t ask for help
Have you considered asking friends for help? You may think it is unromantic for family or friends to set you up with someone as if you can’t land a decent date on your own. This may feel additionally bad if you have a dysfunctional relationship with your family. You’re likely to say no to any person they set you up with, even if you like them.
You consider it humiliating if your mother sets you up with the son of a woman she met at the church
You don’t trust your friends to find you a good person, especially if you think they don’t know you
You feel inadequate if you have to ask around for a date
Not asking for help could be a sign of insecurity. But your friends and family often know you more than you realize. They are also aware of your relationship history and know what doesn’t work for you.
18. You are bad at flirting
Mike highlights this in The Ugly Truth when he observes that Abby is pretty and smart but no boyfriend comes her way. When he says that she needs to learn to flirt, she is confused at first. Flirting is more difficult than you think, especially if you’re not very good at quick thinking or get nervous easily.
You’re more comfortable talking by text than on phone or in person
You never realize when someone is flirting with you
Maybe you don’t know how to give physical compliments in general
Healthy flirting can be a great icebreaker when you meet someone new. It can seem daunting to talk to someone with sexual undertones but relax a little. You’ll find the right note if you give it enough time and practice.
19. You don’t have a boyfriend because you are rushing things
I was single for most of my early twenties. I mostly had flings and didn’t have the inclination to get into a serious relationship. However, as soon as I turned thirty, it began to feel like everyone around me was either getting married or pregnant. And so I was meeting guys left, right, and center, crying, “Why can’t I get a boyfriend?”. Now I realize how scary I must have seemed to those guys, with my way-too-soon questions about their families, income, and debts.
You are constantly assessing your dates instead of enjoying your time with them
You give yourself a deadline by when you should be engaged
You think marriage will fix all your woes
After a certain age, it can begin to feel that time is ticking away. You get a lot of pressure for getting married or having kids from your family. This can make you anxious and make you look at every relationship from a matrimonial POV. This can make any man run for the mountains.
20. You aren’t giving them enough time
People often go date-hopping when they’re not keen on a committed relationship or want to get an idea of the spread before they choose the best option. But when you’re looking for love, one date is not enough to get to know a person. Especially if you’re going on multiple dates on the same day. Some people may swear by it but research indicates that most guys take almost 3 months to confess their love.
Are you seeing multiple men on the same day or week as a way to improve productivity while looking for relationships?
Have you prepared a questionnaire for these men and ticked them off if they answer ‘negatively’ to a question?
Are you getting confused between two or more of these men?
It’s draining and counterproductive to date multiple men and filter them out like an assembly line. Additionally, you’re not giving yourself enough time to forge an emotional connection with anyone to fall in love.
21. You’re problematic
Your friends won’t tell you, but the reason you struggle to find a boyfriend could be that you’re ‘that’ girl. You’re that girl who talks about financial independence but expects her boyfriend to pay her bills. Or she likes to be spoiled but makes no effort from her side to do the same for her boyfriend. Or she starts as the caring girlfriend who sends him cute texts in the beginning but turns toxic once you go exclusive.
Your idea of an ideal man is who exhibits the traditional role of a ‘provider’, i.e. he pays the bills, prioritizes others over himself, doesn’t rest till it’s late in the night
You expect him to pay all your bills while you don’t contribute your share
You constantly compare him to others, or worse, to your father
You need to recognize the signs that you are the problem in your relationship. And if you are, you need to work on your self-awareness and try to resolve the underlying issues responsible for this behavior.
What can you do if you don’t have a boyfriend but want one?
The thing about love is you never know if you want it because you actually want it, or because you feel like you ‘should’ want it. Ask yourself “Why do I want a boyfriend?” before you start looking for one. If you’re looking for a boyfriend for social reasons or because you think it’s time you had one, then you may not be on the right track. Once you know what you want and why you want it, it’s only then you can move toward it. So how can you find a boyfriend when you want one?
1. Love yourself
You may be rolling your eyes at this one. Not everything can be resolved by loving oneself. And what is self-love anyway? How does one love themself? By loving yourself the way you would love someone else.
Be kind and considerate toward yourself
Create healthy emotional boundaries in relationships
Prioritize your mental health
Learn to say no
Stop looking for approval from others
When you prioritize your mental health and have positive self-esteem, you enable yourself to get into a relationship that is loving and rewarding in the long term.
2. Focus on developing the relationship
If you like someone, you need more than a meeting over coffee to know he’s the one. With a few men, you will know instantly, but with others, you may need some time before deciding ‘the one’ among them.
Give a guy enough time to see if you can envision a future with him
Focus on developing the relationship, try to get to know him
Set up realistic stages or timelines. For example, if you feel that you’re not going from kissing to something sexual till a certain date, then maybe talk to him and try to know what he thinks of the relationship
3. Hey Google, find me a boyfriend – online dating
If you have tried bars and can’t find a boyfriend among the frat boys you find there, then try online dating. You may not believe it but according to Pew Research Centre, online dating is as successful as in-person dating. Research suggests that online dating has displaced many traditional ways of meeting new people.
Additionally, it can help you meet people with similar interests without having to go through others who may not have the same values/beliefs. Dating apps like Bumble and Mashable cater to people who are looking for commitment, so when you find the right match, you can just focus on your date and not wonder about the essentials.
4. Know what you can’t stand
We often think about the qualities we want in a partner. But it may be easier to figure out if you know what you can’t agree on. If you’re done with toxic men in your life, then run away at the first red flag. Don’t wait to look for a silver lining.
Look for red flags about things you don’t want to compromise on
Talk to him about it, how it makes you uncomfortable, and if he’s willing to work on it
If you think he won’t change, move on
5. Be patient
It’s said, “The heart wants what it wants.” Well, the heart also takes time to decide, and it takes as much time as it wants. You can’t rush yourself into feeling affection for a man. I often wondered, “What is it like to have a boyfriend who wants to get married the same time as I do?” Because no man wanted to move so fast in our relationship. It scared them to no end.
If you feel that it might be getting late for you, stop and think about why you think so. Is it what everyone else has been telling you? Winding up with the wrong guy just because you think time is running out won’t help. At best, it could make you regret the relationship. At worst, it could leave you traumatized.
Key Pointers
Many of the reasons you can’t find a boyfriend could be rooted in your lack of self-esteem
Do not think of finding a boyfriend as a task, otherwise, it won’t feel romantic and will feel like a chore you hate
Focus on developing the relationship while keeping an eye out for red flags
Be patient. This may take more time than you anticipate
Humans were never made to be solitary creatures. It is normal to feel the need for someone to cuddle when you go to bed. But relationships are complex and one wrong step is all it takes for a lifetime of regret. To every person who says “Why can’t I get a boyfriend?”, I say, take your time, explore your options, and most of all, enjoy these experiences. If you still feel you can’t cope, ask for help from friends and family. We at Bonobology have an extensive panel of experts to help you when you need it. Love will come your way when you’re ready for it, not when you think it should come.
FAQs
1. Why is it so difficult to get a boyfriend?
It’s not difficult to get a boyfriend, but you will have to work to find a healthy relationship. Commitment is a big deal for a lot of people. Everyone may have their own set of apprehensions about it. So it may take some time before you find the right person who has the same beliefs as you do.
2. Is it weird not to have a boyfriend?
It is not weird to have a boyfriend. If you’re thinking, “Should I get a boyfriend?” just to appease society, then don’t get into a relationship. A committed relationship status doesn’t validate your existence or give you an advantage over other people. More women are choosing to stay single and focus on their careers nowadays, according to the Pew Research Center. You certainly aren’t alone if you’re single.
3. Will I ever find a boyfriend?
Yes, you will. Stop thinking, “Is there something wrong with me because I don’t have a boyfriend?” Because there isn’t. If you keep looking in the right places, focus on working on yourself, and pay attention to your date’s red flags, you will meet the right person and have a healthy relationship with him.
Some ladies are very mean and synonymous to the word “parasites”. How can you gladly spend someone’s money when you know that you won’t marry him?
Well, some guys are also the main contributing factors to their own problems. You don’t need a seer to tell you that a girl is into you or your money.
After paying for rent, school fees, and topping it up with a brand new car, a Nigerian man received the embarrassment of his life after his girlfriend said ‘NO’ to his marriage proposal.
Apparently, the lady has a serious boyfriend and was only tolerating the rich guy because of his money and the soft life he provides for her.
Watch the video below to know more…
sholzy23 – She get another boyfriend. This guy just won spoil market for her, nonsense boy
mceetwinko – God bless her and her mindset, pls madarm know am well before anything oh, this days both man and woman get as e be so na Brain Brain ? oga you let her know you before you dey buy Jeep ? too much money ? Asiwaju
moren_morgan – If na me I no go gree cause 1 month relationship, definitely the guy de chase clout ni cause wtf, how sure am I pe he won’t collect the car if we later break up
_cici_nita – But she can just accept in the public
And return the ring to him in private
Instead of embarrassing him like this
tinukevibes – na bf i dey find for this comment section
Of all the things I’ve lost during the pandemic, my partner’s relationship with his girlfriend is the last I would have expected to mourn.
I first met Sophie over Instagram about three years ago. Preston showed me her account at Thanksgiving with his family, back when she was just a pretty girl he’d gone out with three or four times. He’d scrolled a little too long for my liking, held the phone an inch closer to my face than seemed strictly necessary.
Perfect beach sunsets, perfect healthy breakfasts, perfect coffees with steam rising off them in handmade ceramic mugs. Yoga handstands, artfully messy mermaid hair, legs for days. “OK, yep, I get the picture,” I said, leaning back and away.
Preston and I had been together for two years at that point, polyamorous from the start. I had been in open relationships before, and despite my immediate sense that he was a person I wanted to be with for a very long time, I knew I wanted to keep dating women.
He was making a late-20s escape from a conservative upbringing and was eager to try out new ways of living. For us, polyamory meant the freedom to sleep with other people, but also the ability to fall in love with those people. It meant moving into a Brooklyn apartment together, but making sure it was a two-bedroom.
Sometimes, when he was out on a date and I happened to be at home and not on a date myself, I did feel jealous. If I couldn’t find a friend to distract me, I would scrub the kitchen and listen to podcasts, organize my bookshelves, anything to quell the roar in my head.
And then he would come home to me — sometimes at night, sometimes in the morning — smiling and full of gratitude. I knew that feeling of gratitude, because I felt it myself, each time I came home to him.
Each return was a conscious choice, not an obligation. That we could be in love and also allow each other intimate connections to other people seemed a minor miracle. Still, for those first couple of years, neither of us got involved in anything very serious.
“I had the chance to meet Sophie in person when I went to visit Preston just before Christmas … I figured I might as well see what I was dealing with, and I also wanted to meet the person responsible for the new glow of happiness in Preston, so bright I could even hear it in his voice.”
And then, along came Sophie. Preston and I were living about 1,000 miles apart, as I’d moved down South for a one-semester teaching job, and he’d moved out to the very tip of Cape Cod for a seven-month writing residency. I wasn’t thrilled to learn about her, could not manage my usual vicarious excitement. She was so beautiful, and, more threateningly, she was local, while I was not. She would be part of his big creative adventure, and I would mostly be a harried voice on the phone, with papers to grade. He and I would not have the grounding experience of coming home to each other. It didn’t help that I felt too busy and stressed to find anyone to date in the small, conservative town where I worked. My apartment got cleaner and cleaner.
I had the chance to meet Sophie in person when I went to visit Preston just before Christmas. I took deep breaths as we walked through the chilly gunmetal twilight, past closed T-shirt shops and bookstores, Provincetown yawning into the off-season. I figured I might as well see what I was dealing with, and I also wanted to meet the person responsible for the new glow of happiness in Preston, so bright I could even hear it in his voice.
We found Sophie behind the counter at the pizza place her family owns, helping customers, and I was glad to have time to observe her before we spoke. She wore a red-and-black checked flannel shirt, and her smile revealed a funny incisor, an asymmetry which made her look less perfect, but even more charming. Her movements were confident and sure, and she handled the customers with a firm sort of friendliness. After they left, she came out and said hello, slipping us free slices and quick hugs before more people came in.
As Preston and I slid into a sturdy wooden booth, I thought of the pizza joint in my hometown in Maine, which I had only known as a child. The pizza was perfect, crispy and blackened on the bottom. The restaurant was so warm and bright, its wide windows glowing with the dark blue outside, a safe place over which Sophie presided.
Over the next few visits, Sophie and I crafted an intimate friendship. When she came over to Preston’s apartment, tucked under the eaves in an old clapboard house, the three of us hung out late into the evening. When we watched movies together, Sophie and I often fell asleep, heads on Preston’s wide shoulders. Our affection for him spilled over onto each other. It felt natural to take her hand on a walk, to push her long hair from her face if her hands were full.
Sophie and Preston at OysterFest in Wellfleet, Massachusetts.
One day, I was sitting on the kitchen counter, and she leaned on my thigh absent-mindedly while talking to him. Startled by her own easy familiarity, she turned to me and apologized. But the contact made sense, in that strange middle space between friendship and romance, something that was quickly beginning to feel like family.
These visits kept us from becoming adversaries. She was never simply Preston’s Girlfriend, or worse, The Other Woman. She was Sophie. Sophie, with the surprisingly deep laugh, who always prepares elaborate snacks for outdoor adventures with friends. Sophie, doing foolish British accents too early in the morning. Sophie, fielding all the calls and texts from her large, close-knit family, the stable base of support whenever there’s trouble.
Sophie did her research. She read my memoir, sending me a heartfelt, detailed note afterward. New to polyamory, she bought all the guidebooks, listened to all the podcasts, to wrap her heart and mind around this new way of approaching love. She learned the term “metamours,” which described us — dating a person in common, but not dating each other. It still didn’t come naturally to her, to share. And despite our cozy friendship, I was finding it uniquely hard to share with her.
From afar, I began to sense a deepening connection between Sophie and Preston. He called a little less often, seemed distracted. He said it was the writing, but I wasn’t so sure. I started asking him questions to which I couldn’t get clear answers. How did he feel about her? What were their plans for after his residency, when he and I would move back to New York? How did she feel about him — what did she want? What were they, exactly?
In my loneliness, I grew frustrated, reading his ambiguity as dishonesty. There was too much room for him to tell me, out of love, what he thought I wanted to hear. I insisted that I didn’t care what they were, that I could adapt, but that I just wanted to know. What I was really trying to determine was: How much room did I need to make? What role would this person have in my life? I’ve since learned that the heart can expand much more than we think. But it’s work, that expansion. I wanted to know how far I would be asked to stretch, so I could figure out if I could really do it. In her research, Sophie was doing the same thing.
Sophie and Preston in Provincetown, Massachusetts, February 2019.
Curiosity, I’ve learned, is the best antidote to jealousy. Sophie once used Preston to restage my favorite picture of David Bowie — black jeans, leather jacket, shirtless. I’d never seen him look so intense. On another day, I got to see him bartending at a charity fundraiser, head thrown back, laughing, center stage in a way he usually doesn’t allow. Sophie’s texts and photos meant I was never forgotten or disregarded, never excised from the equation. She could easily have imagined me away, but she never did.
Finally, she sent a selfie of them together, big flakes of snow suspended around them. He’s wearing a faux fur hat he bought with me on a trip to Maine, and his gloved hand is reaching over to snug her scarf closer to her smiling face, protecting her from the wind. As I looked, the knowledge that they were falling in love bloomed slowly within me. It seemed they hadn’t even realized it yet, and there was an odd safety in being the first one to see it.
That unfiltered image told me more than any strained conversation ever could have. I realized I’d been asking him for the impossible. Who can articulate their intentions, their exact, true feelings, at the beginning of a developing relationship? How could he answer me with precision if he wasn’t yet sure where it all would go? Like snow, love requires a delicate set of circumstances, slightly different each time. The air is heavy with possibility, and then, suddenly, beauty. Through Sophie’s eyes, I could see it.
In March 2020, as the pandemic fell upon us all, Preston and I were living together once more, and Sophie was home in Provincetown, preparing her restaurant for an unprecedented season. He and I had once again moved far away for jobs, this time together, to the middle of the country. Over the previous year, they had been visiting when they could. But finally, when it became clear that travel would remain fraught indefinitely, she called off their romantic attachment.
“Like snow, love requires a delicate set of circumstances, slightly different each time. The air is heavy with possibility, and then, suddenly, beauty. Through Sophie’s eyes, I could see it.”
Back when they were falling in love, when I was coming to understand the long-term realities of this polyamory thing, I might have been relieved at their transition back to friendship. I would have welcomed how much simpler it made my life. Less ambiguity, less worry, more time one-on-one. Instead, I thought about Sophie working to feed a community, to keep a decades-old business going, to care for her ailing mom. I knew she was more than capable, but I also knew how helpful Preston could have been, had he been there with her. As I read on our porch, my knee pressed to his, or sat in Zoom calls at my desk, hermetically safe, I had the hollow feeling of having won a contest no one had entered.
The pandemic robbed us all, for a time, of the ability to see our partners through other people’s eyes, to watch them tell a story to someone else at dinner, to see them perform onstage, to witness the adorable and infuriating regression that happens when they visit their parents. During these long periods of isolation, I had the daily companionship that I had sometimes envied. But I had only my own limited, myopic view. I missed those photos from Sophie — the surprise of a new expression, the evidence that my partner was appreciated by people other than me, that he was receiving abundant, varied love. I missed teasing him together, having the perfect witness to his peccadilloes and quirks. And I missed, too, the friendship Sophie and I had before, the two of us peering at each other with bemused expressions, as if to say, Who would’ve thought?
Last year, when the world opened back up and we accessed the immense privilege of vaccination, we each cautiously began dating again. There’s a woman I see in New York, although I don’t yet know what that connection will be. Preston has a local girlfriend, and this time, I don’t have to work so hard to open up space for her. It’s already there, ready to flex and change. There is always a spot on our couch for her, for movie nights and “Saturday Night Live,” and we trade notes on the weird daily habits of this person we love. Sophie has reconnected with a love from long ago, and this time, to her surprise, they’re trying polyamory. She recently met a new metamour, and told me that she’s extending the same welcome that I gave her.
The other day, Sophie texted a photo she once took of Preston and me. He’s sitting in a chair and I’m leaning over his shoulder, arms wrapped around his chest. The image is carefully framed, and close up. It’s a shot that was taken with love.
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Reports state that Nigerian Afrobeat singer, Davido, and his girlfriend, Chioma Rowlands, have lost their son, Ifeanyi.
Although social media, particularly Twitter, has been buzzing with the news of the passing of the 3-year-old boy, the couple are yet to confirm the reports.
However, condolences have been pouring in from scores of fans, sympathizers, colleagues, and friends worldwide.
Some Ghanaian celebrities have also reacted to the news and have sent out their condolences to that effect.
The unconfirmed reports
There have been different versions of the alleged passing away of Ifeanyi Adeleke, Davido’s son.
Shortly after the news went viral, Nollywood actress, Eniola Badmus, who happens to be a close friend of the 30 BG boss, took to her Instagram to share a post of a broken heart emoji accompanied with the caption; “But Why.”
Although the post has since been deleted, it appears to have given a lot of people the confirmation they sought, owing to the fact that she is among Davido’s close circle of friends.
Per the narration of other blogs including Gist lover and Linda Ikeji, Ifeanyi reportedly died in a swimming pool and was pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital despite the fact that he was rescued conscious.
Dr Adio Adebowale, who is accused of kidnapping and murdering two women in the state, has been suspended indefinitely by the Kwara State Government.
This comes after the state branch of the Nigeria Medical Association confirmed his status as a certified medical doctor and a member of the association, PUNCH reports.
On Monday, the State Police Command said its operatives arrested Adio Adeyemi over the alleged kidnap and murder of two ladies.
Adebowale, the Chief Medical Director of Kaiama General Hospital in Kaiama Local Government Area of Kwara, was alleged to have buried the deceased in different places.
On Tuesday in Ilorin, it was reported that Adebowale had been suspended by the state’s senior staff management committee, which is in charge of taking disciplinary action against senior employees of the Kwara State Health Management Board.
When speaking about the matter, the state’s commissioner for health, Dr. Raji Razaq, added, “Yes, I’m confirming to you that he has been suspended and his income has been stopped until the conclusion of an inquiry into his activities by the security authorities.
“He is alleged to have committed a criminal offence. We have to suspend him and stop his salary. We have to wait for other actions pending the time the investigation is concluded, and you know that a person is deemed innocent until he’s proven guilty of the alleged offence by a court of competent jurisdiction. We will wait until the investigation is concluded and the defendant is proven guilty by the court before we take any other action.”
When contacted, Dr. Abdulraheem Malik, the chairman of the Kwara State Health Management Board, verified that Adebowale was a board member but stated he (Malik) was only recently appointed and therefore couldn’t comment on the suspension.
Malik was asked to remark on the personality of the Medical Director, but he declined, claiming to not know anything about him.
“I cannot say much about him because I’m new in this office; I have just been appointed two weeks ago by the government,” he told PUNCH.
Meanwhile, the NMA Kwara State Branch Chairman, Dr Abdulkadir Ahmed, confirmed in Ilorin on Tuesday that Adebowale was a member of the association and that he was working with the state government.
You’ve probably heard that communicationis important in a relationship.
Pretty much all psychologists and relationship experts cite poor communication as the most common factor leading to break-ups.
And it’s the sort of thing you’ll read about and see on TV a thousand times in your life.
But it’s well worth remembering. The very second you and your girl stop communicating, your relationship can go sour.
Seriously.
Just cast your mind back to your last relationship…
See what we mean? You need to get talking to your other half.
And we don’t just mean answering her questions with a grunt, fellas. You need to get into proactive communication—it really helps to strengthen a relationship and create a stronger bond.
So, how do you achieve this?
Well, here’s one way. You ask questions!
Why Should You Ask Your Girlfriend Questions?
Asking your girlfriend a question is an awesome way to go about starting a positive conversation with her.
Make the queries open-ended, listen to her replies and reply thoughtfully, and you’ll learn more about her, make her laugh, and make her think. Often just with one easy sentence.
Communication is a two-way street, though. Active listening and contributing to the conversation are as important as asking questions of your partner. Fight the stereotype of men not being great listeners and give your ears a workout too.
Comment on her answers and offer your own experiences. Add a little humor. Women are attracted to men who make them laugh. In fact, there’s science behind it.
We’ve decided to help you out here. We’ve compiled a list of 216 of the best questions to ask your girlfriend.
And we’ve split the list into categories to make it even clearer. Each category focuses on a specific situation.
Interesting Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Even if (actually, especially if) you’ve been together since Nixon was President, chit-chat with your girl will dry up from time to time.
Try getting her to talk to you about something she’s interested in. Engage her mind, offer her a head-scratching quizzer and the discussion will fly. Trust us.
What’s a story you’ve always wanted to tell, but never got a chance to?
What’s one thing your friends think is fun that you don’t?
Do you find you pronounce any words differently than other people?
What’s a song you like from a genre or band you don’t like?
Is there something you could cut out of your life with little effort that would save you tons of money?
What’s something you like to do that’s underrated?
Has anything weird happened to you lately?
Are you known for anything special in your hometown/friend group?
What did you not realize about yourself until somebody else told you about it?
What’s your go-to party story? (if you don’t already know it)
If you could win a lifetime supply of anything, what would it be?
What’s your go-to joke lately?
What’s your favorite hobby?
What’s an urban legend about where you’re from?
What do you have a strong opinion on that is unimportant in the grand scheme of things?
If actors could summon an army of all the characters they’ve played, who would win in a war of actors?
Have you ever gotten petty revenge on somebody? What did you do?
What’s your favorite “make a rule” in drinking games?
What trend do you think will never go out of style?
What’s your pet peeve?
Would you rather be the damsel in distress or the hero to save the day?
If you found $10,000 on the ground tomorrow, what would you do with it?
What dating advice would you give to somebody about to enter their first relationship?
Has a book made you cry? What was it?
How do you want people to remember you?
Are you happy?
What’s the best way for you to learn new things?
Could you be in a long distance relationship?
If you had one wish, what would it be?
What’s your passion?
There will always be something new to learn about her. Learning about your girlfriend is especially important in new relationships. The above questions keep the conversation going, interest her, and helps you learn more about what makes her tick.
Watch this video for more ideas for things to talk about with your girlfriend:
Make it More Fun With a Couple Card Game
A super fun way to learn new things about your girlfriend is to use a couple card game.
This way, rather than one of you firing off all the questions like it’s a bad blind date, you can make more of a game of it and take turns.
This Intimacy Deck from BestSelf is the best we’ve tried:
If you’re looking for new ways to connect with your girlfriend on a personal level or get out of your conversational routine, you’ll have a lot of fun with this.
And because you learn so many new things about each other you’ll develop a whole new level of intimacy.
We like that each conversation starter is thoughtful and not redundant. And they’re designed carefully to not be argument starters.
Turn off Netflix for a night and give it a go. You’re going to be surprised by how much fun it is.
Random questions are great for when you’re curious about learning something new and completely unexpected about your girlfriend.
What’s your favorite book or movie?
Would you rather swim with sharks or jellyfish?
Have you ever gotten detention in school?
What’s your favorite animal and why?
If a genie granted us three wishes, what would they be?
Have you ever cried in public before?
Have you ever gone skiing or snowboarding?
Have you ever done a backflip or frontflip?
Have you ever driven a car off the road?
Have you ever been in a fight?
Fun Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Making your girlfriend laugh will make you more attractive to her.
It’s all well and good asking deep and meaningful questions that make her think and give you an insight into her brain.
But it’s all for nothing if you come across too serious. Lighten the tone and get some humor going.
If we started a band together, what would you want us to be called?
What world record do you think you could set?
If you wrote erotic novels, what would your pseudonym be?
Do you have a phone voice or a puppy/baby voice?
What’s the latest you’ve ever stayed in your pajamas in the day?
If you had a warning label, what would it say?
What’s the first thing you do when you have the house all to yourself?
If you could cause one minor inconvenience to the person you hate the most, what would it be?
What is the weirdest fact you know?
What’s your favorite curse word?
Funny/Silly Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
A step up in humor from our fun questions list.
Use these questions to make her laugh and start a fun conversation that’s full of smiles.
If you had your own butler, what would you make him do?
How long do you think you could stare into my eyes without laughing?
Which animal would be the most useless pet in your opinion?
When you wake up in the morning, what’s your first thought?
If you had to wear one outfit for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s the most borderline offensive word you’ve used in a public conversation?
What two things should NEVER go together?
Do you have any childhood stories that embarrass you now?
Do you have any weird friends?
What body part do you think best defines your personality?
Weird Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Weird questions are as goofy as you can get.
Use them as fun, off-the-wall questions for a good laugh or to quickly change up the mood to a lighter tone.
What is the longest distance you’ve traveled by car without sleeping?
If you had your own butler, what would you make him do?
What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or 50 emperor penguins?
If you could live underwater, would you? Why?
How would you manage a condition where you unintentionally swore in every sentence you spoke?
If you had an ice cream flavor for a name, what would it be?
How would you react if a stranger whispered in your ear?
Will robots take over our jobs in the future?
Why do you think it’s illegal to sleep naked in Minnesota?
If these aren’t enough for you, here are some more questions that might put a smile on her face.
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Cute Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
If you’re looking for ways to make your girlfriend feel special, why not try asking her some cute questions?
By showing a genuine interest in her life, her feelings, and what makes her happy, you’ll communicate to her that she’s important to you.
Here are a few examples of questions that will make her smile.
What’s your favorite memory of us together?
Have we ever had a heart-to-heart talk before?
How was today for you work-wise?
What was your favorite part about today?
Why did you choose this color to paint your nails?
What’s your favorite season and why?
What’s your favorite perfume?
Why did you choose to wear your hair this way?
Do you collect anything? If so, why?
What’s your happiest memory?
Personal Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
This is undoubtedly the most important section of this list.
The internet has thousands of guides to show your girlfriend you’re interested in her, but bringing her breakfast in bed doesn’t truly show you care on a deep emotional level, does it? It just shows you can make toast.
Asking her questions specifically focused on her emotions shows that you truly love her. Make her feel loved by giving these a go:
What was the best part of your week?
What was your first thought this morning?
How can I make your day better?
Is there anything you’ve wanted to do for a while, but need help with?
How have you been feeling lately?
Is there something coming up that you’re nervous for?
What’s stressed you out lately?
Is there anything that would help you relax?
How are your family/friends?
Have you done anything for yourself lately?
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend About Yourself
These questions will help you understand your relationship with your girlfriend from her perspective.
Some may be hard to ask, but the personal growth you’ll get from asking these will outweigh any blow to your ego.
These questions will help you improve as a man and you’ll get to learn how your girlfriend sees you (and her favorite things about you!)
What’s your favorite cologne that I wear?
What do you like most about my personality?
Do you feel safe when you’re with me?
What do you think is my best quality?
What would you say is my biggest weakness?
What’s your favorite thing that I do?
Is there anything about my personality that bothers you?
How would you describe me in three words or less?
Do you think I’m funny, serious, or somewhere in between?
Am I someone you feel like you can depend on for emotional support?
Romantic Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Without romance, do you even have a girlfriend? Romance is a vital part of every healthy relationship and it’s often overlooked by men. So use these questions to spark up some love and romance in your relationship with her.
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You can answer the questions about you with responses about her for added tension and to deepen your bond. P.S. blatantly sexual questions aren’t appropriate to talk about when others can hear (unless she’s into that).
What’s something that often reminds you of me?
What’s the most attractive thing about me?
Which one of our dates did you have the best time?
What’s your favorite body part to get compliments on?
When did you first fall for me?
What are some things that turn you on when you think about them?
Is there anything you’d really like to do together this year?
Your [anything about her] looks amazing today—what did you do?
What’s your favorite part about a date?
Have you ever fantasized about something you want to do together?
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Flirty Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Flirty questions are similar to romantic questions because of the underlying sexual intent—but they come off as more fun, lighthearted, and playful than romantic questions. Use them for some tongue-in-cheek fun.
Just remember to only ask sexual questions when nobody else can hear—they may make her feel uncomfortable when others are around. Confidentiality is key to her enjoying the fun, sexual side of flirting with you.
What kind of underwear are you wearing right now?
Are you trying to turn me on with that outfit?
Are you ready for tonight? (Suggestive of an activity)
Are you hitting on me? (Insist she is)
Are you going to behave yourself today?
What do you think should be your reward for behaving so well today?
If we weren’t in public, what would you do to me right now?
I think you need a punishment for [something she did], but what?
Does this outfit make me look hot right now?
What are you thinking about right now?
Questions to Learn About Her Past
Don’t be nosey or push topics you know are off-limits. But also, don’t be afraid to tackle big subjects.
Asking about your girl’s past can evoke nostalgia in her and make her happy. It can also have the opposite effect, though. So pay attention and steer the conversation away if you sense that you’ve touched on something she’s not ready to talk about.
Understanding your girlfriend’s past can be an important factor in creating a strong relationship.
What skill did you master when you were younger that you’ve forgotten since?
What was your nickname as a kid?
What’s your greatest accomplishment?
What’s the most difficult thing you’ve had to go through?
Have you ever been in a relationship when you weren’t in love?
Where did you grow up? Where’s the best place you’ve lived?
What was your most embarrassing moment?
Who was your crush as a kid?
What were you like in high school? In what way have you changed the most?
What was your favorite kid’s TV show?
Intimate Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
This is intimacy: the trading of stories in the dark.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
I can’t understate the importance of intimacy in a relationship.
While the physical side of intimacy often gets the most attention (and we all know why), emotional intimacy is truly the bedrock of any strong relationship.
Intimate questions are an excellent way for you to build a strong emotional connection with your girlfriend. Here are a few of our favorites:
What was your first thought when we met?
When did you realize that we’d make it as a couple?
What do you find most attractive about me?
What are the three things you’re most thankful for in life?
What’s been your favorite adventure of ours together?
What do you like most about us?
Do you have any unfulfilled fantasies?
Is there anything you want to say to me but you’ve felt you couldn’t?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve gotten this year?
Relationship Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Asking questions about the state of your relationship can keep problems from building up and turning into a larger issue (at least that’s the theory, anyway). If you talk about it before the problem builds, you can address it while it is still a minor issue.
Give your girlfriend an opportunity to share her emotions with you, be they positive or negative, and you will build a much stronger and more open relationship.
Here’s what we mean:
1. Is there something you feel our relationship is missing?
2. What was your first impression of me?
3. If you had to change one thing in our relationship what would it be?
4. Are you happy with me?
5. What is yourfavorite memory of our relationship?
6. Do you feel cared for and loved in our relationship?
7. Was there a moment when you knew you were in love?
8. Is there anything we could do together to strengthen our relationship?
9. What is the strongest part of our relationship?
10. Do you feel loved enough?
Love Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Love questions are deep and profound questions that help lay the groundwork for a long-term relationship with her. They have to come up in a relationship at some point—usually when you’ve both decided to get serious.
But, use these questions very carefully if you’ve never discussed love with her before. If you randomly blurt out that you love a girl when you’ve never discussed it, you might freak her out and your relationship could fold quickly.
Have you ever been in love?
What does love mean to you?
What does the idea of love make you think about?
Do you think there’s a difference between sex and love?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Has a guy ever told you they loved you?
How do you know when you’re in love?
How important is love in a relationship to you?
Why do you love me? (Only ask if she’s said it)
Have I ever told you that I love you? (Be careful!)
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend to Get Closer
If you’re looking to deepen the bond between you and your girlfriend, ask questions like these. They’ll help you connect and they’ll dissolve any resentment that may have formed between the two of you.
A quick tip: some girls like to open up and talk things out but some like to be alone when they’re upset. If you see that something is bothering her that’s unrelated to you and she says “nothing” (always a classic), push a little harder and see if she gives in to a chat. Most women will give in.
But if she says something like “I don’t want to talk right now, I just want to be alone”, don’t take it personally. Just assure her that you’re there for her if she feels like talking about it—then give her some space to work it out.
What are some of the most important things in your life right now?
Are you struggling with anything lately?
Is there anything bothering you that you want to talk about?
C’mon, what’s really bothering you? (If she says “nothing”)
Did I do anything recently that hurt your feelings?
You seem stressed. Is there something you need to talk about?
If something was wrong between us, would you tell me?
How was your day at work today?
Have you been happy with life lately?
How have you been feeling lately?
“What If” Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
What if questions are a fun way to get her imagination working. Here are five of our favorites:
What if you could relive one day in your life? Which would it be and why?
What if we only had one day left together? What would you want us to do?
What if you had the power to read my mind? Would you use it for good or evil?
What if you were offered $10 million dollars to break up with me? Would you take it? If not, is there an amount you would take?
What if we were stranded on a desert island together? How do you think we’d fare?
Important Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Use these questions to establish a sense of direction for your relationship.
It’s important both of you are on the same page, and if you’re not, that you’re at least prepared to talk things out.
These questions can help set goals for your relationship and help you understand what her most important goals are.
How do you see yourself in five years? What’s your job? Where do we live?
What’s something we should do together that we haven’t done before?
How important is having kids to you?
What are the top three things on your bucket list?
Do you have any experiences that have shaped how you view the future?
What is your ultimate goal?
Have you made any decisions that will shape the rest of your life?
Where do you want to retire?
What do you want in our relationship?
What most concerns you about the future?
Deep Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Another way to add depth to your relationship is to talk about deeper subjects. Existential questions are a great way to do this. These can make for heavy conversation, though, so you might want to ready yourself for it.
What’s the biggest problem in the world? How could we fix it?
Do you have any regrets in life?
If you could see into the future one time, what would you want to see?
What’s your deepest secret?
Who comforts you the most?
How do you want people to remember you?
Do you believe in extraterrestrial life?
Do you think long distance can work? How far is too far?
What would you give up to pursue your dreams?
If you could change one thing in history, what would it be?
Serious Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Serious questions are as significant as you could get with your girlfriend.
These aren’t questions to be taken lightly due to their sensitive nature. You have to be careful when you ask these because you could upset her by triggering a traumatic memory from her past.
On the positive side, if she’s open to discussing these topics with you, you’ll bond on a level that most people never get to in their lifetime.
Have you ever felt the need to harm yourself?
What memory has left the biggest impact on who you are?
Would you sacrifice your life for someone?
Has anything traumatic ever happened to you?
Have you ever had an addiction?
Have you ever had a near death encounter?
Have you ever used hard drugs?
What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?
How would you feel if something happened to me?
Have you ever been cheated on?
What are Good Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend Over Text?
Texting is a lot different than an in-person conversation. An important thing to remember when talking to any girl over text is that she won’t be able to hear your conversational tone.
This means that if you say something jokingly or something serious, it could be misinterpreted by her because your tone of voice isn’t detectable through your phone.
One tip for texting a girl is to use emojis to soften the tone of your words. If you add a wink face or a smiley face to a text, you can communicate playfulness and an overall positive tone.
So keep chats lighthearted over text and save the deep chats and questions for when you’re in person together.
If you need to have a serious talk, let her know and wait until you can see each other in person so you can properly work out the problem.
Some great text questions for light banter and chatting include:
How was your day?
What did you do today?
What are you up to?
What was your favorite part about today?
Did anything interesting happen at work today?
What are you wearing?
Are you excited to see me later?
Are you excited about tomorrow’s date?
Do not ask heavy, serious questions like these unless you’re in person with her:
Do you like spending time together?
How do you think our relationship is going so far?
What are your biggest fears and insecurities?
Have you ever been cheated on before?
Can we have a serious talk right now?
Conclusion
Strong relationships are built on a deep connection and understanding of each other’s goals and needs. The best way of gaining that understanding is through communication.
And some of your most comfortable and worthwhile chats can stem from a well-timed question. Try to avoid questions from this list, though.
So with all the questions set out here, you have plenty of ammunition now. Whether it’s to save, stabilize, or continue your relationship—it takes work.
Good luck. Be positive. Ask questions!
FAQs
How do you know what questions to ask your girlfriend?
Relationship experts recommend that couples ask and talk about everything from their day-to-day lives to their hopes and dreams for the future.
One of the most important things is, to be honest, and open with your partner and to make time for regular conversations.
It will help you build a strong foundation for your relationship and ensure that you’re always on the same page. It’s essential for building a strong, lasting relationship.
Some good topics to get you started can include:
– Childhood memories
– Recent dates you’ve been on together
– Thoughts on current events
– Favorite new books or movies
By communicating openly and honestly with each other, you’ll help strengthen the bond between the both of you.
What should I talk about with my girlfriend?
The two of you should feel comfortable discussing any topic, no matter how personal or taboo. You should talk to your girlfriend about anything and everything that’s on your mind.
She’s there to listen, support, and comfort you and vice-versa.
A strong and healthy relationship is based on communication and mutual trust. So don’t be afraid to open up to her and share your innermost thoughts and feelings.
If you’re not sure what to talk about, then try discussing some of the following topics:
– Your goals and aspirations
– Your favorite memories together
– Things that make you laugh
– Things you like or want to change about your relationship
Be sure to listen attentively to what she has to say as well and show interest in her passions and pursuits. By creating an open dialogue, you’ll create a foundation of trust that will strengthen your relationship for years to come.
Robert Mugabe junior, the son of former late president Robert Mugabe, has taken to social media to show off his super-model girlfriend Hillary Makaya.
The young South African-based model popularly known as Hillzy was one of the award winners in 2016 taking home with her seven awards at the Miss Teen Heritage World in 2016.
The two made their relationship public known last weekend on Instagram. The lovebirds went on to celebrate Robert’s 27th birthday of Robert Jnr.
Robert is currently studying architecture in South Africa. He is the late president’s second child after Bona and the third child is Chatunga.
Robert and Chatunga are inseparable and popularly known for their champagne lifestyle. In 2017, the brothers got their mother, Grace, in trouble, even sparking a diplomatic controversy when she walked in a “party” and allegedly beat a model, Gabriella Engels with an electrical cord upon finding her in the boys’ rented apartment in Sandton, South Africa.
Nigerian musician sensation Joeboy has for the first time showed off his beautiful girlfriend.
It appears the Banku Music signee has found himself a girlfriend a week after his boss Mr Eazi revealed he has changed his outlook with his photos after making a million dollars from streaming.
Joeboy took to his Twitter page to share photos of himself and his unidentified lady who we suspect is his girlfriend.
Joe Boy whilst posting the photos, captioned the †Apanto Peperenpe†and it brought about some reactions.
Of course, most of the female fans showed signs of heartbreak after seeing the photos of his girlfriend.
A beautiful young lady’s boyfriend has given her the surprise of her life as her man decided to make a money-stacked birthday cake for her.
In a viral video sighted by YEN.com.gh on social media, the young lady was at a birthday party with some of her friends.
Projecting from the cake was a large ring which appeared to bear the tag ‘happy birthday’. When it was time to eat the cake, she had to take out the ring. That was when her eyes started to pop as the ring was attached to a long chain of money.
She kept pulling and pulling and the money chain just kept extending and extending. The birthday girl could not keep calm as the shock of the money got into her.
The lady’s friends cheered her on with loud shouts as she kept pulling the money chain. It is rather interesting that even at the end of the video, the chain had not been exhausted.
The birthday girl was simply overwhelmed by the joy and could not keep pulling any longer.
According to Royal Majesty, whose consistent posts show she is a senior in the ‘slaying’ game, women become shy to ask for money from men they truly love and care about.
Her words strongly suggest that men should not be deceived by attempting to take girls who constantly ask for money from them as lovers.
