Ghanaian playwright and motivational speaker Uncle Ebo Whyte recently urged men to rethink the idea of boasting about sexual conquests, suggesting that the common narrative of men “winning” in sexual encounters is misguided.
In an interview with Giovanni Caleb on TV3, he explained that women actually hold more power in such situations, challenging the notion that men come out on top.
“When a man sleeps with a woman, he tells his friends, ‘Oh, I finish am.’ But if you know who finished who, you will stop. You will not talk.
“In any sexual encounter, the winner is not the man; it’s the woman. The man, all you did was you gave your energy, you gave your reputation, you gave opportunities. You gave all kinds of things,” he said.
Uncle Ebo emphasized that men often sacrifice much more during these encounters, including their energy, reputation, and potential opportunities.
He advised men to maintain their dignity and recognize the risks that come with reckless behavior, warning that it can lead to a loss of respect and reputation.
“When you understand that there’s the need for you to respect yourself, then you understand that this thing can bring you down. It can make you lose your respect and reputation like nothing else. And so be careful,” he said.
He urged men to be wary of ‘easy’ chances, advising them to be cautious at all times.
“An older friend of mine told me this. When you go to the forest and you find a table laid, walk away because you don’t know why the table is there,” he said.
Offering a metaphor for caution, Uncle Ebo shared advice from an older friend “When you come across a table already set in the forest, it’s better to walk away, as you don’t know its purpose.”
His journey and insights, along with reflections from those he’s influenced, are featured in the GhanaWeb TV documentary “The Uncle Ebo Whyte Story: A Legacy of Inspiration & Creativity,” which highlights his path from personal struggles to becoming a source of inspiration for many.