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Conversation starters that makes him enjoy your company

Embarking on ‘The Commitment Talk’ with your significant other can send shivers down your spine. Despite enjoying memorable moments together, a lingering uncertainty clouds the nature of your bond.

You’ve savored outings, grown intimately close, yet questions persist about the trajectory of your relationship. The fear looms large: what if your perception of the relationship diverges from your partner’s?

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The mere thought of broaching the topic, of mentioning the ominous “C” word, sends shivers down your spine. The fear of driving your partner away with a simple request for commitment haunts many, regardless of gender.

Avoiding the conversation becomes an all too common coping mechanism. Worries about exerting pressure, misinterpretation, or unwelcome revelations deter individuals from initiating discussions on commitment. Instead, they pore over casual remarks, scrutinize non-verbal cues, hoping to decipher unspoken desires. Yet, this reluctance often leads to misunderstandings and emotional turmoil.

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Assumptions about exclusivity and monogamy may prevail, yet without explicit agreements, ambiguity lingers. The absence of defined commitments raises the specter of inadvertently transgressing undefined boundaries.

Commitment transcends conventional milestones like cohabitation or marriage. It encompasses a mutual pledge, adaptable to the evolving stages of a relationship. Even within non-traditional arrangements, commitments can thrive, rooted in principles like honesty and fidelity.

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Revisiting commitments is pivotal as relationships evolve. Authentic introspection is key: What are your relationship aspirations? How do you envision the pace of progress? Identifying non-negotiables sets the stage for candid dialogue—areas where compromise is non-negotiable.

Initiating ‘The Commitment Talk’ necessitates courage and tact. Avoid phrases laden with pressure or ultimatums, opting instead for a tone of understanding and openness. Timing and setting are critical considerations, minimizing apprehension and fostering genuine dialogue.

Navigating the conversation requires finesse, employing phrases that invite collaboration rather than coercion:

“Are you willing to…?” encourages open discussion, fostering mutual understanding and alignment.

“Here’s how I’d like this to be…” communicates personal desires and expectations, paving the way for constructive dialogue.

“Do you agree to…?” addresses specific concerns, promoting clarity and mutual respect.

“What are you willing to commit to?” prompts reflection, facilitating mutual exploration of shared values and goals.

Approaching ‘The Commitment Talk’ with empathy and sincerity lays the groundwork for a stronger, more fulfilling relationship, built on shared understanding and mutual respect.

Use these 4 phrases to ask for the kind of commitment you want (but won’t scare him away):

“Are you willing to…?”

Make sure that your tone matches the intent of this question. Find out what he is (and isn’t) willing to commit to with you. If you feel yourself getting defensive or shutting down because of what he says, take a deep breath and really hear his words. You two might not be as far apart about commitment as you initially think. You won’t know unless you stay open and listen.

“Here’s how I’d like this to be…”

Let him know that you’re clear about your intentions. Talk specifically about your expectations of him and your behaviors, how you’d like to be as a couple, and what your possible next steps are with a phrase like this. Speak these words as a statement of what you want and not as a demand.

“Do you agree to…?”

This is a helpful question to ask for specific issues you want to address. For example, if you’re in a long-distance relationship and you are concerned that he is romantically chatting with others online or dating others, ask him to agree to date and be romantic or intimate only with you.

“What are you willing to commit to?”

This question can be useful if the two of you seem to be in different places when it comes to commitment.

If you know where you disagree, ask him this question to find out where what you each want might overlap. Remember, you don’t have to give up on what’s most important to you or just go along with whatever he says. His answers to this question will let you know whether or not what you both want is a match. Use this to decide whether you’ll be flexible about commitment or whether it’s time to move on.

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