Yomi Fabiyi, popularly known as Araba, has voiced his disapproval of domestic violence and any form of gender-based violence, considering it a “turn-off.”
In response to a viral video depicting a lawyer physically abusing his wife, Fabiyi recommended immediate separation from a man guilty of such acts.
In a social media statement, he emphasized that advising victims to separate from their assailants would be his first recommendation, particularly when the man is the perpetrator.
Fabiyi further shared that violence against women is a major deterrent for him, expressing that he has never encouraged women to forgive partners who have assaulted them.
He said, “As for me, it is only when you physically assault your partner, particularly a man beating a woman you lay with that I will suggest immediate separation.
“Beating your lover turns me off. I have never begged a woman whose husband or fiance beats to reconcile. It’s not my thing. I don’t fancy such men (even though most claim they got provoked). Hear me out. My reasons include:
“First, you don’t hurt what you love. Secondly, the easiest way to find yourself in body bags is through domestic violence with partners. Thirdly, if kids are involved, it will destroy them. It is a serious abuse.
“Only a small fraction of such children will grow not to believe violence, torture, etc, are means of solving issues. Fourth, even if you are not caught, your hands will be stained with blood, and you are a murderer if you fight/beat to death.”
Speaking further, he said that anytime a partner shows signs of provocation or violence, it is best to call the police right away in order to prevent outright violence.
The actor, who also serves as the convener of the non-governmental organization Break The Silence Foundation, which promotes the defense of fundamental human rights, offered advice on managing anger and emphasized that following the law is preferable to going to jail.
“I would rather prefer you involve the Police immediately if you think your wife or girlfriend exhibits traces of violence or provoking you to turn violent. Self-control is key. Anger is controllable. Just act lawfully before you become a criminal. Don’t give that partner the chance to provoke you so that you turn into a beast or woman beater.
“If you indulge in violence and think involving the police is extreme, the moment you start trying to defend yourself and things go south, then you will realise the police will involve you, prison will embrace you and the very people you are considering will turn their back on you.
“Violence will never produce love. Most lovers who make up after violence are hoodwinked, motivated, or controlled by something else but not love. Love, don’t stay where it is tolerated. Love, don’t grow where it hurts”, he said.
Rather than focusing on teaching their children the proper discipline, he held certain parents accountable for their excessive use of social media.
“Marriage is not for everybody. Only a few have gone through proper home training lately. Most parents are on social media than in the lives of their children and teenagers. These wards, too, are on several toxic and criminal blogs every minute they are awake.
“These blogs raise and mentor these kids. The percentage you invest in raising your child will be commensurate to how you benefit from the same child. Say no to domestic violence,” he submitted.
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